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Boy Vey! The Shiksa's Guide to Dating Jewish Men
The definitive, hilarious guide to why Jewish men make the best dates, where to snag a hot mensch, and how to win his mother's heartAfter all, she's molded him into the cutest little Oedipus complex you've ever met. Could you show some appreciation?With humor and emotion, Kristina Grish celebrates the terrific intricacies of multilayered, interfaith relationships in this girl-meets-boy dating guide. She waxes poetic about why Jewish men are great boyfriend They're smart, entrepreneurial, generous, doting, and funny. They love to eat, and they're passionate in bed. Sure, their neuroses have neuroses. But isn't it nice to know there are guys out there who analyze relationships more than you do?Chapters such as "Why Choose the Chosen Ones?," "The First Shtup," and "Talk Yiddish to Me" detail how a sexy Shiksa can meet, date, and love a nice Jewish boy of her own.
- GenresJudaism
176 pages, Paperback
First published January 1, 2005
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April 21, 2009
If I could give this .5 stars I would.
Pretty useless and just perpetuates stereotypes (jewish men are neurotic, good lovers, and only doctors/lawyers/bankers).
I realized it was going to be a fluffy book, but there could have been some relevance (for example how culture influences their choices, how religious rites fit in), but this was certainly all about how to change yourself and try to fit in. Including a list of conventions that would be highly attended by Jewish men (again, doctors, lawyers, and bankers). Really? Travel to a different city to meet a guy? Huh. That's not desperate.
Its a very easy read, and while I'll turn to other books to learn something more relevant about the culture, I guess this is a good guide for ladies who want to pretend to be something they aren't.
Pretty useless and just perpetuates stereotypes (jewish men are neurotic, good lovers, and only doctors/lawyers/bankers).
I realized it was going to be a fluffy book, but there could have been some relevance (for example how culture influences their choices, how religious rites fit in), but this was certainly all about how to change yourself and try to fit in. Including a list of conventions that would be highly attended by Jewish men (again, doctors, lawyers, and bankers). Really? Travel to a different city to meet a guy? Huh. That's not desperate.
Its a very easy read, and while I'll turn to other books to learn something more relevant about the culture, I guess this is a good guide for ladies who want to pretend to be something they aren't.
November 16, 2013
Awful and completely inaccurate. As a Jew, I would not recommend this to any shiksa for reading. I have no idea how the author managed to date and know so many Jews and yet still get so much wrong. All she does is perpetuate and encourage stereotypes, instead of being practical and realistic.
If a shiksa wanted to date a Jewish boy who was at all religious and not just secular, this book would be a disaster. Basically, this book is only useful if the Jewish man in question is a living breathing Hollywood stereotype of a cultural/secular Jewish man.
If a shiksa wanted to date a Jewish boy who was at all religious and not just secular, this book would be a disaster. Basically, this book is only useful if the Jewish man in question is a living breathing Hollywood stereotype of a cultural/secular Jewish man.
October 8, 2014
Goodreads should let you rate half points. Anyway, this book is "fun" in the Candence Bushnell kind of way. I am pretty sure it has some valid points, but sometimes it becomes into a joke. It is all in the way the writer says things. What I did like was the way she is not taking it very serious, like you are dating someone who is culturally different from you, and there is no reason to make a big fuss about it.
July 26, 2016
The best I can say about this book is that it can be read in a single train ride.
September 7, 2018
Let's break down how bad this is in no particular order
1. Kristina Grish was dating Scott Mebus, a non-Jewish man, at the time that she was writing this book. They married in 2007. Grish, by her own account, never married or had a long-term relationship with a Jewish man and only fetishised Jews for about 7 years. With a few exceptions, most of her Jewish conquests only dated her for about 5 months. So if you are using this book to score a hot rich Jewish husband, I don't think she is the person to give you advice.
2. The writing is Sex and the City as written by the ghostwriter to the Long Island Medium, which Grish is, she's written two of the LIM's books.
3. She is super predatorial in a creepy "pickup artist way" but with the false bravado of a New Yorker and the spunk of a Shopaholic book. Her jokey quirkiness makes it creepier for me.
4. I was horrified by this white Christian woman happily pulling her privilege, expecting unlimited praise for basically being white and Christian and being willing to bless the Hebrew nation with her White Christian Vagina. She endlessly objectifies Jewish men, belittled Jewish customs, and gleefull fulfilling the role of the Aryan Superwoman...excuse me, Shiksa Goddess, who of course would be adored by Jewish men because of the thrill of taboo and her innate superiority.
5. Maybe she should have had a Jewish editor to go along with the boyfriends because Shiksa derived from the Hebrew term שקץ shekets, meaning "abomination", "impure," or "object of loathing", It is not a quaint term for non-Jewish women. It is the equivalent of calling someone a filthy worthless whore.
6. This entire book is based on the racist and xenophobic American stereotype of Jewish men being upper middle class, materialistic, liberal, weak, urban, mamma's boys. It is offensive, fetishising, and extremely demeaning to the people she claims to love so much. Even if a racist stereotype is framed as a positive, it still diminishes someone's humanity.
7. Along with Jewish men being pushovers, Jewish women are harpies, and non-Jewish woman are manipulative man-eaters. Really, she does a terrible job of promoting herself as the heroine of her own story/guide/nightmare.
8. You will learn nothing of value about the Jewish faith or culture from this book. You will learn nothing about having a healthy and productive interfaith relationship.
9. Of course, her recipes are not Kosher. Yes, seduce your man by trying to induce him to betray the ideals of his forefathers, or because you are too lazy to learn our dietary laws, or because you actively get off at watching this person conform to your will, that's some wife material if I ever saw it.
10. This book contains about 50-80 pages of worthless filler just to pad out this crap to a reasonable page count. So not only is it trite and offensive, but it keeps going on and on about how trite and offensive it is.
WHAT YOU SHOULD KNOW:
-Look, if you want to date Moshe because he's a nice guy, that's cool, get to know him and his culture by asking questions.
-If you want to date Moshe because he's a Jew and you think Jews are genetically predisposed to being good boyfriends that are going to have you dripping in diamonds because White Girl puss is apparently magic, that's not cool. You need to go away with that noise.
-If you don't understand the difference between those two motivations, then you probably should stick to dating inanimate things that will have no problem with you objectifying them for your amusement.
Oh and just one more thing....
FETISHISING...JEWISH...MEN...IS...ANTI-SEMITIC...BEHAVIOUR! Grow up and knock it off
1. Kristina Grish was dating Scott Mebus, a non-Jewish man, at the time that she was writing this book. They married in 2007. Grish, by her own account, never married or had a long-term relationship with a Jewish man and only fetishised Jews for about 7 years. With a few exceptions, most of her Jewish conquests only dated her for about 5 months. So if you are using this book to score a hot rich Jewish husband, I don't think she is the person to give you advice.
2. The writing is Sex and the City as written by the ghostwriter to the Long Island Medium, which Grish is, she's written two of the LIM's books.
3. She is super predatorial in a creepy "pickup artist way" but with the false bravado of a New Yorker and the spunk of a Shopaholic book. Her jokey quirkiness makes it creepier for me.
4. I was horrified by this white Christian woman happily pulling her privilege, expecting unlimited praise for basically being white and Christian and being willing to bless the Hebrew nation with her White Christian Vagina. She endlessly objectifies Jewish men, belittled Jewish customs, and gleefull fulfilling the role of the Aryan Superwoman...excuse me, Shiksa Goddess, who of course would be adored by Jewish men because of the thrill of taboo and her innate superiority.
5. Maybe she should have had a Jewish editor to go along with the boyfriends because Shiksa derived from the Hebrew term שקץ shekets, meaning "abomination", "impure," or "object of loathing", It is not a quaint term for non-Jewish women. It is the equivalent of calling someone a filthy worthless whore.
6. This entire book is based on the racist and xenophobic American stereotype of Jewish men being upper middle class, materialistic, liberal, weak, urban, mamma's boys. It is offensive, fetishising, and extremely demeaning to the people she claims to love so much. Even if a racist stereotype is framed as a positive, it still diminishes someone's humanity.
7. Along with Jewish men being pushovers, Jewish women are harpies, and non-Jewish woman are manipulative man-eaters. Really, she does a terrible job of promoting herself as the heroine of her own story/guide/nightmare.
8. You will learn nothing of value about the Jewish faith or culture from this book. You will learn nothing about having a healthy and productive interfaith relationship.
9. Of course, her recipes are not Kosher. Yes, seduce your man by trying to induce him to betray the ideals of his forefathers, or because you are too lazy to learn our dietary laws, or because you actively get off at watching this person conform to your will, that's some wife material if I ever saw it.
10. This book contains about 50-80 pages of worthless filler just to pad out this crap to a reasonable page count. So not only is it trite and offensive, but it keeps going on and on about how trite and offensive it is.
WHAT YOU SHOULD KNOW:
-Look, if you want to date Moshe because he's a nice guy, that's cool, get to know him and his culture by asking questions.
-If you want to date Moshe because he's a Jew and you think Jews are genetically predisposed to being good boyfriends that are going to have you dripping in diamonds because White Girl puss is apparently magic, that's not cool. You need to go away with that noise.
-If you don't understand the difference between those two motivations, then you probably should stick to dating inanimate things that will have no problem with you objectifying them for your amusement.
Oh and just one more thing....
FETISHISING...JEWISH...MEN...IS...ANTI-SEMITIC...BEHAVIOUR! Grow up and knock it off
May 15, 2008
This answered many questions and thoughts I had about the Jewish culture. It made perfect sense and is great for any non-Jew to read. You will connect with it instantly and simply discover the reasons why this and why that..
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April 27, 2008This book is a very good book for "Shiska's" it lets you in on little secrets when dating a Jewish man and a little bit about the family and what they may be like.
July 9, 2008
This book is AMAZING for any Shiksa dating a Jewish man. Not only is it an entertaining read, but you will learn something too! I strongly recommend this book.
November 21, 2014
This book was given to me by a friend just after I told her I had a "Hebrew honey" =) I was very informative and funny! giggled the whole way through! highly recommend it!
January 1, 2012
i bought this book because it was on clearance and it seemed good for a few laughs - it definitely was! this is mostly a comedy book with a lot of stereotypes.
April 4, 2012
Read this book cover to cover with a nice glass of wine. I was actually laughing out loud alone in my apartment. Let's just say I could relate.
January 19, 2009
hilarious. with some fabulous tips.
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