Now that you've got me here, what are we going to do? A non-marriage manual

by Ruth Dickson

The seminal sex guide for non-wedded bliss from the author of Married Men Make the Best Lovers and Marriage Is a Bad Habit .Having made a success and a series of cogent points about the complexities of Mistress-hood in her first book, Married Men Make the Best Lovers , Ruth Dickson gets down to basics and tells us a lot more than the obvious about the ins and outs of lovemaking. With her classic, breezy, entertaining style, she instructs the uninformed and enlightens the already educated with a bit of science and a lot of blunt truth about the hows, whys and special tricks of sex for fun, in or out of wedlock. The fact that she firmly believes that unwed sex-play is more fun than the married variety doesn't detract from her wisdom and her expertise. From "The Nitty Gritty" (both his and hers) to "The Other Side of the Bed" and from the beginning explanation of "Why Are We Doing This?" to the grand summation of "What Is Sex, Really?" Dickson gives an advanced course in the art of love and the pleasures of sex in all its permutations. One of the first of many sexual instruction guides that followed in its wake, Now That You've Got Me Here, What Are We Going to Do? was the frontrunner of the genre, dispensing basic information and much more in this amusing, highly readable work. Readers of either sex will be the richer and the better informed for taking an opportunity to learn at the feet (and other areas) of a Master. Or, more accurately, Mistress.

270 pages, Hardcover

First published January 1, 1972

About the author

Ruth Dickson is the author of seven books, including the notorious bestseller "Married Men Make the Best Lovers". Her nomadic lifestyle has taken her around the world, working in a variety of fields, including advertising, radio and television writing and performing, teaching and life coaching. After a thirty-year hiatus, she resumed her career on her 80th birthday with "Life, Death and Other Trivia". Now 87, she continues to blog, write a weekly advice column and promote her books, now available in e-format.

Reviews

[Karen · Rating 4 out of 5]

Let's just say my husband WILL be reading this, and I'm eagerly awaiting the results.

[Headley Mist · Rating 2 out of 5]

Works extremely well together with this one: http://www.goodreads.com/book/show/81..., which is a very marriage manual.

And published at the same time too.

[Eliza · Rating 2 out of 5]

This book angered me terribly. I gave it two stars only because I only disagreed with about 70% of the book. Check my highlights for my notes. The author advocates adultery and lusting after children, but calls consensual kink a mental disorder. She slut shames and yet prude shames. She claims that men cannot understand how to please a woman, even though a chapter of the book is dedicated to educating men, yet says that women should be able to provide any man intense pleasure by simply getting to know his body. Oh, and I’m just going to share this one last thing: according to the author, men are not able to be bisexual. So, if you are a woman who is considering having a threesome with two men, don’t. Two men don’t need you, because they are gay. Women on the other hand, are perfectly able to enjoy other women, because it’s only for play, and you’ll run back to your man after your “fun”. This woman is so clueless, and this book is infuriating.