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How to Date Men When You Hate Men

3.51  ·  Rating details ·  1,448 ratings  ·  331 reviews
From New Yorker and Onion writer and comedian Blythe Roberson, How to Date Men When You Hate Men is a comedy-philosophy audiobook aimed at interrogating what it means to date men within the trappings of modern society...

Early Praise for How to Date Men When You Hate Men:

"How To Date Men When You Hate Men is an incredibly funny read that was surely not written when Blythe
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Published January 8th 2019 by Macmillan Audio
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Kai
Dec 22, 2018 marked it as to-read  ·  review of another edition
all 2019 releases are cancelled because THIS IS A MOOD

also thumbs up to all those wise people out there who have decided to only like girls, I'm, like, so jealous
Trish
Feb 13, 2019 rated it did not like it  ·  review of another edition
Did you know that all the problems in the world are caused by men? Yup. And if you don't agree, you're part of the problem either because you're stupid or because the patriarchy has brainwashed you. *rolls eyes*

Why did I read a book with such a title? Because the blurp and the fact that the author writes for The Onion promised a satirical take on all the funny things we silly humans do during courtship.

What did I get in reality? The account of an apparently bitter woman who (according to her own
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Emily
Jan 08, 2019 rated it it was ok
2.5 stars.

This wasn't bad, it just wasn't for me.

I went in expecting a funny feminist analysis of modern dating. This read MUCH more like a mix between memoir and self-help. Again, that's not BAD, it's just not my jam.

It didn't help that my own dating experiences (and just general opinions about romance and dating) differ wildly from Roberson's.

I would have liked a more in-depth look at how Roberson's experiences reflect greater problems in society. I agree with Roberson's assertion that wom
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Glen
Dec 10, 2018 rated it it was ok  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: firstreads, humor
I won this book in a goodreads drawing.

A writer for the Stephen Colbert Show writes a parody of a dating manual. If one is a fan of Colbert they might like it. The author herself doesn't seem to know much about dating, or about anything else, really, except for PC talking points.

The funniest part is that the author doesn't see the irony inherent in an Ivy Leaguer telling other people to check their privilege.
Krista Regester
I am underwhelmed and need to immediately read something gay.
Amanda Morgan
Nov 14, 2018 rated it did not like it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: first-reads
Pretty disappointed in this book. I was under the impression it was supposed to be funny.

This is a tale of the 27-year-old author's meager dating life. I say meager, because the author believes she has never actually dated anybody. She occasionally talks about how she's "boned" and "boinked" numerous men.

Everyone else falls under categories such as "crushes," "boys she kisses," or "friends," which leads me to believe the author is actually a 12-year-old girl, since that's how my pre-teen daught
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Maya
Jan 10, 2019 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: pc, bb-2019
This book didn’t change my life, but it made feel a hell of a lot better about it. I certainly check most of the boxes in terms of target audience, so this probably won't apply to all readers, but I feel like rather than read a strangers book, I just hung out with a really cool friend-of-a-friend for an extended period of time. Though perhaps a more appropriate title would be “why it’s really frustrating but also sometimes exhilarating and definitely exhausting to try and mostly fail to date men ...more
Renata
Feb 13, 2019 rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: nonfiction, humor
This book:
- was pretty funny
- did not live up to the promise of its truly excellent title
- seemed to be an example of a genre that I think of as "printed off blog entries" even though this was never originally a blog. like I'm just on the cusp of being like, are we okay with just including AIM-style verbs like "*prints off blog entry*" in books now? I guess we are?
- I definitely found chunks of this extremely funny and #relatable
- I found other chunks bewildering; for example I have never as an
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Natasha Goel
Jan 13, 2019 rated it it was amazing
K not to be dramatic but this is the single most important book I’ve ever read/will ever read?🤷♀ ...more
Sinead  S
Oct 20, 2018 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
How to Date Men When You Hate Men is one of the funniest books I’ve read in a long time. Blythe Roberson does a fantastic job describing the universal frustration with dating and finding “the one.” If you are a female identified person who happens to have dated, currently dates, or wants to date men, there’s something in this book for you. If you are none of those things there is probably still something in this book for you.
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Particular topics of interest:
-Is this actually a date?
-Years long cru
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Sarah
Feb 03, 2019 rated it it was ok  ·  review of another edition
This book is a random collection of thoughts and tweets from a New York-based, self-described feminist. It doesn’t offer any true insight about relationships, despite the title’s implication that the author has learned something she wants to share.

The book’s writer doesn’t seem to “hate men” either - she loves to “have crushes” on many guys at once, daydream about them, and “boink” dudes on the regular. It’s maybe a little juvenile, but it’s definitely not a form of disgust. I’m not sure why th
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♠️ TABI ♠️
what a brilliant title
Stephanie Krois
Nov 22, 2018 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
I received an ARC of this book from a Goodreads giveaway.

First, let me say that this book is not about hating men. It chronicles the authors experiences dating while giving commentary on societal expectations placed on men and women. I found myself laughing out loud for a good chunk of the book, and some of the passages sound just like conversations I’ve had myself with my friends. It’s a little unorganized at times, but overall it was an enjoyable read. I think what I liked most was her love fo
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N.
It’s hard for me to review this book. It was well written and it throws a lot of terminology around that made me feel giddy like ah! Somebody else thinks about these things. Not to mention the title is a MOOD. But overall, I didn’t love it. There’s something about it that makes it very hard for me to fully connect to it. It’s as if the book didn’t know what it wanted to be.
Sher❤ The Fabulous BookLover
I refuse to waste anymore time of my life on this book. It reads like it was written by a 5 year old. Let’s just say it’s not what I was expecting...
Cassie
Feb 28, 2019 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: audiobook
I don't know that this book had any answers, but it's full of things I've been thinking about, like what it means to be in a relationship or dating at this point in social history. Plus it's written (and read!) by a possibly emotionally stunted millennial who thinks incredibly highly of herself, so you could say I felt some kinship with the author.
Randi
Jan 15, 2019 rated it did not like it
Shelves: 2019
DNF at ~120, but frankly should’ve stopped earlier. The title? Incredible. And yet, this book gave no genuinely interesting advice and read like the erratic rants of someone who is not funny and has no experience in any subject related to dating.
Malerie Mento
Jan 28, 2019 rated it did not like it
I’m a few pages from finishing this book. My expectations were high; I mean, the title is brilliant. But the book is lacking in any actual dissection of the power structures that exist while dating in a #metoo era. I guess that was what I was expecting given the books description and reviews of the book on sites like “Bustle” as well as other hype surrounding the book. This book is actually a memoir of a young woman grasping at straws to find her place as a cis white woman feminist in the world ...more
zina
Jan 19, 2019 rated it did not like it
Only good thing about this book is the title
Giselle A Nguyen
Mar 13, 2019 rated it really liked it
This book is very funny and silly but also has so many brilliant little nuggets of truth about patriarchy and power structures. Roberson manages to weave in a lot of cultural theory as well which has inflated my to read list by 4000 books at least. I love her and I hope she will be my best friend forever.
Mara
Jan 21, 2019 rated it liked it
Shelves: audio, library
I appreciate the idea of this one more than the actual execution, I think. Perfectly fine memoir, just not super memorable- though I love the angle of it, e.g. how a woke feminist in 2019 figures out how to negotiate wanting to have romantic relationships with the group that has all the systemic power. I'd be interested read something on this topic that was closer to philosophy or sociology than memoir
Amy
Feb 10, 2019 rated it it was ok
Shelves: read-2019
I don’t even know what I think about this book. On one hand, any kind of love and dating advice from someone young enough to love One Direction is ummm weird. I definitely felt old reading this. But on the other hand there were some really fantastic points and sections.

Much more memoir than a feminist exploration of dating. I expected more analysis and discussion of patriarchy and oppression but while it was included, it wasn’t the main thrust of the book. As well, a lot of humour that, being th
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Mahima
Apr 03, 2019 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Funny, relatable, and brilliant. Dating is garbage. Men are garbage. But I still want both. Might as well do it the right way, the healthy way. I'm never again doing anything Blythe Roberson won't. Men, read this book. Learn.
Dana
Jan 22, 2019 rated it it was ok  ·  review of another edition
Several good bits but mostly vaguely obnoxious... which makes me feel like a bad woman to say it, but alas.
Moses
Jan 21, 2019 rated it it was ok  ·  review of another edition
This is a topic ripe for a great book. Unfortunately this was not it.
Kelsey
Feb 04, 2019 rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
Was entertaining, but was a bit too much about dating and not enough about hating men for my taste.

Read for the Read Harder Challenge #4: A humor book.
Sammi
Feb 20, 2019 rated it it was ok
There are some good points in this book- don’t get me wrong. But the reality of the situation here is the best part about this book was the title. Here’s your synopsis: Dating is hard & a lot of it is Trump’s fault. Skip.
Vicki
3.5 stars

Rounded up because mathematical reasons and Reasons.

If you're the kind of person who reads the title and gets offended, you should probably read this book — but we all know you won't. How to Date Men When You Hate Men is NOT about hating men, but it's about dating men when you live in a patriarchal society that teaches men to mistreat and look down upon women. Even the most "woke" men are prey to this: they benefit from a society that women do not, and so this book is a perspective of w
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Emily Polson
May 08, 2019 added it  ·  review of another edition
Recommended to Emily by: Chloe
"I personally feel like a socially inept, broken goblin for never having had a boyfriend. I feel like it screams SHE IS BROKEN AND BAD. Which I know is not true. I am a goblin, sure, but only because I am small, mischievous, and greedy for gold and jewelry."

Hilarious, relatable, and whip-smart commentary on crushing, kissing, and dating boys in a patriarchal world. Thx Chloe for coming in with the good recs!

A few of my fave side bars:
-Ways to Make It Clear It's a Date ("Refer to your socks as y
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Nicole
Mar 31, 2019 rated it really liked it
This book was written by me in another life.
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Blythe Roberson is a writer and comedian whose work has been published by the New Yorker, The Onion, ClickHole, VICE Magazine, and others, and has been mentioned by the New York Times, the Washington Post, and New York Mag. She works as a researcher at The Late Show with Stephen Colbert.
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