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How to Be a Player
Dating apps like Tinder and Bumble have made finding someone to go on a date with as simple as ordering socks on Amazon, but besides the ease of finding a potential mate, the dating world, romance, and relationships in general remain just as baffling as before, if not even more so. Swiping through hundreds of potential mates can often leave men wondering if there is something wrong with them, or if there is something wrong with everyone else. The real an-swer is: they’re going about it all wrong. The world has changed, relationships have changed, gender roles have changed, and the way men engage with women must change too.
Believe it or not, it is possible to be yourself, have fun, court women, get dates, have sex, and have meaningful relationships without acting like a dick. Josh Raab will tell you how.
In How to be a Player (in the Age of Feminism), Raab picks apart what it means to be a man in 2019, how to maximize your success on dating apps and first dates, and how to assemble the love life you want and deserve—whether that’s nightly orgies, the suburban dream with white picket fences, or both at the same time!
We’ll cover:
● How to change your mindset to make dating less soul-sucking
● How to make your dating profile as enticing as possible
● How to get a date in under 60 words
● How feminism and the patriarchy are affecting your sex life
● How to keep it casual
● How to communicate with women
● How to keep a relationship going healthily
● How and why to end a relationship
Believe it or not, it is possible to be yourself, have fun, court women, get dates, have sex, and have meaningful relationships without acting like a dick. Josh Raab will tell you how.
In How to be a Player (in the Age of Feminism), Raab picks apart what it means to be a man in 2019, how to maximize your success on dating apps and first dates, and how to assemble the love life you want and deserve—whether that’s nightly orgies, the suburban dream with white picket fences, or both at the same time!
We’ll cover:
● How to change your mindset to make dating less soul-sucking
● How to make your dating profile as enticing as possible
● How to get a date in under 60 words
● How feminism and the patriarchy are affecting your sex life
● How to keep it casual
● How to communicate with women
● How to keep a relationship going healthily
● How and why to end a relationship
128 pages, Kindle Edition
First published November 18, 2019
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About the author
Joshua Raab
11 books10 followersJosh Raab is a book editor, musician, and author. He started his publishing career running a Kickstarter-funded, experimental literary magazine and website called theNewerYork. After five years, The New Yorker magazine sent a cease and desist order claiming the name infringed on theirs and forced him out of business. While in operation, theNewerYork published 10 books; had subscribers and fans such as Margaret Atwood, Daniel Handler (Lemony Snicket), and Mark Z. Danielewski; featured work by thousands of authors and artists; and hosted numerous interactive literary events.
Raab was a board member of the Emmy Award–winning production company The Industry, and served as dramaturg (story editor) in the production of Hopscotch, a mobile opera that took place in over 20 limousines driving around Los Angeles with a cast of over 100 actors, singers, and musicians. The show received rave reviews in The New York Times, The Los Angeles Times, The Guardian, The New Yorker, and The Washington Post.
Subsequently, Raab worked as a book editor and producer at Melcher Media in New York City, collaborating with Vice President Al Gore, Neil Patrick Harris, Netflix, Garth Brooks, and others. His books have millions of copies in print, including a New York Times bestseller and several Amazon bestsellers.
He now lives in Los Angeles, plays piano, writes songs, and edits and produces books for clients around the world.
Follow him on Twitter and Instagram: @roshjaab
Raab was a board member of the Emmy Award–winning production company The Industry, and served as dramaturg (story editor) in the production of Hopscotch, a mobile opera that took place in over 20 limousines driving around Los Angeles with a cast of over 100 actors, singers, and musicians. The show received rave reviews in The New York Times, The Los Angeles Times, The Guardian, The New Yorker, and The Washington Post.
Subsequently, Raab worked as a book editor and producer at Melcher Media in New York City, collaborating with Vice President Al Gore, Neil Patrick Harris, Netflix, Garth Brooks, and others. His books have millions of copies in print, including a New York Times bestseller and several Amazon bestsellers.
He now lives in Los Angeles, plays piano, writes songs, and edits and produces books for clients around the world.
Follow him on Twitter and Instagram: @roshjaab
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December 25, 2019
On yeah, this book is the real thing!
I could not put this book down once I began reading. In the same way a story has a character arc, the subtext here is a perfect movie script. The author is human, vulnerable, witty, and intelligent, yet there is nothing that snacks of arrogance or superiority. Or inferiority, for that matter. Raab's personality comes through like an older, wiser, been-there big brother who'll never make you feel embarrassed. You know you can trust this guy. He's got credibility and explains why. One of the greatest problems people have today is communicating. And because of this problem many, many people feel lonely. So, it is logical to assume that if one can learn to communicate with others one's chances of connecting are vastly improved. Raab does not write in a typical how-to boring manner, a do it this way style, but shares his recipe, and method of making his magic cook. Personally I've never had problems connecting, but I learned so much from this book I'm beginning to wonder how I could have! One last note, I love that (unless I missed it) I never noticed Raab saying he "reached out"to someone. While everybody and their monkeys are saying that lately, they don't realize just how much that phrase actually indicates distancing from somebody else. We reach out in the dark, reach for a towel, reach for the sky. But if we really want contact we get in touch, stay in touch, we connect. And Raab really connects!
I could not put this book down once I began reading. In the same way a story has a character arc, the subtext here is a perfect movie script. The author is human, vulnerable, witty, and intelligent, yet there is nothing that snacks of arrogance or superiority. Or inferiority, for that matter. Raab's personality comes through like an older, wiser, been-there big brother who'll never make you feel embarrassed. You know you can trust this guy. He's got credibility and explains why. One of the greatest problems people have today is communicating. And because of this problem many, many people feel lonely. So, it is logical to assume that if one can learn to communicate with others one's chances of connecting are vastly improved. Raab does not write in a typical how-to boring manner, a do it this way style, but shares his recipe, and method of making his magic cook. Personally I've never had problems connecting, but I learned so much from this book I'm beginning to wonder how I could have! One last note, I love that (unless I missed it) I never noticed Raab saying he "reached out"to someone. While everybody and their monkeys are saying that lately, they don't realize just how much that phrase actually indicates distancing from somebody else. We reach out in the dark, reach for a towel, reach for the sky. But if we really want contact we get in touch, stay in touch, we connect. And Raab really connects!
March 2, 2020
I expected this book would be more of a discussion on how dating has changed with the recent rise of feminism, but it’s more of a “dating apps 101” guide. If you have a male friend who is single for the first time since dating apps have been around, buy him this book and he will likely find it very useful. Otherwise, I’m not sure it resonates with many other audiences. The book is well written and refreshingly real, just lacks wide appeal.
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