How to Build a Better Mousetrap: Recollections and Reflections of a Family Caregiver

by Abbie Johnson Taylor

In January of 2006, Abbie Johnson Taylors husband suffered a stroke that left him paralyzed on his left side. After months of therapy in a nursing facility, he returned home in September of that year. Although he still had little use of his left arm and leg, it was hoped that through outpatient therapy, he would eventually walk again. In January of 2007, he suffered a second stroke that wasnt as severe, but it was enough to impact his recovery. In August of that year, his therapy was discontinued because he showed no progress. He has never walked since.The first five poems tell the story of how Taylor found her husband when he suffered his first stroke, detail events in the first few months afterward, and describe Taylor and her husbands reactions. The rest of the poems in the first part were inspired by Taylors experiences while caring for her husband. Covering such topics as dressing, feeding, toileting, their relationship, and his computer, they often provide a humorous outlook. Some poems are from the husbands point of view. Poems in the next two parts cover childhood memories and other topics. The last section of poems was inspired by Taylors fifteen years of experience as a registered music therapist in a nursing home before marrying her husband.

88 pages, Kindle Edition

First published December 1, 2011

About the author

Abbie Johnson Taylor is the author of three novels, two poetry collections, and a memoir. Her short stories and poems have appeared in various journals and anthologies. She is visually impaired and lives in Sheridan, Wyoming, where for six years, she cared for her late husband, who was totally blind and partially paralyzed by two strokes soon after they were married.
Before that, she spent fifteen years as a registered music therapist, working in nursing homes and other facilities that serve senior citizens. She also taught Braille, facilitated a support group for the visually impaired, and served on the advisory board to a trust fund that allows people with blindness or low vision to purchase adaptive equipment. Please visit her website at https://www.abbiejohnsontaylor.com

Reviews

[Robbie Cheadle · Rating 4 out of 5]

How to Build a Better Mousetrap is a memorable book of poetry which covers two distinct time periods in the author's life.

Part 1: On Being a Family Caregiver, revolves around the poet's role as caregiver to her husband following his having two strokes, a year apart, and becoming partially paralysed.

The second section section of the book comprises of Part 2: Recollections, Part 3: Reflections and Part 4: In the End which describes through the medium of freestyle poetry, the various states of the poet's life from her early childhood through to her old age. There is little mention throughout the book of the author's visual impairment, but I am aware of it as I have previously read an anthology, Understanding edited by Stevie Turner, that disclosed this information.

The poetry in this book is compelling and quite fascinating in its honesty as the poet ventures to express feelings and emotions that many people might seek to hide. It is refreshing to read expressions of helplessness and even the occasional anger and resentment towards a set of circumstances that have so drastically and unexpectedly impacted on the poet's life. These emotions are overwhelmed by the poet's clear devotion and love for her partner.

These verses from three different poems in this collection illustrate this internal conflict:

"In the beginning, you knew all about me
which buttons to push,
how to hook me up,
install programs, fix problems.

Now, you hesitate,
push the wrong buttons.
When I don't give you the desired response,
you beat my keyboard, proclaim I don't work."
From Before and After

"I open my eyes,
gaze upon his sweet sleeping face,
long to hold, kiss him,
caress his hair, his cheek."
from Awakening

"I'll never tell you you're stupid
when you forget something or don't understand.
I'll never tell you you're lazy
when you sit at the kitchen table in your wheelchair
while I fix dinner, clean up.
I'll never tell you you're a baby
when I must do most things for you."
from Things I'll Never Tell You