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Past Present: How to Stop Making the Same Relationship Mistakes---and Start Building a Better Life
Past Present shows readers how to change destructive relationship patterns by identifying the root issues from their pasts and finding the source of healing for their unique stories.
No matter where we are in life, both our greatest joys and our deepest heartaches are linked to the people in our lives--family, friends, or coworkers. And each of us brings both beauty and brokenness into relationships. The origins of our beauty and our brokenness often can be traced to the patterns of relating we learned when we were young. We relate to others in ways that reflect the distorted messages we heard and internalized earlier in life. The good news is this: we don't have to remain stuck in these patterns. In Past Present, Scott Vaudrey equips us with tools and a strategy to
identify the messages we've internalized--both as children and as adults--from the influential people in our lives;
refute and repair the distorted messages that led to unhelpful patterns now holding us back; and
recognize the productive messages we've internalized and maximize the strengths they built into us along the way.
We can't undo yesterday. But we can do the rest of our lives better.
No matter where we are in life, both our greatest joys and our deepest heartaches are linked to the people in our lives--family, friends, or coworkers. And each of us brings both beauty and brokenness into relationships. The origins of our beauty and our brokenness often can be traced to the patterns of relating we learned when we were young. We relate to others in ways that reflect the distorted messages we heard and internalized earlier in life. The good news is this: we don't have to remain stuck in these patterns. In Past Present, Scott Vaudrey equips us with tools and a strategy to
identify the messages we've internalized--both as children and as adults--from the influential people in our lives;
refute and repair the distorted messages that led to unhelpful patterns now holding us back; and
recognize the productive messages we've internalized and maximize the strengths they built into us along the way.
We can't undo yesterday. But we can do the rest of our lives better.
256 pages, Paperback
Published July 28, 2020
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July 2, 2023
This book has some good tools for processing life and seeing connections between the past and current relational issues. His main concept is about Story and how we need to know our story and share our story with others which leads to healing.
I agree that sharing story can be helpful and I know this is an area in which I need to grow. Through reading this I was able to take some time and think about my own story so that was good.
My disappointment was that although I believe the author is a believer he does not touch on how God is our ultimate healer and without the Holy Spirit’s help in processing we could very easily simply relive pain. He had a lot of biblical truth without the Biblical citing to back him up.
I agree that sharing story can be helpful and I know this is an area in which I need to grow. Through reading this I was able to take some time and think about my own story so that was good.
My disappointment was that although I believe the author is a believer he does not touch on how God is our ultimate healer and without the Holy Spirit’s help in processing we could very easily simply relive pain. He had a lot of biblical truth without the Biblical citing to back him up.
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