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Boys’ Secrets and Men’s Loves: A Memoir
Boys’ Secrets and Men’s Loves is the memoir of a law professor who has written over twenty books on the basic rights of American constitutionalism. He has been a prominent advocate of gay rights and feminism, which joins men and women in resistance. A gay man born into an Italian American family in New Jersey, he relates in this book his own experience on how the initiation of boys into patriarchy inflicts trauma, leading them to mindlessly accept patriarchal codes of masculinity, and how (through art, philosophy, and experience—including mutual love) he and others (straight and gay men) come to join women in resisting patriarchy through the discovery of how deeply it harms men as well as women.
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Published June 4, 2019
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December 4, 2019
I like this book because the author challenged the toxicity of patriarchal systems in society. The discussions are raw and thought-provoking. David A.J. Richards uses his real-life experience to show how dangerous the proponents of traditional patriarchy can be. The book covers a number of topics including Trump's presidency, feminism, misogyny, homophobia, love, and equality. The book sometimes doesn't read like a memoir as the author made some subjects feel like a class. It is a great book regardless and I'd encourage every liberal and objective person to read it.
July 22, 2021
Pure B.S. Political propaganda, filled with misinformation, and not a memoir. From the opening page the author is so distorted and biased you can’t believe a word he writes despite the hundreds of ridiculous footnotes.
This is really meant to be an anti-Trump argument using chapter-by-chapter examples of authors (and a couple filmmakers) that challenge patriarchy and promote homosexuality and feminism. Richards is laughably wrong about just about everything from the start, only choosing narrow examples that support his simplistic conclusions.
He tries to make arguments but doesn’t have basic definitions correct. Shame and guilt (which by the way can be good and we need more of today) are treated like ancient concepts. He doesn’t understand the proper use of the word democracy nor misogyny. Richards doesn’t even know what a quotation is, quoting his father using quotation marks, then writing that the actual words were the author’s but “the concept was” his dad’s! So he is making up “quotes.”
He also claims how much The Beatles influenced him in school from 1960 to 1962, when of course The Beatles' first American single hit was late 1962 and first album 1963. But what are minor details like proper quotes and facts to a propagandist?
There are a few paragraphs of autobiography, not much more. It's mostly his ranting using silly arguments from outdated authors, combined with anti-Trump stereotyping. It is also part anti-Christianity, anti-conservativism, and even anti-history, failing to properly represent what has happened in the past. Namely it's typical liberal intolerance while claiming to be accepting of all.
The book’s title and subtitle are incorrect. Almost no secrets and loves, and certainly nowhere near a memoir. If you can’t trust the title and the introductory page, take a clue that the rest of the book will also be filled with falsehoods and distortions. This book is a good example of everything that’s wrong with publishing, academia, liberalism, feminist theory, and gay politics.
This is really meant to be an anti-Trump argument using chapter-by-chapter examples of authors (and a couple filmmakers) that challenge patriarchy and promote homosexuality and feminism. Richards is laughably wrong about just about everything from the start, only choosing narrow examples that support his simplistic conclusions.
He tries to make arguments but doesn’t have basic definitions correct. Shame and guilt (which by the way can be good and we need more of today) are treated like ancient concepts. He doesn’t understand the proper use of the word democracy nor misogyny. Richards doesn’t even know what a quotation is, quoting his father using quotation marks, then writing that the actual words were the author’s but “the concept was” his dad’s! So he is making up “quotes.”
He also claims how much The Beatles influenced him in school from 1960 to 1962, when of course The Beatles' first American single hit was late 1962 and first album 1963. But what are minor details like proper quotes and facts to a propagandist?
There are a few paragraphs of autobiography, not much more. It's mostly his ranting using silly arguments from outdated authors, combined with anti-Trump stereotyping. It is also part anti-Christianity, anti-conservativism, and even anti-history, failing to properly represent what has happened in the past. Namely it's typical liberal intolerance while claiming to be accepting of all.
The book’s title and subtitle are incorrect. Almost no secrets and loves, and certainly nowhere near a memoir. If you can’t trust the title and the introductory page, take a clue that the rest of the book will also be filled with falsehoods and distortions. This book is a good example of everything that’s wrong with publishing, academia, liberalism, feminist theory, and gay politics.
February 12, 2020
While I found this book very dense, it was extremely useful and interesting.
There are two things the world may not realize: one, that homosexuality has been in existence since the beginning of time (with variations worldwide of how homosexuals are treated throughout history and by which culture), and two, that “being gay” (more of a political declaration someone once said) is not much more than a half-century old, David A.J Richards author of more than twenty books involving America addresses the latter struggle with great clarity and insight.
A few golden nuggets concerning this valiant struggle:
I think now that my mother’s conversation with me was my parents’ way of telling me that they and others thought I might be gay. In such a homophobic period, it was their way of saying and denying, a communication to a son they loved about the unspeakable. And denial in that period was as common as the hegemonic homophobia.
Dickens’s artistic voice arose from his own sense of giving voice to the trauma when, as a young man, he was apprenticed by his parents (his mother more insistently than his father) in a job the young boy detested as a humiliation of his gifts—a narrative brilliantly drawn upon in his most autobiographical novel, David Copperfield 221 (one of Freud’s favorite books 222)
The consequence in men is that the shaming of manhood becomes incendiary and can justify
violence against those who are perceived as the source of dishonor. In women, shaming leads to the silencing of voice, the very voices that might reasonably challenge the injustice of patriarchal demands. The consequence for both men and women—psychologically locked into patriarchal demands set by the terms of the gender binary and hierarchy—is impairment of their capacity to see, let alone repair the relationships that patriarchy breaks.
For anyone, old or young, struggling to understand the patriarchal codes of masculinity, Richards' book is required reading.
There are two things the world may not realize: one, that homosexuality has been in existence since the beginning of time (with variations worldwide of how homosexuals are treated throughout history and by which culture), and two, that “being gay” (more of a political declaration someone once said) is not much more than a half-century old, David A.J Richards author of more than twenty books involving America addresses the latter struggle with great clarity and insight.
A few golden nuggets concerning this valiant struggle:
I think now that my mother’s conversation with me was my parents’ way of telling me that they and others thought I might be gay. In such a homophobic period, it was their way of saying and denying, a communication to a son they loved about the unspeakable. And denial in that period was as common as the hegemonic homophobia.
Dickens’s artistic voice arose from his own sense of giving voice to the trauma when, as a young man, he was apprenticed by his parents (his mother more insistently than his father) in a job the young boy detested as a humiliation of his gifts—a narrative brilliantly drawn upon in his most autobiographical novel, David Copperfield 221 (one of Freud’s favorite books 222)
The consequence in men is that the shaming of manhood becomes incendiary and can justify
violence against those who are perceived as the source of dishonor. In women, shaming leads to the silencing of voice, the very voices that might reasonably challenge the injustice of patriarchal demands. The consequence for both men and women—psychologically locked into patriarchal demands set by the terms of the gender binary and hierarchy—is impairment of their capacity to see, let alone repair the relationships that patriarchy breaks.
For anyone, old or young, struggling to understand the patriarchal codes of masculinity, Richards' book is required reading.
January 21, 2022
This is a powerful, moving memoir that shines a light on the history of patriarchy and its impact on gay men, boys, women, and girls. Although the focus of this memoir is a personal story of a gay law professor, it’s also an education on how a male-dominated society has affected principal and influential forces in our world, from culture to literature, art, family relations, psychology, and much more. Besides being a compelling life story, it stands as a support system and resource for gay rights and feminism.
You’re drawn into the book as the author tells you about his humble beginnings. Part of an Italian American family, he’s a gay boy growing up in New Jersey, which comes with a lot of preconceived ideas and expectations. Through his personal experiences and observations, you will read first-hand how males were initiated into traditional boyhood, where what it means to be a boy and a man has already been established. And how if you don’t fit in—if you’re seen as different—trauma follows, as does violence, shame, and guilt. Richards relates stories that are sometimes painful, but honest, and these are stories most people can understand if they approach with an open mind and heart. It may be surprising to learn how men, both gay and straight, align with women when it comes to objecting to patriarchy, because this male-driven society can adversely affect men, too.
One of the most interesting aspects to me was his examination of gay and straight authors, from Shakespeare to Faulkner. Many lessons can be learned from gay and straight artists, whether from literature, cinema, music or dance. Richards shows that sometimes it takes powerful examples of the “familiar” to bring your attention to important truths. One of the strongest areas of the book, and there are many, is the author’s personal tale of how he had to deny who he was growing up and live the secret life of a homosexual. I love the kaleidoscope of themes discussed here—from identity to masculinity, advocacy to freedom. Even though the book is filled with heavy content, it also has a ring of hope and positivity. If you’re looking for a well-researched study on the effects of patriarchy, “Boys’ Secrets and Men’s Loves” should be at the very top of your reading list.
You’re drawn into the book as the author tells you about his humble beginnings. Part of an Italian American family, he’s a gay boy growing up in New Jersey, which comes with a lot of preconceived ideas and expectations. Through his personal experiences and observations, you will read first-hand how males were initiated into traditional boyhood, where what it means to be a boy and a man has already been established. And how if you don’t fit in—if you’re seen as different—trauma follows, as does violence, shame, and guilt. Richards relates stories that are sometimes painful, but honest, and these are stories most people can understand if they approach with an open mind and heart. It may be surprising to learn how men, both gay and straight, align with women when it comes to objecting to patriarchy, because this male-driven society can adversely affect men, too.
One of the most interesting aspects to me was his examination of gay and straight authors, from Shakespeare to Faulkner. Many lessons can be learned from gay and straight artists, whether from literature, cinema, music or dance. Richards shows that sometimes it takes powerful examples of the “familiar” to bring your attention to important truths. One of the strongest areas of the book, and there are many, is the author’s personal tale of how he had to deny who he was growing up and live the secret life of a homosexual. I love the kaleidoscope of themes discussed here—from identity to masculinity, advocacy to freedom. Even though the book is filled with heavy content, it also has a ring of hope and positivity. If you’re looking for a well-researched study on the effects of patriarchy, “Boys’ Secrets and Men’s Loves” should be at the very top of your reading list.
March 24, 2022
Boys’ Secrets and Men’s Loves: A Memoir by David A.J. Richards is a personal life account revolving around the secret self and individual awareness of both straight and gay men. In this memoir, Richards takes a thoughtful approach to discover the psychology behind the patriarchy and traumas that shape men. He explains why they have become hidden and how they can be brought to light.
Richards combats the oppressiveness of traditional patriarchy and how it silences young men from questioning and straying from the mainstream status quo. He challenges how and why men act the way they do and points to societal pressure and the dismissal of the vulnerability of men. In discovering his sense of self, Richards expresses disdain and disgust for the length of how things have been and offers insight into how things can change. Addressed are various components of trauma revolving around the body, mind, sexuality, political opinions, and experiences of love and empathy. This book sheds light on guilt, shame, voice, injustice, abuse, democracy, resistance, and the complex American idea of masculinity.
I thought that the arguments were well thought out and portrayed. It was eye-opening and fascinating to see the plights that men encounter daily and throughout their lifetimes, particularly in their formative years of young adulthood. The commentary was easy to read, and I enjoyed how this was from a first-person point of view. The thoughts of one man over a variety of hot-button topics and issues that are not often addressed were crafted insightfully and tenderly to bring about real change.
Boys’ Secrets and Men’s Loves: A Memoir is recommended for anyone looking to expand their mindset on the ideas of traditional masculinity. This compelling personal story gives readers a unique look at these topics from the view of personal experience and the view of an educator of law.
Richards combats the oppressiveness of traditional patriarchy and how it silences young men from questioning and straying from the mainstream status quo. He challenges how and why men act the way they do and points to societal pressure and the dismissal of the vulnerability of men. In discovering his sense of self, Richards expresses disdain and disgust for the length of how things have been and offers insight into how things can change. Addressed are various components of trauma revolving around the body, mind, sexuality, political opinions, and experiences of love and empathy. This book sheds light on guilt, shame, voice, injustice, abuse, democracy, resistance, and the complex American idea of masculinity.
I thought that the arguments were well thought out and portrayed. It was eye-opening and fascinating to see the plights that men encounter daily and throughout their lifetimes, particularly in their formative years of young adulthood. The commentary was easy to read, and I enjoyed how this was from a first-person point of view. The thoughts of one man over a variety of hot-button topics and issues that are not often addressed were crafted insightfully and tenderly to bring about real change.
Boys’ Secrets and Men’s Loves: A Memoir is recommended for anyone looking to expand their mindset on the ideas of traditional masculinity. This compelling personal story gives readers a unique look at these topics from the view of personal experience and the view of an educator of law.
February 14, 2020
"Shame over their secret self". What does this mean? In the book by David Richards, "Boys' Secret and Men's Love: A Memoir", he shares so much about the "trauma's" experienced by a lot of men! He shares a lot of concepts pertaining to the psychology of men, and how they have not been acknowledged and perceived correctly. The society and the rest of the world has created this stigma around who men should be, how they should act and the type of job they need to do to be considered "manly" and successful! However, underneath that premise is a man who is suffering because he has disassociated himself from the self he longed to share to his wife, his family and to the world!
In this book Richards is very truthful, raw and has very strong and intelligent opinions about MEN and how they need to be seen- in a different light, by us women and the society! These opinions and personal experiences shared by many (as documented on his book), will open our eyes and will make us see that this too is worthy of discussion and attention! Moreover, when we get to truly understand his points of view and how important they are, then MEN will become free, open and healthy (mind, body and spirit)!
Are you ready to open your mind to a new realm of understanding and intellect? If you are, and if you believe that this book is something that also speaks to you, or even not, you should get a copy! Reading enriches us, and how awesome would it be if we start by acknowledging some great points written by a successful man, writing as a man, and sharing for most MEN! Simply brilliant! Cheers!
In this book Richards is very truthful, raw and has very strong and intelligent opinions about MEN and how they need to be seen- in a different light, by us women and the society! These opinions and personal experiences shared by many (as documented on his book), will open our eyes and will make us see that this too is worthy of discussion and attention! Moreover, when we get to truly understand his points of view and how important they are, then MEN will become free, open and healthy (mind, body and spirit)!
Are you ready to open your mind to a new realm of understanding and intellect? If you are, and if you believe that this book is something that also speaks to you, or even not, you should get a copy! Reading enriches us, and how awesome would it be if we start by acknowledging some great points written by a successful man, writing as a man, and sharing for most MEN! Simply brilliant! Cheers!
February 22, 2020
Knowledge is power, and on this book Richards is empowering us! In this book Richards hopes for a better world for the future of America and thus the creation of his MANIFESTO!
This has been the most amazing, thought provoking and enriching piece of information I have ever read! I think that it will change us, the society and the rest of the world!
We will never get to accomplish anything in life until we have the courage to share it and in this case Richards is writing about it to elicit change. His topic is of great relevance and has always been the most significant topic in America. I remember, Justin Baldoni, even spoke about it over Ted Talk. He shared that men are always placed in a box. Men are always seen as the stronger sex and that may somehow be true at times, however they are also capable of showing sensitivity, and they actually long to show their sensitivity. However, because of the ideals we have set upon them, this is stripped away from them, leaving our men hurt and oppressed. Should this topic free America? Well, that is Richards' vision and you have got to read more about it to understand it better.
I'm encouraging everyone to get their copy and share it to the men in their life! You will get to realize so many amazing things we had hoped for to change in the stigma we have shaped men to be in! The voice of America needs change, and it's high time that we include men!
Cheers!
This has been the most amazing, thought provoking and enriching piece of information I have ever read! I think that it will change us, the society and the rest of the world!
We will never get to accomplish anything in life until we have the courage to share it and in this case Richards is writing about it to elicit change. His topic is of great relevance and has always been the most significant topic in America. I remember, Justin Baldoni, even spoke about it over Ted Talk. He shared that men are always placed in a box. Men are always seen as the stronger sex and that may somehow be true at times, however they are also capable of showing sensitivity, and they actually long to show their sensitivity. However, because of the ideals we have set upon them, this is stripped away from them, leaving our men hurt and oppressed. Should this topic free America? Well, that is Richards' vision and you have got to read more about it to understand it better.
I'm encouraging everyone to get their copy and share it to the men in their life! You will get to realize so many amazing things we had hoped for to change in the stigma we have shaped men to be in! The voice of America needs change, and it's high time that we include men!
Cheers!
February 14, 2020
It is disturbing and yet surprising to know that some men are changing their self-overtime and re-discovering themselves only later on in their lives because of the trauma around "patriarchal ideals". This part shared by Richards from his book: "Boys' Secret and Men's Love: A Memoir", is something that I considered to be the most alarming: "Dickens (a straight man and victim of shame-filled child abuse) and Henry James (very much a closeted gay man) spoke to me at sixteen to eighteen, Santayana (a less closeted gay man) only later at Harvard College, James Baldwin (black and gay) and James Gilligan (straight) later still, and Philip Roth (straight) only recently".
This information made me realize that there are probably too many men, straight and gay, suffering from this premise, yet we have not considered them and we have not even been sympathetic of them. Instead we had pushed them to "man up" instead of to speak out!
This book to me means awareness and also something that we should be changing in how we associate with men and the men in our lives. We never know the impact that we have to others, not only to men suffering from this trauma. However, we should also be thoughtful of the fact that all of us are "hiding from a self" that needs to be exposed or we die not being able to live freely!
Thank you for such awakened ideals!
This information made me realize that there are probably too many men, straight and gay, suffering from this premise, yet we have not considered them and we have not even been sympathetic of them. Instead we had pushed them to "man up" instead of to speak out!
This book to me means awareness and also something that we should be changing in how we associate with men and the men in our lives. We never know the impact that we have to others, not only to men suffering from this trauma. However, we should also be thoughtful of the fact that all of us are "hiding from a self" that needs to be exposed or we die not being able to live freely!
Thank you for such awakened ideals!
February 14, 2020
Cheers to one of the most brilliant and moving memoir and manifesto ever written! When you begin to read this book by Richards, it will change you and it will educate you towards the injustices men face in the premise of "patriarchy". Here's one of the points I believe to be the most thought provoking:
"Patriarchy so divides men from one another as well as men from women that we cannot see what we share. No such division remains more powerful than gay vs. straight. My argument shows the boundary is unreal and that men, gay and straight, share a common trauma—the trauma of manhood—and have so much to learn from and share with one another."
This point above shows that it is not only gay men who feel traumatized with being regarded to as "feminine", but there are also straight men who feels this way. It is also good to know that this is not only a product of his opinion, but rather a similar experience shared by some of his friends, artists and even celebrities. This "people" also want us to understand that the pressure and trauma needs to be changed and we need to address this issue with seriousness.
In truth, I never fully understood the depths of the "patriarchy" movement, however this book has made me realize their story and what we need to do to support them. Let us not destroy men, but rather build and rebuild them!
"Patriarchy so divides men from one another as well as men from women that we cannot see what we share. No such division remains more powerful than gay vs. straight. My argument shows the boundary is unreal and that men, gay and straight, share a common trauma—the trauma of manhood—and have so much to learn from and share with one another."
This point above shows that it is not only gay men who feel traumatized with being regarded to as "feminine", but there are also straight men who feels this way. It is also good to know that this is not only a product of his opinion, but rather a similar experience shared by some of his friends, artists and even celebrities. This "people" also want us to understand that the pressure and trauma needs to be changed and we need to address this issue with seriousness.
In truth, I never fully understood the depths of the "patriarchy" movement, however this book has made me realize their story and what we need to do to support them. Let us not destroy men, but rather build and rebuild them!
February 19, 2020
Are you an advocate to supporting the cause of America to be great? Do you believe that the cause which will bring a movement of acceptance and a better life for Americans is to become a DEMOCRATIC COUNTRY? If you do, you have to check out Richard's Book: "Boys' Secret and Men's Love: A Memoir"!
Richards' supports the movement of a liberal party because he sees the harm that it is set upon to most people. He is seeing this as a link towards oppression and violence. He also states that the American government is centered upon a patriarchal structure which unconsciously destroys the society and it's people. On this book he talks about the pain and the injustices gay and straight men face, and he lays it out together with some facts supported by historical datas and also facts around discussions with significant people in America. If you read this manuscript, you will be able to learn a lot of issues that might be worthy of serious consideration! You will also become enriched and surprised at the many things most people, especially MEN face to be able to keep up with the expectations of the patriarchal structure.
I am grateful to have read this piece by Richards! I believe he has so much to share and so much to offer. I highly encourage everyone to read it and see its value! The knowledge he shared is worthy of your time and attention. Check it out!
Richards' supports the movement of a liberal party because he sees the harm that it is set upon to most people. He is seeing this as a link towards oppression and violence. He also states that the American government is centered upon a patriarchal structure which unconsciously destroys the society and it's people. On this book he talks about the pain and the injustices gay and straight men face, and he lays it out together with some facts supported by historical datas and also facts around discussions with significant people in America. If you read this manuscript, you will be able to learn a lot of issues that might be worthy of serious consideration! You will also become enriched and surprised at the many things most people, especially MEN face to be able to keep up with the expectations of the patriarchal structure.
I am grateful to have read this piece by Richards! I believe he has so much to share and so much to offer. I highly encourage everyone to read it and see its value! The knowledge he shared is worthy of your time and attention. Check it out!
February 21, 2020
What is your stand about homophobia and homosexuality? Do you think that homophobia is harmful to homosexuality? Or do you believe that homosexuality should not be accepted in America? When I read this book by David Richards: "Boys' Secret and Men's Love: A Memoir", I learned so many things about these issues and I realized so many insights I did not even have the chance of realizing until now. Its premise lies around the harmful impact of the "patriarchal structure" infused in our culture! It was shocking and eye opener for me. Due to its intensity I developed a deeper compassion for men, and sincerely hope the best for them. It also made me rethink about my stand of the government system of America.
This book will make you become a knowledgeable, well rounded and an educated reader. Moreover it will also make you rethink the issues of the country and see yourself possibly contributing to the betterment of it. David is a great influencer! He takes a great stand and careful consideration of what he wants to happen for America. And when you read his points and ideals, you will realize that he has a very good reason for it. He hopes for a peaceful and a more justified form of system, that will make everyone happy and live the life they long to create for themselves. A must read!
This book will make you become a knowledgeable, well rounded and an educated reader. Moreover it will also make you rethink the issues of the country and see yourself possibly contributing to the betterment of it. David is a great influencer! He takes a great stand and careful consideration of what he wants to happen for America. And when you read his points and ideals, you will realize that he has a very good reason for it. He hopes for a peaceful and a more justified form of system, that will make everyone happy and live the life they long to create for themselves. A must read!
February 21, 2020
Read this book by Richards and be blown away by its profundity, essence and power!
Here's one of the best discussions he shared which I feel to be the most thought provoking:
"The "Secret Self" of Men- the shame they hide from the initiation's to patriarchy".
Do you believe men has a secret self they hide from society? Do you believe that men are actually feeling oppressed rather than empowered? Do you think that the real essence of manhood is actually around being open and being free? In my own opinion, I have selected this insight from Richards as the most impacting because I see it as the most real for me. I have been in several relationships with men, and their hopes to build a good life has always been their dream! A good life for them means a nice car, a great job and having a family with good fortune. Failing around this area means death to them and a blow to their ego. And so, it got me interested to read more, and then I was able to recognize its truth. I sincerely hope that the system that men fall under will be that of a better standard of living for them and not the dream that most people envision for them.
There is a lot of truth that Richards shares in his book, and it is definitely a great book that everyone should be aware of!
Take a chance to see its power and read it with careful consideration. Hope it makes the best out of you!
Here's one of the best discussions he shared which I feel to be the most thought provoking:
"The "Secret Self" of Men- the shame they hide from the initiation's to patriarchy".
Do you believe men has a secret self they hide from society? Do you believe that men are actually feeling oppressed rather than empowered? Do you think that the real essence of manhood is actually around being open and being free? In my own opinion, I have selected this insight from Richards as the most impacting because I see it as the most real for me. I have been in several relationships with men, and their hopes to build a good life has always been their dream! A good life for them means a nice car, a great job and having a family with good fortune. Failing around this area means death to them and a blow to their ego. And so, it got me interested to read more, and then I was able to recognize its truth. I sincerely hope that the system that men fall under will be that of a better standard of living for them and not the dream that most people envision for them.
There is a lot of truth that Richards shares in his book, and it is definitely a great book that everyone should be aware of!
Take a chance to see its power and read it with careful consideration. Hope it makes the best out of you!
February 3, 2020
Every page is jam-packed with information and provocative thought. This is a book to read slowly, correlating its offerings with everyday life during the process. It is life-changing.
A pioneering work properly understood as a literature review and an effort to establish a foundation for the emerging field of "gender, psychology, and other related studies." In that objective it is a qualified success.
The challenges facing modern men (straight and gay) and the prescriptions of where we go from here is well-explain. Most of the discussion turns to pop culture for reference - fair enough, but the discussion is enriched through a more sociological or anthropological approach dealing with the lives of real people. He's at his best in discussing in the Abuse of Children as the Key to Resisting Injustice.
However, I confess I have a hard time as a modern pro-feminist man differentiating those qualities that make a man, despite the obvious physical differences. And I'm not sure that's a bad thing, but I would welcome a richer discussion on it.
I've read much of his recent books, and it's on point - still the pre-eminent thinker on masculinity today. This is a good starting point.
A pioneering work properly understood as a literature review and an effort to establish a foundation for the emerging field of "gender, psychology, and other related studies." In that objective it is a qualified success.
The challenges facing modern men (straight and gay) and the prescriptions of where we go from here is well-explain. Most of the discussion turns to pop culture for reference - fair enough, but the discussion is enriched through a more sociological or anthropological approach dealing with the lives of real people. He's at his best in discussing in the Abuse of Children as the Key to Resisting Injustice.
However, I confess I have a hard time as a modern pro-feminist man differentiating those qualities that make a man, despite the obvious physical differences. And I'm not sure that's a bad thing, but I would welcome a richer discussion on it.
I've read much of his recent books, and it's on point - still the pre-eminent thinker on masculinity today. This is a good starting point.
February 12, 2020
Very impressive. Best book on patriarchy I've come across.
Intelligent.
To say that patriarchy has proved remarkably adaptable is not to argue that there have been no significant successes in challenging it. Patriarchy would not need to constantly adapt if those anti-patriarchal successes had not been achieved. The forcing of men by women to accept their casting ballots on equal terms, in countries as different as Sweden, South Africa and Brazil, has compelled patriarchal men and women to find new ways to ensure the privileging of masculinity in governance. Similarly, women in countries as disparate as Samoa, Turkey and Britain who have managed to drag the practice of wife-beating out of the domestic shadows, and compel reluctant governments to treat it as a crime, have motivated patriarchy’s adherents to craft new strategies for intimidating women.
This combination of feminists’ achievements and patriarchy’s adaptability has required women’s movements all over the world to keep reinventing themselves. To grapple with an adaptable patriarchy takes time, energy, and ever more diverse alliances. Patriarchy’s beneficiaries count on us getting tired. (Enloe)
I hope many people will read this, preferably men.
Intelligent.
To say that patriarchy has proved remarkably adaptable is not to argue that there have been no significant successes in challenging it. Patriarchy would not need to constantly adapt if those anti-patriarchal successes had not been achieved. The forcing of men by women to accept their casting ballots on equal terms, in countries as different as Sweden, South Africa and Brazil, has compelled patriarchal men and women to find new ways to ensure the privileging of masculinity in governance. Similarly, women in countries as disparate as Samoa, Turkey and Britain who have managed to drag the practice of wife-beating out of the domestic shadows, and compel reluctant governments to treat it as a crime, have motivated patriarchy’s adherents to craft new strategies for intimidating women.
This combination of feminists’ achievements and patriarchy’s adaptability has required women’s movements all over the world to keep reinventing themselves. To grapple with an adaptable patriarchy takes time, energy, and ever more diverse alliances. Patriarchy’s beneficiaries count on us getting tired. (Enloe)
I hope many people will read this, preferably men.
February 19, 2020
How can we become better human beings? Sometimes becoming great comes from the will to change a certain behavior, and sometimes becoming great starts from exposing yourself to a lot of concepts and ideas that will influence you to be better.
This book by Richards' teaches you to be more understanding of the many ways patriarchy is harming men, straight and gay. It will teach you to develop more compassion for them and then it will make you more knowledgeable of the concept that builds from it. What that means is that the psychological aspect of it, political and personal, is something we need to know more of too. And when we do, we will be able to manage our own emotions, other people's emotions and then we can get out of that stigma that our culture has shaped us. It is always there for a good idea to choose from what our soul is telling us, and not from the influence of others and the system enforced within us.
It is high time to be free! Freedom does take a lot of responsibility and work, and so Richards took that responsibility to share his work to people in the hopes that we can become the democratic country we so long to be. God Bless America! And God Bless Richards for an outstanding revelation!
Cheers!
This book by Richards' teaches you to be more understanding of the many ways patriarchy is harming men, straight and gay. It will teach you to develop more compassion for them and then it will make you more knowledgeable of the concept that builds from it. What that means is that the psychological aspect of it, political and personal, is something we need to know more of too. And when we do, we will be able to manage our own emotions, other people's emotions and then we can get out of that stigma that our culture has shaped us. It is always there for a good idea to choose from what our soul is telling us, and not from the influence of others and the system enforced within us.
It is high time to be free! Freedom does take a lot of responsibility and work, and so Richards took that responsibility to share his work to people in the hopes that we can become the democratic country we so long to be. God Bless America! And God Bless Richards for an outstanding revelation!
Cheers!
February 21, 2020
What is your stand towards a great life and your opinion about homosexuality, homophobia and masculinity? Do you accept this, or do you think it is harmful to most people? When you read the book by David Richards: "Boys' Secret and Men's Love: A Memoir", you will get to understand more about this topic. You will then be able to see its impact on people- men to be specific and then to WOMEN as well! If you are a woman, you will see this as shocking and valuable. If you are a man, you can possibly connect to his ideals, and if you are a gay man, you might also be a supporter of his cause.
So, what does Richard long for with his literary piece? I believe it is to first educate us, which he did very well with me. Second is for us to think of what we value the most for most in our lives, and lastly is that what do you really stand for? Do you want to build a better American system that frees people, or do you want a system that has a set of rules that potentially harms men and the rest of the citizens of America? Do you share the same opinion or not? Regardless of your answer, it is still a book worthy to be read and understood. The knowledge you will gain is powerful! Check it out!
So, what does Richard long for with his literary piece? I believe it is to first educate us, which he did very well with me. Second is for us to think of what we value the most for most in our lives, and lastly is that what do you really stand for? Do you want to build a better American system that frees people, or do you want a system that has a set of rules that potentially harms men and the rest of the citizens of America? Do you share the same opinion or not? Regardless of your answer, it is still a book worthy to be read and understood. The knowledge you will gain is powerful! Check it out!
February 5, 2020
This is a must read. Beautiful and moving, bell hooks takes the reader inside his personal struggle for growth and love.
Boy's Secret and Men's Love is full of details, including the results of studies and true stories. David A.J Richards delicately balances the statistics with reality, getting his readers all fired up. Then he lays out the details of how to take that information and use it for change.
For example pick the topic area that matters most to you: Charles Dickens on the Abuse of Children as the Key to Resisting Injustice, Henry James on American Patriarchy and Resistance, James on Resistance: The Bostonians, Philip Roth on Traumatic American Manhood and Paths to Resistance. In that chapter, Richards layout the details on their insights and experience in this section.
David A.J Richards writing style takes heavily researched topics and makes them approachable. The footnoted content is transformed from dry statistics with many stories of men’s own experiences. Boy's Secret and Men's Love isn’t preachy. Instead, after reading it I’m excited to do more to impact my world.
Boy's Secret and Men's Love is full of details, including the results of studies and true stories. David A.J Richards delicately balances the statistics with reality, getting his readers all fired up. Then he lays out the details of how to take that information and use it for change.
For example pick the topic area that matters most to you: Charles Dickens on the Abuse of Children as the Key to Resisting Injustice, Henry James on American Patriarchy and Resistance, James on Resistance: The Bostonians, Philip Roth on Traumatic American Manhood and Paths to Resistance. In that chapter, Richards layout the details on their insights and experience in this section.
David A.J Richards writing style takes heavily researched topics and makes them approachable. The footnoted content is transformed from dry statistics with many stories of men’s own experiences. Boy's Secret and Men's Love isn’t preachy. Instead, after reading it I’m excited to do more to impact my world.
February 14, 2020
What is "American patriarchy"? How did Richards expose his opinion? How did he relate it to his book: "Boys' Secret and Men's Love: A Memoir".
Richards’s opinion is mind blowing! If you see the title of his book, you might have varying opinions about what he wants to share about men, however, this is actually more than just a book for men. He shared some points too about the "American patriarchy" also affecting women. In his introduction he shared about the American anthropologist Benedict who was unhappy with her "patriarchal marriage". And then he shares more of her experience through which she explored lesbianism as "the result of shame living up to the cultural ideals of competence as a man or a woman". How intense and significant this is to today's world? We then begin to realize that our culture is harming everyone! Our society is beginning to come out psychologically destroyed because of the ideals we put on them and ourselves! In this book, Richards longs to change that and he wants all of us to understand the impact that the American culture has. Are we ready for this change? That is what this brilliant book wants to address!
Richards’s opinion is mind blowing! If you see the title of his book, you might have varying opinions about what he wants to share about men, however, this is actually more than just a book for men. He shared some points too about the "American patriarchy" also affecting women. In his introduction he shared about the American anthropologist Benedict who was unhappy with her "patriarchal marriage". And then he shares more of her experience through which she explored lesbianism as "the result of shame living up to the cultural ideals of competence as a man or a woman". How intense and significant this is to today's world? We then begin to realize that our culture is harming everyone! Our society is beginning to come out psychologically destroyed because of the ideals we put on them and ourselves! In this book, Richards longs to change that and he wants all of us to understand the impact that the American culture has. Are we ready for this change? That is what this brilliant book wants to address!
February 21, 2020
What are the love laws, and what is the meaning of love based on Richards' book from: "Boys' Secret and Men's Love: A Memoir"?
Richards' expresses love as justice! He points that out on his book because he feels that the expression of one's sexuality and oneself has been repressed! He believes that the "patriarchal system" that has been morbidly enforced to all of us has shunned our inner self to shine! He thinks that this expression of oneself is not only harming gay men, but even straight man and then women as well. He believes that there are certain scenarios that is centered towards patriarchy that shames us. He thinks that in equal partnerships and in developing authentic love with our partners it then becomes the only time that we feel justified! It is only then in our partners that we feel received and free! And, it is only in our love relationships where we don't feel oppressed and harmed. Sounds interesting? Yes it does! And then, as you go deeper into his thoughts, you will realize its truth and then possibly be able to rethink what you believe in yourself to be true as well.
Check this out and be blown away by his insights and profound knowledge!
Richards' expresses love as justice! He points that out on his book because he feels that the expression of one's sexuality and oneself has been repressed! He believes that the "patriarchal system" that has been morbidly enforced to all of us has shunned our inner self to shine! He thinks that this expression of oneself is not only harming gay men, but even straight man and then women as well. He believes that there are certain scenarios that is centered towards patriarchy that shames us. He thinks that in equal partnerships and in developing authentic love with our partners it then becomes the only time that we feel justified! It is only then in our partners that we feel received and free! And, it is only in our love relationships where we don't feel oppressed and harmed. Sounds interesting? Yes it does! And then, as you go deeper into his thoughts, you will realize its truth and then possibly be able to rethink what you believe in yourself to be true as well.
Check this out and be blown away by his insights and profound knowledge!
February 22, 2020
Why building a better America should comes from an awakened society and healed men? This and a lot more is what will be in stored for you when you read the book: "Boys' Secret and Men's Love: A Memoir".
Richards is a great writer, no doubt about that! His greatness is empowering and his greatness will change the American system! Richards in this book is supporting a greater cause! This cause is about people who will need to choose what's best for them. And Richards wants to impact men mostly. So, why does Richard believe that it is only in men that we can elicit greater change?
Men has been the most relevant people in this manifesto! They are the people who are not completely aware of the impact of patriarchy to their psyche! If they know a little bit more from it, they will be able to choose an option that truly speaks from what is inside of them, and not what is expected of them. So Richards, wrote on this book the hopes of influencing men. So that in his cause for movement, the voice of men can stand by Democracy as well!
That is the ultimate goal and with this goal comes the hopes of awakening them as well.
Richards is a great writer, no doubt about that! His greatness is empowering and his greatness will change the American system! Richards in this book is supporting a greater cause! This cause is about people who will need to choose what's best for them. And Richards wants to impact men mostly. So, why does Richard believe that it is only in men that we can elicit greater change?
Men has been the most relevant people in this manifesto! They are the people who are not completely aware of the impact of patriarchy to their psyche! If they know a little bit more from it, they will be able to choose an option that truly speaks from what is inside of them, and not what is expected of them. So Richards, wrote on this book the hopes of influencing men. So that in his cause for movement, the voice of men can stand by Democracy as well!
That is the ultimate goal and with this goal comes the hopes of awakening them as well.
February 5, 2020
I absolutely loved this book. It is an inspired and brilliant memoir.
This book consists of 11 chapters. (1)Melville and Hawthorne on Patriarchal Manhood and Homophobia (2)Shame and Guilt Cultures (3) Charles Dickens on the Abuse of Children as the Key to Resisting Injustice (4)Henry James on American Patriarchy and Resistance (5)George Santayana on Resisting Homophobia (6)James Baldwin on Gay Love and Resistance (7)Resistance and Creativity in the Work of James Joyce, Mark Twain, William Faulkner, and James Gilligan (8)Philip Roth on Traumatic American Manhood and Paths to Resistance (9)Masculinity and Resistance in the Movies of John Ford and Clint Eastwood (10)How Patriarchy Harms Men: Unjust Wars (11)Why Men Must Join Women in Resistance
The book is a series of talks and articles. The author does an incredible job of relating every fact to the general argument. I want to also comment on how there is an exceptional amount of information here. There is a chapter for everyone. This was an eye-opening, jaw-dropping read.
This book consists of 11 chapters. (1)Melville and Hawthorne on Patriarchal Manhood and Homophobia (2)Shame and Guilt Cultures (3) Charles Dickens on the Abuse of Children as the Key to Resisting Injustice (4)Henry James on American Patriarchy and Resistance (5)George Santayana on Resisting Homophobia (6)James Baldwin on Gay Love and Resistance (7)Resistance and Creativity in the Work of James Joyce, Mark Twain, William Faulkner, and James Gilligan (8)Philip Roth on Traumatic American Manhood and Paths to Resistance (9)Masculinity and Resistance in the Movies of John Ford and Clint Eastwood (10)How Patriarchy Harms Men: Unjust Wars (11)Why Men Must Join Women in Resistance
The book is a series of talks and articles. The author does an incredible job of relating every fact to the general argument. I want to also comment on how there is an exceptional amount of information here. There is a chapter for everyone. This was an eye-opening, jaw-dropping read.
February 7, 2020
Excellent. Thoughtful, provocative, sensitive. It's impossible to exaggerate the impact of this book on me.
You're trying to play a game designed by men. You'll never win, because the deck is stacked and marked, and also you've been blindfolded and set on fire. You can work hard and believe in yourself and be the smartest person in the room and you'll still get beat by the boys who haven't two cents to rub together. So if you can't win the game, you have to cheat. You operate outside the walls they've built to fence you in. You rob them in the dark, while they're drunk on spirits you offered them. Poison their waters and drink only wine. -Mackenzi Lee.
If you have even slight feminist beliefs, or if you are a man who wants your eyes opened, sensibilities shocked, this is the book. I read Bossypants, which I love, but David A.J Richards strong words were so inspiring to me, and just MADE SENSE. I might not have agreed with everything, but I was certainly amused and learn the whole time. Definitely an autobiography worth reading.
You're trying to play a game designed by men. You'll never win, because the deck is stacked and marked, and also you've been blindfolded and set on fire. You can work hard and believe in yourself and be the smartest person in the room and you'll still get beat by the boys who haven't two cents to rub together. So if you can't win the game, you have to cheat. You operate outside the walls they've built to fence you in. You rob them in the dark, while they're drunk on spirits you offered them. Poison their waters and drink only wine. -Mackenzi Lee.
If you have even slight feminist beliefs, or if you are a man who wants your eyes opened, sensibilities shocked, this is the book. I read Bossypants, which I love, but David A.J Richards strong words were so inspiring to me, and just MADE SENSE. I might not have agreed with everything, but I was certainly amused and learn the whole time. Definitely an autobiography worth reading.
February 11, 2020
A really good read which explores these issues in a clear and lively way.
This is the most important nonfiction book I have read this year—maybe over the past several years. It has taught me about a political movement that has brought about justice for people who just want to love and have families. It has given me hope that everyday people can effect change in large, seemingly unmovable institutions. It has shown me that our government has many flaws, but we the people can help rectify that. I have so much respect for the history of the LGBT people and the activists that worked tirelessly to make the United States a better place. I am so glad that history gives us the chance to understand our past so that we can make our future better. We need to educate ourselves and educate others so that we can make our homes and communities loving and accepting places. I realize that the fight to make the United States a welcoming, loving place is not over. We have so much work to do, and we must never become complacent.
This is the most important nonfiction book I have read this year—maybe over the past several years. It has taught me about a political movement that has brought about justice for people who just want to love and have families. It has given me hope that everyday people can effect change in large, seemingly unmovable institutions. It has shown me that our government has many flaws, but we the people can help rectify that. I have so much respect for the history of the LGBT people and the activists that worked tirelessly to make the United States a better place. I am so glad that history gives us the chance to understand our past so that we can make our future better. We need to educate ourselves and educate others so that we can make our homes and communities loving and accepting places. I realize that the fight to make the United States a welcoming, loving place is not over. We have so much work to do, and we must never become complacent.
February 12, 2020
This book is something special! I’ve never read anything like it. I can’t recommend this enough! It’s truly one of those books that can change your mindset. Change how you think. It’s remarkable.
This book isn't a queer tragedy, but the truth of it is that there is pain to growing into these identities, both internal and external, and beating back against the stories we expect to hear of men (gay and straight) and earning your place in the binary through years of abuse, Richards puts forth a memoir that is able to recount an imperfect journey without focusing only on the hurt. I absolutely loved this book and think that everyone should read it, but ESPECIALLY people whose only understanding of manhood people is coming from stories where men have had awful lives, find themselves, and re-integrate into the gender binary to become Just Like You! Those narratives are valuable, but this book is a breath of fresh air and a great look into a part of the queer community whose voice is often unheard.
This book isn't a queer tragedy, but the truth of it is that there is pain to growing into these identities, both internal and external, and beating back against the stories we expect to hear of men (gay and straight) and earning your place in the binary through years of abuse, Richards puts forth a memoir that is able to recount an imperfect journey without focusing only on the hurt. I absolutely loved this book and think that everyone should read it, but ESPECIALLY people whose only understanding of manhood people is coming from stories where men have had awful lives, find themselves, and re-integrate into the gender binary to become Just Like You! Those narratives are valuable, but this book is a breath of fresh air and a great look into a part of the queer community whose voice is often unheard.
February 14, 2020
Why should we develop empathy and compassion towards men? Why should we feel any compassion for men when they are the stronger sex and that they are built to resist oppression? That is the standard way of thinking, but how will Richards' in his book: "Boys' Secret and Men's Love: A Memoir" change people's ideals?
Richards wrote a very powerful piece and platform! He longs to share broken pieces of himself so that all of men who shares the same experience will be healed and feel that they are not "alone". He longs to educate the masses and connects to people regarding his thoughts on male psychology, American patriarchy and political psychology. And so, the question is: "Is America ready for it"?
Richards is now 75 years old and the way he has lived his life as a gay man and a straight man in writing is inspiring and brilliant! Should one day people accept his premise, America and the world will change! The possibility of eradicating psychological damage to people will soon be addressed and then men, women and gay men will live a better life. A life of freedom and love!
Richards wrote a very powerful piece and platform! He longs to share broken pieces of himself so that all of men who shares the same experience will be healed and feel that they are not "alone". He longs to educate the masses and connects to people regarding his thoughts on male psychology, American patriarchy and political psychology. And so, the question is: "Is America ready for it"?
Richards is now 75 years old and the way he has lived his life as a gay man and a straight man in writing is inspiring and brilliant! Should one day people accept his premise, America and the world will change! The possibility of eradicating psychological damage to people will soon be addressed and then men, women and gay men will live a better life. A life of freedom and love!
February 19, 2020
I am fascinated and beyond grateful for the book that Richards wrote. He is a brilliant writer! He is also very knowledgeable and has a great cause he longs to achieve from his literature. I am not to start with gifted with the knowledge of politics, psychology and literary works of famous artists, however, when I immersed myself with his writing, I was then able to know more about these people and how the patriarchal ways has also greatly impacted them.
By reading this book, I have developed a deeper compassion for people, gay and straight men to be specific. I was not well aware of the deeper impacts men face, and so when I read this, it brought me to a better understanding of their personal issues and what I should do as a person and as a citizen of America.
It is indeed an eye opener for everyone! Richards cause will make the lives of others, himself, the society and the lives of most men live in peace with who they are and who they want to be. If you get a chance to read this book, do it now and envision a country that others can live in harmony!
By reading this book, I have developed a deeper compassion for people, gay and straight men to be specific. I was not well aware of the deeper impacts men face, and so when I read this, it brought me to a better understanding of their personal issues and what I should do as a person and as a citizen of America.
It is indeed an eye opener for everyone! Richards cause will make the lives of others, himself, the society and the lives of most men live in peace with who they are and who they want to be. If you get a chance to read this book, do it now and envision a country that others can live in harmony!
February 21, 2020
I love and admire Richards’s brilliant work! He is a genius writer!
In this book I learned so much and I want my insights to also touch the lives of others. In this book I learned:
The patriarchal oligarchy
Guilt and Culture Shame
The "secret self" that man hide from others
Why is love a considered to be a form of justice
The harmful impact of patriarchy to men and women
These are just some of the many things you will learn from this book! What I like the most is that it enriched me! It made me think of the gravity of his cause, and if the movement he so long to envision for America might be something I want for myself too.
I highly encourage for all American citizens first to read this book! My thoughts surround to the premise that if people get a chance to read his cause and understand it, it can help them decide what they want for themselves too! If people may not share his ideals, its okay because the things he share are already quite valuable anyway. Can't wait for you to read it!
Cheers to a fantastic piece!
In this book I learned so much and I want my insights to also touch the lives of others. In this book I learned:
The patriarchal oligarchy
Guilt and Culture Shame
The "secret self" that man hide from others
Why is love a considered to be a form of justice
The harmful impact of patriarchy to men and women
These are just some of the many things you will learn from this book! What I like the most is that it enriched me! It made me think of the gravity of his cause, and if the movement he so long to envision for America might be something I want for myself too.
I highly encourage for all American citizens first to read this book! My thoughts surround to the premise that if people get a chance to read his cause and understand it, it can help them decide what they want for themselves too! If people may not share his ideals, its okay because the things he share are already quite valuable anyway. Can't wait for you to read it!
Cheers to a fantastic piece!
February 24, 2020
Learn the psychology of people, men and politics! This book written by Richards will make your mind rich and your heart overwhelmed! Richards is a great writer, writing around the premise of change and holding on to love as the core of his values and ideals.
And so, why did Richards write about men? Richards, a gay man writing for men, wanted to reach out to them. Richards wanted men to understand that they are the people heavily impacted by the rigors of the patriarchal system. He wants them to see if this is valuable to them and by doing so, he can influence them to also march towards the movement of Democracy!
Richards and a lot of other people believe that a democratic form of government is where people would feel most empowered from. He also believes that if people, most especially men, are aware of the impact that the "patriarchal structure" has towards them, then they can get out of that premise and will hopefully choose a decision that is right for them.
Convinced yet? Go ahead and get your copy now and start building awareness for yourself!
And so, why did Richards write about men? Richards, a gay man writing for men, wanted to reach out to them. Richards wanted men to understand that they are the people heavily impacted by the rigors of the patriarchal system. He wants them to see if this is valuable to them and by doing so, he can influence them to also march towards the movement of Democracy!
Richards and a lot of other people believe that a democratic form of government is where people would feel most empowered from. He also believes that if people, most especially men, are aware of the impact that the "patriarchal structure" has towards them, then they can get out of that premise and will hopefully choose a decision that is right for them.
Convinced yet? Go ahead and get your copy now and start building awareness for yourself!
February 3, 2020
David A.J. Richards ripped himself open and bled this memoir. It was beautiful, and heart-breaking, and thought-provoking.
Here I am again plunging further out of my comfort zone with a memoir. Memoirs are not books that I've read often, mostly because I thought that they were inspired only by ego, but I admit, I was very wrong. A memoir, well written, opens up a door into a life that we quite possibly would never have understood or maybe never noticed. Memoirs give us insight into a multitude of cultures and lifestyles and teach us just as much as they tell. Sometimes, they teach us more in their honesty and I hope David A.J Richards continues writing and the story continues to be told.
Overall, I would highly recommend this book. Not just because it’s autobiography/biography, but because books like this need to be read in order to understand society as a whole. With education comes learning and acceptance and I applaud books like Richards.
Here I am again plunging further out of my comfort zone with a memoir. Memoirs are not books that I've read often, mostly because I thought that they were inspired only by ego, but I admit, I was very wrong. A memoir, well written, opens up a door into a life that we quite possibly would never have understood or maybe never noticed. Memoirs give us insight into a multitude of cultures and lifestyles and teach us just as much as they tell. Sometimes, they teach us more in their honesty and I hope David A.J Richards continues writing and the story continues to be told.
Overall, I would highly recommend this book. Not just because it’s autobiography/biography, but because books like this need to be read in order to understand society as a whole. With education comes learning and acceptance and I applaud books like Richards.
February 5, 2020
Beautifully written memoir.
As a pro-LGBTQ, I appreciate how this book talks about men and their experience during Donald Trump presidency and how they accept the patriarchal system surrounds America.
Boy's Secret and Men's Love is well-written book invites readers to learn about the barriers men face. It also provides the resources needed to take action through policy solutions and strategies.
I feel quite emotional thinking back over all the wonders this book has to offer. From James Baldwin opening piece about masculinity influences, which sets the tone for the rest of the work with this rousing speech:
The American ideal of masculinity. This ideal has created cowboys and Indians, good boys and bad guys, punks and studs, tough guys and softies, butch and faggot, black and white. It is an ideal so paralytically infantile that it is virtually forbidden—as an unpatriotic act—that the American boy evolve into the complexity of manhood.
I highly recommend it!
As a pro-LGBTQ, I appreciate how this book talks about men and their experience during Donald Trump presidency and how they accept the patriarchal system surrounds America.
Boy's Secret and Men's Love is well-written book invites readers to learn about the barriers men face. It also provides the resources needed to take action through policy solutions and strategies.
I feel quite emotional thinking back over all the wonders this book has to offer. From James Baldwin opening piece about masculinity influences, which sets the tone for the rest of the work with this rousing speech:
The American ideal of masculinity. This ideal has created cowboys and Indians, good boys and bad guys, punks and studs, tough guys and softies, butch and faggot, black and white. It is an ideal so paralytically infantile that it is virtually forbidden—as an unpatriotic act—that the American boy evolve into the complexity of manhood.
I highly recommend it!
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