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Young, Dumb & Full of hmm...: How One Woman's Dating Journey Erased Her Good Sense, a Memoir
Now available by the chapter, Wright takes us on a journey from single girl to married woman with all the baggage she picked up along the way included. Read about how she developed ideas about sex and marriage watching her parents and basically self-destructed her first teenage love affair with a teenage pregnancy. And how she came to think that safe sex wasn’t necessary when you’re in love, even if you only met a few hours ago. This book is a gasp and hold your breath Reality TV-type of read.
"DUMB" is not a word usually affiliated with Ivy Wright. Accomplished, successful and inspirational are usually more common. But not when it comes to men. She is unable to resist the charm and allure of bad boys even when she sees them for what they are. She has her whole life figured out except for this one piece, who to love. It’s an everyday ‘Being Mary Jane’ story.
So focused on success in her career, Wright misses that her love life is actually only a sex life. Her relationships begin with passion and romance and change to drama and pain long before she makes her way out of them. Sometimes bad relationships feel good.
As she creeps past her thirties she realizes she has a problem and seeks help from ‘The Husband Whisperer.’ Wright tracks her bad decision making back to emotional damage from her childhood and her first godforsaken exploration of sex. Reflection brings clarity on all the benefits and growth of walking away from the toxic relationships of her past, which eventually leads to marriage.
If you like realty TV shows like Married at First Sight, Love and Hip Hop and 90 Day Fiancé you’ll love Young, Dumb and Full of hmm… Things people do when they think they’re in love are entertaining and relatable. Unlock Wright’s stories and lessons and get your copy now.
"DUMB" is not a word usually affiliated with Ivy Wright. Accomplished, successful and inspirational are usually more common. But not when it comes to men. She is unable to resist the charm and allure of bad boys even when she sees them for what they are. She has her whole life figured out except for this one piece, who to love. It’s an everyday ‘Being Mary Jane’ story.
So focused on success in her career, Wright misses that her love life is actually only a sex life. Her relationships begin with passion and romance and change to drama and pain long before she makes her way out of them. Sometimes bad relationships feel good.
As she creeps past her thirties she realizes she has a problem and seeks help from ‘The Husband Whisperer.’ Wright tracks her bad decision making back to emotional damage from her childhood and her first godforsaken exploration of sex. Reflection brings clarity on all the benefits and growth of walking away from the toxic relationships of her past, which eventually leads to marriage.
If you like realty TV shows like Married at First Sight, Love and Hip Hop and 90 Day Fiancé you’ll love Young, Dumb and Full of hmm… Things people do when they think they’re in love are entertaining and relatable. Unlock Wright’s stories and lessons and get your copy now.
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Published February 7, 2019
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May 21, 2019
Learn from our menstakes
We all need to look at what we did in the past to see if we still making same decisions. I see my self in this book and knew I had to decide these are not good men just the pieces I liked. Need a great man as a whole. Read this story she shared a piece of her that may mirror a piece of you !!! Great read!
We all need to look at what we did in the past to see if we still making same decisions. I see my self in this book and knew I had to decide these are not good men just the pieces I liked. Need a great man as a whole. Read this story she shared a piece of her that may mirror a piece of you !!! Great read!
June 12, 2019
Love the story!
A very good read was as women are scared to say we had or having many sexual experiences because of how it makes us look and how our families, friends also people who doesn't really know us will precede us. She shows that even though we have these experiences learn the good and bad from them change the bad an see the silver lining .
A very good read was as women are scared to say we had or having many sexual experiences because of how it makes us look and how our families, friends also people who doesn't really know us will precede us. She shows that even though we have these experiences learn the good and bad from them change the bad an see the silver lining .
June 19, 2019
In YOUNG DUMB AND FULL OF HMM, The author, I.R. Wright really puts it all on the line in an incredibly raw and true account of her intimate relationships with all the lovers she had between the age of 16, until her marriage at age 30 . She is very self aware and the product of 2 remarkable parents, whose divorce wounded her deeply.
The book is graphic and details her dating experience in detail with 6 or 7 men. She describes EVERY intimate detail from the first kiss to the problem ridden breakups. I have no doubt that every bit of the memoir is true, and if anything, she minimized the drama. Most break ups, in my experience, aren't this easy. There are some truly cringe worthy experiences and the author freely admits it isn't all pretty. Mistakes were made. Most people wouldn't want to relive all these experiences, and certainly not in public. Lucky for us, there are those who are willing to share it with the rest of us.... warts and all.
I do believe the point the author is making here is that we all make mistakes. Dating is about weeding out potential mistakes. We learn from our mistakes and we move on to better people, if we are true to ourselves. Chronicling mistakes in the form of a memoir seems painful, but it helped Wright to clarify the type of relationship she was seeking and remember to leave off the rose colored glasses when she thought about men she cared for in the past.
I think Wright's dating experiences are fairly typical. I at least recognize some of it from my own years of dating and boyfriends. In terms of how she was treated by the men in her life, I've seen that too. The author was helped by having good self awareness, specific goals, set at an early age, and a lot of hard driving ambition. Without that direction and confidence, she would have had a much harder time extracting herself from the bad boyfriends and moving on.
One of her lovers asks her if she considers herself Brave. She isn't quite sure what the answer to that question is. After reading her book I know the answer... SHE IS BRAVE. It takes an immense amount of courage to write the book she wrote.
She is a good writer but the book has a few pacing issues. But if someone wants to bare it all.... who am I not to indulge
The book is graphic and details her dating experience in detail with 6 or 7 men. She describes EVERY intimate detail from the first kiss to the problem ridden breakups. I have no doubt that every bit of the memoir is true, and if anything, she minimized the drama. Most break ups, in my experience, aren't this easy. There are some truly cringe worthy experiences and the author freely admits it isn't all pretty. Mistakes were made. Most people wouldn't want to relive all these experiences, and certainly not in public. Lucky for us, there are those who are willing to share it with the rest of us.... warts and all.
I do believe the point the author is making here is that we all make mistakes. Dating is about weeding out potential mistakes. We learn from our mistakes and we move on to better people, if we are true to ourselves. Chronicling mistakes in the form of a memoir seems painful, but it helped Wright to clarify the type of relationship she was seeking and remember to leave off the rose colored glasses when she thought about men she cared for in the past.
I think Wright's dating experiences are fairly typical. I at least recognize some of it from my own years of dating and boyfriends. In terms of how she was treated by the men in her life, I've seen that too. The author was helped by having good self awareness, specific goals, set at an early age, and a lot of hard driving ambition. Without that direction and confidence, she would have had a much harder time extracting herself from the bad boyfriends and moving on.
One of her lovers asks her if she considers herself Brave. She isn't quite sure what the answer to that question is. After reading her book I know the answer... SHE IS BRAVE. It takes an immense amount of courage to write the book she wrote.
She is a good writer but the book has a few pacing issues. But if someone wants to bare it all.... who am I not to indulge
June 19, 2019
Honest, but the Heroine is the Blame 4 Her 💔 Too....😕
A decent read that utilized a Great Editor and is Greatly Appreciated by an Avid reader!😏 In some areas, I felt the Heroine *Ivy* was Judgmental and demeaning. For instance, the part where Enos (sp?) Chanted with Positive Self-Mantras, while running was an EXCELLENT way to for Self-talk (Les Brown, Bob Proctor, others in the Self-development fields-would Actually teach this and inform You, Ivy that it's a GOOD Thing (to do).😒 For a Woman who applauds herself on being well-traveled well-versed and Intelligent, it was Shocking that U did NOT understand that concept, but was rather "Turned OFF", by it!🙄 Then some of the interactions with the various Men in the book, You were DEFINITELY More into them-than they Ever were into You.😲 U felt Over elated for ALL of these Guys and Not even being sure U were in a Monogamous Relationship with ANY of them (Duke, "Chapo", Chuck) and when they did NOT share in the same excitement (EXcluding S.E.X), You'd get upset, as a result.😳 The book is a Great Cautionary Tale for ANY Woman, Attempting to "Get Out There" & Date, in This day and age.....🙀 But I Am Happy that You got Your "Happily Ever, After" with Your Husband!👍🏼 Because as Stacey stated, "Casual sex is NOTHING compared to Married Life" (Paraphrasing her Sentiments).🙂 I wholeheartedly Agree because when You find that One (1)......EVERYTHING'S Good and it ALL makes Perfect Sense!😍 I Know from experience, since I have been Married to My SOULMATE for Nearly 30 Years.....❤❤❤ Many BLESSINGS to You and Your Family!🙏🏼 I'm sure It took LOTS of Courage and Strength, to be able to be THIS Direct, Honest And Open, to Share Soooooo Much of YOUR Truth with an audience, but doing it ANYWAY!🙌 As U said, Robert gave U That uncanny Ability, to NOT be Fearful of Anything or much of NOTHING......You Go Girl & Congrats!😘
A decent read that utilized a Great Editor and is Greatly Appreciated by an Avid reader!😏 In some areas, I felt the Heroine *Ivy* was Judgmental and demeaning. For instance, the part where Enos (sp?) Chanted with Positive Self-Mantras, while running was an EXCELLENT way to for Self-talk (Les Brown, Bob Proctor, others in the Self-development fields-would Actually teach this and inform You, Ivy that it's a GOOD Thing (to do).😒 For a Woman who applauds herself on being well-traveled well-versed and Intelligent, it was Shocking that U did NOT understand that concept, but was rather "Turned OFF", by it!🙄 Then some of the interactions with the various Men in the book, You were DEFINITELY More into them-than they Ever were into You.😲 U felt Over elated for ALL of these Guys and Not even being sure U were in a Monogamous Relationship with ANY of them (Duke, "Chapo", Chuck) and when they did NOT share in the same excitement (EXcluding S.E.X), You'd get upset, as a result.😳 The book is a Great Cautionary Tale for ANY Woman, Attempting to "Get Out There" & Date, in This day and age.....🙀 But I Am Happy that You got Your "Happily Ever, After" with Your Husband!👍🏼 Because as Stacey stated, "Casual sex is NOTHING compared to Married Life" (Paraphrasing her Sentiments).🙂 I wholeheartedly Agree because when You find that One (1)......EVERYTHING'S Good and it ALL makes Perfect Sense!😍 I Know from experience, since I have been Married to My SOULMATE for Nearly 30 Years.....❤❤❤ Many BLESSINGS to You and Your Family!🙏🏼 I'm sure It took LOTS of Courage and Strength, to be able to be THIS Direct, Honest And Open, to Share Soooooo Much of YOUR Truth with an audience, but doing it ANYWAY!🙌 As U said, Robert gave U That uncanny Ability, to NOT be Fearful of Anything or much of NOTHING......You Go Girl & Congrats!😘
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