Living In A Bubble: A Guide to Being Diagnosed with High Functioning Asperger's as an Adult
If you are living with or suspect you have High Functioning Asperger's, or someone close to you has, this book is for you. It's not just for those diagnosed as adults, it will help anyone who wants a deeper understanding of what it's like to be on the autism spectrum. This honest, well-researched book uses personal experience, scientific fact and useful insights. Through its clear easy to read chapters, it outlines a journey from suspecting you have the condition, asking for help, getting a diagnosis, what to expect in the way people react through to helpful coping strategies. What the book does is enable you to understand your condition - empowering you to see it not as an illness but as a new chapter in your life.
Keeping in mind, the author is not a medical doctor, i thought this was a great book for me, feeling like someone else understands the different things that i experience.
As I navigate the territory of late diagnosis neurodiversity (age 50!), I discover with almost equal astonishment how little has been written about, or for, adults with what is variously termed High Functioning Autism or Asperger's Syndrome (AS). This is especially so for those who don't realise this about themselves for many decades of their lives, which is a remarkably common thing, especially for women (I read in various sources) since some people become just so skilled at mimicking conventional behaviours that they almost fool themselves...until that point when they don't anymore.
I also find it is a territory fraught with pit-holes, including the complex issue of explaining to others (let alone yourself...) that you have managed to go most of your life oblivious to having this thing that many people consider to be some sort of mental illness or disability (a popular fallacy that you need to rectify, at least in your own mind, and this book will help). "How could you not know" or "don't be ridiculous, you don't have it, you're not handicapped" are typical of some of the more obtuse responses you may have to deal with, on top of your late diagnosis. Therefore, finding writers who are adult, who have been through the territory and who also have AS themselves (rather than clinicians who tend towards sweeping generalisations and many far worse foibles, even devastating assumptions) is a must...yet quite hard to do.
My search brought me to Anthony King's book and I'm so glad it did since I find myself extremely grateful and impressed by his humane, relatable, often lighthearted and yet never once undermining tone of delivery; the more you read this book, the more you feel you have found a friend, not to mention someone who really gets you and some of the challenges of your less than typical life. I found so many pointers and interesting approaches in this book that I highlighted a great deal of it and am still processing. The fact he went to the trouble to leave his book on ice for two and a half years before publishing, in order to test-out and develop some of his theories, a couple more years after his own shock diagnosis, really impressed me; you get the distinct impression this book was written for the sole purpose of helping others. In fact, doing such deeds "for the greater good" may well turn out to be the main focus of your life from now on (rather than doing all those neurotypical things that keep other people so motivated but to which we have often failed to relate...), as the author points out. The rest is all about discovering deep joy and enthusiasm for all that you decide to apply yourself to, making yourself the very centre of what motivates you, now that you have come to terms with one of the most pivotal things about the uniquely diverse way that you experience your wonderful life.
'You are not alone', that is the central theme of this book.
Finally finding out that you have Aspergers can really shake your life up. Though finally knowing can be reassuring navigating the condition can be very rough. Especially as having Asperger's is like having a splinter in your own mind.
Anthony King is like a friend that takes you by the hand and guides you through the difficulties. It's not broadly academic but is more person and some of his personal strategies are born out of hard experience.
For those trying to understand their diagnosis, this may not be the book for you because this reads more like a guidebook on how to manage the everyday life of those who have autism. Excellent though and straight to the point reading to uncover what lengths people with autism have to go through to mask their symptoms to get by in today's society.
Rhiannon is absolutely amazing and informative. Thank you so much for taking the time to write this. Halloween much. I am a newbie aspie so this really helped!