Dating or married, we are all faced with the ups and downs of relationships. We are a whole, unique person with our own thoughts, ideals, teachings, and dreams of what relationships can and should be. When we collide with someone else with their own thoughts, ideals, teachings, and dreams how do we respond? Or better yet how should we respond? Why Men Are Not the Problem is a personal journey of how I navigated through all of the lows that so easily get us down when in the pursuit of love and happiness. The struggles that can mentally, emotionally, and physically defeat us turning us into someone and something we would rather not be. The journey goes from victim to victor. Its a journey from nightmare to dreams. This book is the story of one woman's life who was focused on growth and not blame, love and not hate, the future and not the past, forgiveness and not blame. in the end, love wins.