Women: Are you ready to dominate your man?Men: Are you ready to be the submissive?
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Male submission is a sensitive topic. Why is that? It because it goes against the picture of the cool, dominant male that leads his women. Both men and women are tired of playing that game. Women want to dominate and men want to be submissives! That's a fact. And it's more common than you think.
If you want to know more about male submission, from both perspectives, this book is guaranteed right for you.
I will be talking about.. What is domination?Why do men want to be submissive?A dive into male sexuality and male erogenous zonesHow to communicate in a situation like thisHow to punish and restrain your manAInspiring Role plays so you can take immediate action! That includes conversations templates!And much much more! Enjoy and good luck!
I want to like this book. Of course I do. I think it is the first non-fiction book, solely about femdom that I have read. But I am 4 pages in and already have probables… (And it is a hoopla book so it won’t let me copy text, I have to type by hand. Sigh.)
1. “If the submissive feels unsafe, threatened, uncomfortable, or scared by anything going on they invoke the safe word. It’s their security blanket which ensures they will never be forced to do anything they don’t want to or which is beyond their comfort levels or safety.”
Ok, so… this is glossing over some important points. 1. If a sub has to safe word out, they may have already experiences the trauma and now want out. It doesn’t “prevent” the thing is “stops” the thing. 2. Some subs do not have the ability to safe word out for a variety of reasons
2. “This shows that the submissive is actually the one with all the power in the relationship because they have an emergency exit button that they can use at any time.”
I am really sick of this line. You hear it often. But no, the submissive does not have “all the power”. That makes no sense. A sub can safe word out, of course. But a dominant can also safe word out. A dominant has limits and boundaries. A dominant can refuse to pick up the cane. This is a shared dynamic. And equal partnership. Neither side has more power than the other. Without one, you don’t have the other.
3. “This relationship might take only in the bedroom or extend into every day household activities. Male submission can also take place in a dungeon, with a professional Domme, using role play that is usually non-sexual in nature.”
So, this is rather limiting. This can take place solely online. This can take place in a dungeon with a NON professional. This can take place on “dates” only, out in the world. This can take place in a dungeon and be MOSTLY sexual. And I personally, never role play.
4. Never mind. I am out.
This book is the story of this one lady’s journey and experience and then she gives advice that you should try the thing she tried. In my opinion she delves into a limit variety of dynamics and focuses on what she enjoys.
For a more comprehensive book on power dynamics, try anything by Anton Fulmen.
I wanted to like a femdom book written by a female. I just, couldn’t.