Love Without Limits: The Quest for Sustainable Intimate Relationships : Responsible Nonmonogamy

by Deborah Anapol

This book is addressed to the millions of men and women who are "failing" at traditional relationships and who feel guilty,isolated, and ashamed. To the increasing numbers of single people who are sacrificing family for freedom, and thousands of intrepid souls who have matured beyond a blind acceptance of monogamy as the only legitimate fromof sexuaoove and who are pioneering new relationship territory.

Genres: Sexuality, Relationships

180 pages, Paperback

First published June 1, 1992

Reviews

[Noor Alhuda · Rating 1 out of 5]

The best part about this book was the chapter on Mormonism that gave me some idea of the history of persecution they experienced since their migration to Salt Lake City. Otherwise, this book is absolute crap. For one thing, she cites the trinity as proof that a triad is "what makes the world go round - harmoniously." What really made me go from "it was ok" to "did not like it" is the following:

Under "An Evolutionary Perspective," she writes...

"But jealousy can also function to motivate other behaviors termed sperm competition avoidance. The hug gorilla with his one inch long erection and tiny testicles doesn't need a big penis to gain an evolutionary advantage. The alpha male simply prevents others from gaining access to the fertile females in his 'harem.' This pattern is more common in species where the male is significantly larger and more powerful than the female, a possible precursor for the form of polygamy practiced earlier by Biblical patriarchs and by patriarchs throughout the Arab world today."

Then, she makes the argument that the isolation of the Orangutan mated pair could help explain why we have honeymoons and the nuclear family.

The most retarded pseudo-scientific and arguably racist interpretations of anything I've read all year.

Basically, this book is a waste of time. Don't read it.

[Cytokine · Rating 2 out of 5]

Made it up to page 35. I really don't like the appeal to "froo-froo" mysticism when talking about a relationship orientation. It's a turn off for people with a rationalist approach. I felt like I had to wade through the mystical crap to get to the meat of the book. This was somewhat tedious.