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Emotional Judo: Manage Conflict and Difficult People with EASE
If you want to finally find your voice and nerve and speak up to get your needs met or you want to save those relationships you may be threatening with your emotional reactivity…get this book today!
Emotional Judo is a learnable set of skills that will help you manage your own and others’ emotions, in difficult encounters. It’s for both, people who have trouble speaking up and for those who find they are too blunt and put people off side – and, of course, anyone in between will also derive value. Whether you need to deal
•an encounter with someone you may see as typically difficult, or
•a difficult encounter with someone because the subject matter is delicate and the parties are heavily invested in the outcome
…in either situation, where stakes are high, there is likely to be heightened emotion. If you can manage that emotion effectively by having structure and knowing what to say and when, then you are on your way to managing difficult encounters toward effective outcomes.
In this Full Personal Relationships Edition, you will learn seven invisible structures (listed below) that support the stabilizing of emotions in high stakes situations. It centres on family and friend relationships (parents, children, spouses, partners, social acquaintances and friends) although many of the tools are usable in the workplace (see below for details).
Two of these structures are available in Skeleditions (skeleton editions) – a smaller version for people who are in a hurry and wish to launch fast into just one of the structures listed below.
The seven invisible structures
1.Positioning – How to position yourself to get the best out of difficult interactions. A transferable skill from personal to professional and available in a Skeledition.
2.EASE – A four-step structure to say “no” or deal with disagreements and pushback, diplomatically, in difficult interactions. The most popular Emotional Judo skill, transferable from personal to professional situations and available in a Skeledition.
3.WE WIN/WIN – An eight-step process for bringing up difficult subjects in a diplomatic way. Only for personal relationships.
4.WAIT – A four-step process for considering timing and prudence in speaking up. A transferable skill from personal to professional.
5.3E+P – A four-step process for dealing with a particularly difficult person, who wants to play outside of the ‘rules’ of fair play in a relationship and is not respectful of boundaries. A transferable skill from personal to professional.
6.Play NICE – A four step process for quickly bringing people with unethical behavior into line. A transferable skill from personal to professional.
7.The Inner Game and Outer Game of Emotional Judo – An introduction into how you can overcome your own emotional sticking points and improve your mastery of the Emotional Judo techniques.
Along with the technique instruction, there is also a host of case studies of real-life people, you may relate to, who have had challenges in their personal relationships and benefited from Emotional Judo.
This book will help you to gain confidence, or gain self-control, through structure and knowing what to say at the right time.
Emotional Judo is a learnable set of skills that will help you manage your own and others’ emotions, in difficult encounters. It’s for both, people who have trouble speaking up and for those who find they are too blunt and put people off side – and, of course, anyone in between will also derive value. Whether you need to deal
•an encounter with someone you may see as typically difficult, or
•a difficult encounter with someone because the subject matter is delicate and the parties are heavily invested in the outcome
…in either situation, where stakes are high, there is likely to be heightened emotion. If you can manage that emotion effectively by having structure and knowing what to say and when, then you are on your way to managing difficult encounters toward effective outcomes.
In this Full Personal Relationships Edition, you will learn seven invisible structures (listed below) that support the stabilizing of emotions in high stakes situations. It centres on family and friend relationships (parents, children, spouses, partners, social acquaintances and friends) although many of the tools are usable in the workplace (see below for details).
Two of these structures are available in Skeleditions (skeleton editions) – a smaller version for people who are in a hurry and wish to launch fast into just one of the structures listed below.
The seven invisible structures
1.Positioning – How to position yourself to get the best out of difficult interactions. A transferable skill from personal to professional and available in a Skeledition.
2.EASE – A four-step structure to say “no” or deal with disagreements and pushback, diplomatically, in difficult interactions. The most popular Emotional Judo skill, transferable from personal to professional situations and available in a Skeledition.
3.WE WIN/WIN – An eight-step process for bringing up difficult subjects in a diplomatic way. Only for personal relationships.
4.WAIT – A four-step process for considering timing and prudence in speaking up. A transferable skill from personal to professional.
5.3E+P – A four-step process for dealing with a particularly difficult person, who wants to play outside of the ‘rules’ of fair play in a relationship and is not respectful of boundaries. A transferable skill from personal to professional.
6.Play NICE – A four step process for quickly bringing people with unethical behavior into line. A transferable skill from personal to professional.
7.The Inner Game and Outer Game of Emotional Judo – An introduction into how you can overcome your own emotional sticking points and improve your mastery of the Emotional Judo techniques.
Along with the technique instruction, there is also a host of case studies of real-life people, you may relate to, who have had challenges in their personal relationships and benefited from Emotional Judo.
This book will help you to gain confidence, or gain self-control, through structure and knowing what to say at the right time.
152 pages, Kindle Edition
Published April 22, 2017
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April 17, 2018
Enjoyable and informative, this book is very easy to read, and it’s obvious that the author is an authority on the subject. As a coach/trainer myself I enjoy the way he’s approached his concepts in bite-sized pieces. He explains things very well, summing them up later as a refresher and going back to them as he expands on the topic. Perfect for the busy person. I definitely recommend this book to anyone who wants to communicate more effectively.
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