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The Path Between Us: An Enneagram Journey to Healthy Relationships

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Most of us have no idea how others see or process their experiences. And that can make relationships hard, whether with intimate partners, with friends, or in our professional lives. Understanding the motivations and dynamics of these different personality types can be the key that unlocks sometimes mystifying behavior in others—and in ourselves.

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Hardcover, 240 pages
Published April 10th 2018 by IVP Books
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Apr 26, 2018 rated it really liked it
Certainly a helpful supplement, but not the place to start if you've never heard of the Enneagram. There's a lot of great stuff here, though I would have liked a little more information in each chapter. When you only have a brief description for each, I think it starts to become more of a stereotypical picture of each number. Even so, it certainly offers help for each number in relationships by identifying warning signs, potential pitfalls, and the like. A handy resource to supplement anyone's E ...more
Jan 16, 2018 rated it it was amazing
Suzanne Stabile's new book, The Path Between Us, is a much needed followup to her joint book with Ian Cron, The Road Back to You. Stabile's, The Path Between Us, helps readers authentically apply the enneagram to the complex relationships in their lives-- whether personal or professional. Her writing continues to be easily accessible and yet this easy style never compromises the intellectual content or depth of her observations. Stabile confidently draws on her own life's work and practice with ...more
Jul 10, 2018 rated it liked it
I have to admit, I find the enneagram to be problematic in some ways, but I set that aside, and am reviewing this book on its own merits, apart from the merits of the enneagram itself.

There are certainly some good things to glean from this book. Ms. Stabile very quickly cuts to the heart of what drive each enneagram type--and beautifully illustrates this with very accessible and relatable anecdotal stories for each type. I also really appreciated that she showed the positive and negative issues
Adam Shields
Jul 30, 2018 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Short Review: This is the third book I have read on the Enneagram this year. I have been skeptical about the enneagram, but I can see the value of it as a mental descriptive model. No personality test is perfect. Any type of people into a limited set of categories, no matter how many there are will be inadequate to describing everyone. But system that give descriptions that people find helpful are helpful to the extent that they give a language to help people both understand themselves and other ...more
Nikki Kamp
Jan 11, 2019 rated it it was amazing
Great, clearly written guide on enneagram relationships. Very very helpful for my perspective on other people.
Rachel | mrs.bennett.reads
I enjoyed furthering my knowledge of the enneagram through this book. While I wouldn’t recommend this to anyone new to the enneagram (check out The Road Back to You) it was helpful for me in learning how I can be better in relationship with all of the different numbers in my life. It also corrected some misinformation that I previously held about stress and security numbers. I enjoy continuing to learn about this personality system, and Suzanne Stabile is a trusted voice for me to listen to in b ...more
Sep 04, 2018 rated it it was amazing
I read this book after The Road Back To You. I found it helpful, concise, and very practical. All personality types can learn how to better understand themselves in an effort improve and relate more effectively with others.
Jul 28, 2018 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: read-in-2018
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Jan 21, 2019 rated it it was amazing
This is a fantastic survey of our relationships to each type. I highly recommend to anyone wanting to explore the enneagram and learn more about how to relate to those around them.
Sep 06, 2018 rated it really liked it
The Enneagram is an ancient fluid personality framework. The Path Between Us shows how the Enneagram can help us to improve our relationships through self acceptance and empathy. I'd recommend this as a level 2 book in your Enneagram study, only once you have a good handle on the basics and feel confident in knowing your number.
I have already read a number of basic Enneagram studies over the last few years and feel a solid handle on my identification with Enneagram 5. I had been asking mys
Jul 11, 2019 rated it it was amazing
If The Road Back to You (Cron and Stabile) is Enneagram 101, this book, its companion, is Enneagram 201. It’s a good next-level guide to navigating relationships as you get to know your number.

The catch-22 is that you’re not supposed to type others. Even so, as I operated on my best guess, this book illuminated the keys to successful and problematic relationships in my life and gave me practical tips on how better to relate to (and confront and go deeper with) those who matter to me.

Apr 15, 2018 rated it really liked it
Summary: Using the tool of the Enneagram, this explores how each "number" interacts with the other numbers, how each number relates in stress, and security, and what is helpful for other "numbers" to understand about relating to a person with this number.

In The Road Back to You, (review) Suzanne Stabile and her co-author Ian Cron give one of the most accessible explan
Hannah Comerford
Sep 23, 2019 rated it really liked it
The Enneagram is worthless unless you use it as it's intended--as a tool for seeing your own strengths and weakness and building your relationships with others. This book leads the reader in both of these aspects, focusing on interpersonal relationships. I found it very helpful in cultivating empathy in me for those who don't see the way I do, and I finished feeling that I better know how to relate to and love those around me. I highly recommend it as a follow-up to The Road Back to You.
Feb 12, 2019 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: audio-books
Great in depth book about personalities. It's a good follow up and gets deeper than her first book. I made my husband listen to several chapters on our recent road trip. I love learning more about this topic and applying this tool in all my relationships. It's a good mix of personal stories and academic content. Not a book for beginners though. It makes me want to dive in deeper. Isn't that a good mark of a book?
Nov 13, 2018 rated it it was amazing
Recommends it for: parents, spouses, pastors, managers
I've been following the work of Suzanne Stabile and Ian Cron for a couple of years now. I've read The Road Back to You, and I was an avid listener of their podcast by the same name. I've continued to follow Ian's podcast, Typology, but I've kind of lost touch with Suzanne.

Until this book.

Suzanne Stabile has a way of understanding relationship dynamics better than the vast majority of people. This book, The Path Between Us, is going to be a helpful reference guide for year
Aug 10, 2019 rated it liked it
3.75 stars.
I felt I better understood the enneagram after reading this one, and found it more detailed in a way I could relate it to daily life. Also, my number made more sense to me with her explanations than I got in the Millenneagram book I recently read. I’ll definitely be reading up a bit more on the subject!
May 13, 2018 rated it it was amazing
I love Suzanne and have found studying the enneagram really helpful when faced with challenging relationships and for practicing by empathy. 👍🏻
Jenna Badeker
Jul 05, 2019 rated it really liked it
This broke things down in a succinct, easy to understand way for me. I really gleaned a lot from how the types interact with others. If you already have a base knowledge, this is a helpful next step!
Erin Odom
Mar 25, 2019 rated it it was amazing
I highly recommend this book. I think it's the best book on the Enneagram I've read so far (I've read 3 other books on it). I loved the emphasis on how to be in relationship with other types.
Cara Meredith
Sep 23, 2018 rated it really liked it
It’s always helpful to have an Enneagram refresher and reading Stabile’s words on it was refreshing as well. Of course, if you’re not already familiar with the Enneagram, this probably isn’t the best place to start.
Oct 22, 2018 rated it liked it
Not a lot of new info for me here, but still a useful read.
Luke Roorda
Apr 30, 2018 rated it it was amazing
If you’re only going to read one book about the Enneagram, read “The Road Back To You.” If you’re going to read two books on the Enneagram, then this is for sure the 2nd. Absolutely loved the insightful, thoughtful, and deep wisdom of Enneagram “Jedi Master” Suzanne Stabile. You’ll gobble this book up and be the better for it.
Ashley Jacobs
Mar 05, 2019 rated it liked it
*3.5 stars, rounded down*

Less than I week ago I read The Road Back to You: An Enneagram Journey to Self-Discovery by Ian Morgan Cron and coauthored by Suzanne Stabile. I personally found that book to be a lot more informative and entertaining than The Path Between Us. I appreciate Suzanne’s efforts with this book, but I feel like I picked up a lot of the same info that I just got from The Road Back to You. It’s possible if I would have read these two books further apart I could have
Andrea Humphries
My expectations here may have been unrealistic, but I found this book too superficial to be truly helpful. I did get some useful ideas from the other eight chapters, but when I read the chapter about my own number, I didn’t feel it described me very well at all. But this could be due to the fact that I’m a countertype. So now, I’m left wondering how accurate the descriptions of the other numbers are, or whether they’re only applicable to a specific subset of each number.
Matt Hooper
May 23, 2019 rated it really liked it
In this age of self-discovery, there are no shortage of resources available to anyone who wishes to learn more about who and/or what they are.

Are you an extrovert or an introvert – or an ambivert? Are you more emotional or rational in your thinking? What’s your Myers-Briggs acronym? Or your Culture Index dot profile? Or your Strengths Profile survey results? Are you a devotee of Susan Cain or Brene Brown or Dale Carnegie or, ick, Tony Robbins?

If you’re familiar with all or most of t
Trey Hall
May 12, 2019 rated it liked it
I was introduced to the Enneagram by my dear friend Kimberly Broerman on a beach vacation one summer back in the early 2000s. What started as a fun "personality quiz" has become for me a really helpful way understanding my "self" not as a fixed, static entity but as a dynamic relationship with others, God, and the world.

As I've journeyed deeper into the covenants of marriage, friendship, and ordination, I've come to value the Enneagram as an orientation towards wonder and health in professional
Shannon Rochester
Oct 21, 2019 rated it liked it
I grabbed this book at the library one day because just last week, I read a book that introduced me to the enneagram in a roundabout way. The people in that book were talking about what their numbers were and how that worked in a relationship. So, of course, I wanted to know what mine was. This particular book is more for people that already know their numbers and want to talk about the various relationships that their numbers might have with all of the other numbers. It does briefly touch on wh ...more
Aug 24, 2018 rated it really liked it
Shelves: psychology
Suzanne Stabile is a master enneagram teacher that I encountered with her previous book and podcast, The Road Back to You, co-authored with Ian Cron. While that book was an introductory text, and her and Cron seem to have gone their separate ways (they now have dueling enneagram podcasts), this book is a level 2 look at the enneagram relational styles. Stabile is wise guide, and in the process of leading workshops around the world on the enneagram, has lots of friends from every enneagram to draw on ...more
Kristen Blackton
Aug 05, 2019 rated it really liked it
I may be biased, but I just think Suzanne Stabile has a way of dispersing information about people that is digestible and hits at the heart of what it means to be a person. I really enjoyed reading about how the enneagram can be used as a tool to heal relationships and show us parts of our partners, family members, and friends that we may not comprehend as a different number. In her conclusion, she states "[the enneagram] is just one of the many practices that help us in our search for understan ...more
Holly Minion
Jan 21, 2019 rated it it was amazing
The Enneagram has been a great tool for not only me but also for my husband and I as we navigate life together with different personalities. It's also been a great way to see the differences in others as strengths. I enjoyed Suzanne Stabile's earlier book, The Road Back to You, as a great introduction to what the Enneagram is. This book takes things a step further and gives a framework for relationships with others. I wouldn't recommend this as your first book if you are new to the Enneagram, bu ...more
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