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The Black Girl's Guide To Being Blissfully Feminine
You’ve been told that you must be strong . You know what you want and you think you know how to get it, but no matter how hard you try, you still feel like there’s “something missing”, you are overworked, tired, and ready to give up. Author Candice Adewole knows your struggle and, more importantly, knows how to get you headed in the right direction. The Black Girl’s Guide to Being Blissfully Feminine was written with you and countless other wonderful women like yourself in mind. It is more than a book. It’s a movement – a movement toward the very things you were put on this Earth to love unconditionally, nurture without fear, and live your truth. Part inspirational guide, part how-to manual, this book will not only walk you through the process of embracing your femininity, but will introduce you to all the benefits that can come from opening up your heart and your life to the possibilities. If real love and commitment are what you’re after, this book is for you. If attracting the right man and building a strong foundation for your family with him is what you desire, this book is your answer. If being magnetic and powerful is what you want, then this book is for you. If bridging communities and mending relationships are something you aspire to do, this book will give you practical everyday tips on how to do that. If the idea of living blissfully in your true feminine essence is your idea of living wholly, this book is what you need. What are you waiting for? The key to your bright, beautiful future is here, waiting for you to open your heart and your mind to all the wonderful possibilities. Buy your copy today!
161 pages, Kindle Edition
Published July 28, 2016
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January 27, 2022
I enjoy femininity content and I selected this title hoping that I’d enjoy this book as well. I didn’t.
I agree with the author on a few things. I love working out and staying fit. I enjoy being soft and pretty. I’m not working myself into an early grave. I am not a superhero and I don’t have plans to save the world. I’m a good wife, mother and I keep a wonderful home. That’s pretty much the extent of where I agree with this author.
I don’t like yelling, but the idea of keeping my voice a few octaves above a whisper is ridiculous. I know that some people have a fear of antidepressants, but dear reader if you are struggling with mental illness please call your physician and don’t try treating it with vitamins that have not been approved by the FDA. Withholding communication for months to prove a point is childish as is performing your marriage for others. It’s one thing to have natural public displays of affection. It’s another to do it for the sole purpose of letting others know that you love your spouse. These suggestions are ludicrous.
It’s better to explore what works and what does not work in your marriage with the person that you are married to or are planning to marry. The author suggests that you allow your husband into your kitchen sparingly-even if you marry a professional chef! My husband loves to cook, so this would be extremely hurtful to him. We both work and the idea of me keeping my earnings and only using the resources for vacations and education isn’t reasonable for our family. It may be for some, but not for us. That’s a personal decision that a family must make. Together. Deciding that you are not going to contribute financially to your family in an effort to not emasculate your husband because an author (I am using that term loosely) told you to is problematic.
Lastly, this book is poorly written. It’s filled with grammatical and formatting errors. You can find quality femininity content that outweighs what this author is offering for free on YouTube. Don’t bother with this. I read a review that stated that this content is harmful to young women and I fully agree.
I agree with the author on a few things. I love working out and staying fit. I enjoy being soft and pretty. I’m not working myself into an early grave. I am not a superhero and I don’t have plans to save the world. I’m a good wife, mother and I keep a wonderful home. That’s pretty much the extent of where I agree with this author.
I don’t like yelling, but the idea of keeping my voice a few octaves above a whisper is ridiculous. I know that some people have a fear of antidepressants, but dear reader if you are struggling with mental illness please call your physician and don’t try treating it with vitamins that have not been approved by the FDA. Withholding communication for months to prove a point is childish as is performing your marriage for others. It’s one thing to have natural public displays of affection. It’s another to do it for the sole purpose of letting others know that you love your spouse. These suggestions are ludicrous.
It’s better to explore what works and what does not work in your marriage with the person that you are married to or are planning to marry. The author suggests that you allow your husband into your kitchen sparingly-even if you marry a professional chef! My husband loves to cook, so this would be extremely hurtful to him. We both work and the idea of me keeping my earnings and only using the resources for vacations and education isn’t reasonable for our family. It may be for some, but not for us. That’s a personal decision that a family must make. Together. Deciding that you are not going to contribute financially to your family in an effort to not emasculate your husband because an author (I am using that term loosely) told you to is problematic.
Lastly, this book is poorly written. It’s filled with grammatical and formatting errors. You can find quality femininity content that outweighs what this author is offering for free on YouTube. Don’t bother with this. I read a review that stated that this content is harmful to young women and I fully agree.
August 8, 2024
I’ll give this book 3 stars!
It was an easy read, no long drawn out chapters & straight to the point! Finished this book in 2 days! (Could’ve been one if I didn’t put it down lol)
I love all things feminine & am always open to learning more about femininity. I love how the author Candice implemented practical tips and examples for certain things she mentions.
Now as a Christian woman myself, I would take some of her views with a grain of salt! (Kinda skipped over the divine feminine & law of attraction bits) lol
But overall I did take some gems from this book! My con would be I wish she gave us a bit more!
I know some women took offense to her comparisons of the African American culture to the Latin culture. As a black woman myself, I did not. I’ve witnessed the difference first hand after traveling to different parts of the world. Fact of the matter is….Americans can tend to be a bit more “cold” & I’m saying this from my experience of living here in the states for most of my life lol. I love how she touched on affection & touch *no pun intended* that was the first time I actually thought much about that subject when it comes to femininity. The comparison of Latina women & black women when it comes to affection & “pet names” was actually *chefs kiss because it actually painted the picture for me & I knew exactly what she meant by it!
A moment I *did cringe* in the book was when she was mentioning the topic of cooking and how only women should be in the kitchen….its 2024 cmon, now? I do believe in all women being nurturing and being domestic in the home, but that doesn’t mean that a man should or could never decide to cook a meal for his wife if he decides lol…overall good & entertaining read!
It was an easy read, no long drawn out chapters & straight to the point! Finished this book in 2 days! (Could’ve been one if I didn’t put it down lol)
I love all things feminine & am always open to learning more about femininity. I love how the author Candice implemented practical tips and examples for certain things she mentions.
Now as a Christian woman myself, I would take some of her views with a grain of salt! (Kinda skipped over the divine feminine & law of attraction bits) lol
But overall I did take some gems from this book! My con would be I wish she gave us a bit more!
I know some women took offense to her comparisons of the African American culture to the Latin culture. As a black woman myself, I did not. I’ve witnessed the difference first hand after traveling to different parts of the world. Fact of the matter is….Americans can tend to be a bit more “cold” & I’m saying this from my experience of living here in the states for most of my life lol. I love how she touched on affection & touch *no pun intended* that was the first time I actually thought much about that subject when it comes to femininity. The comparison of Latina women & black women when it comes to affection & “pet names” was actually *chefs kiss because it actually painted the picture for me & I knew exactly what she meant by it!
A moment I *did cringe* in the book was when she was mentioning the topic of cooking and how only women should be in the kitchen….its 2024 cmon, now? I do believe in all women being nurturing and being domestic in the home, but that doesn’t mean that a man should or could never decide to cook a meal for his wife if he decides lol…overall good & entertaining read!
November 10, 2020
I love the way Candance used her experiences as a blue print for this book and how she talks about some of her personal shortcomings. It really kept me engaged and intrigued throughout the book. However, some parts felt a little like she was putting Latina women up on this pedestal and putting black women (AA in particular) down. I understand it was from her own personal experience and feelings it just felt a little like self-hate to a certain extent. I also just personally did not agree with all her rules one in particular "Under no circumstances is your children allowed to sleep with you." rule not really sure how a child my husband and myself created could come between our marriage if I let them sleep in our bed on occasion but I digress. Certainly a great read will be buying for close girlfriends this Christmas.
July 3, 2018
Must Read
This book has the power to change lives. Without degrading a woman to change her ways, but uplifting her into trying something new. Changing your atmosphere as you grow older is so important. But it's more important to understand why the change is needed, and how to proceed. Thank you Sis. Candice you did an amazing job. I'm so proud of you. #ASHE
This book has the power to change lives. Without degrading a woman to change her ways, but uplifting her into trying something new. Changing your atmosphere as you grow older is so important. But it's more important to understand why the change is needed, and how to proceed. Thank you Sis. Candice you did an amazing job. I'm so proud of you. #ASHE
January 11, 2019
Loved it!
The Black Girl’s Guide To Being Blissfully Feminine was a great book full of small, actionable nuggets of wisdom. It’s set up to be a quick read but I took my time between the chapters to let it sink in and practice new ideas. I would definitely recommend to friends and family.
The Black Girl’s Guide To Being Blissfully Feminine was a great book full of small, actionable nuggets of wisdom. It’s set up to be a quick read but I took my time between the chapters to let it sink in and practice new ideas. I would definitely recommend to friends and family.
January 3, 2020
A Necessary Read for Feminine African American Woman
This guide has everything from hygiene to work etiquette. Since I am more aware of my femininity men treat me like a lady. For example, men approach me, they are careful with their words, and some speed up to open the door form me.
This guide has everything from hygiene to work etiquette. Since I am more aware of my femininity men treat me like a lady. For example, men approach me, they are careful with their words, and some speed up to open the door form me.
December 22, 2021
Great cover, and I found some of this to be helpful, but I also found a good bit of it judgmental, uninformed and outdated, with sweepingly broad generalizations that were often incorrect. I get what the author was trying to do here, but this book has a bit of a ‘one size fits all’ feel that doesn’t really work. I would say take what you find helpful and ignore the rest.
July 13, 2020
Great read
This book is off outing at first because it's not meant for everyone.I found chapter 37 problematic. I don't find it wise to tell women the stuff discussed.for many it and I it was triggering and hurtful.
This book is off outing at first because it's not meant for everyone.I found chapter 37 problematic. I don't find it wise to tell women the stuff discussed.for many it and I it was triggering and hurtful.
September 4, 2020
Loved it!
I have always been a feminine woman growing up, but this author broke it down wonderfully. This book provided me with a deeper understanding of femininity and its effects. This is knowledge every woman should obtain.
I have always been a feminine woman growing up, but this author broke it down wonderfully. This book provided me with a deeper understanding of femininity and its effects. This is knowledge every woman should obtain.
December 28, 2017
I so love this book
This book has taught me so much. I realize I've been doing everything wrong and would encourage every woman to purchase this book. A great eye opener.
This book has taught me so much. I realize I've been doing everything wrong and would encourage every woman to purchase this book. A great eye opener.
March 7, 2018
Great read
Really enjoyed reading this book, it’s was very informative and a great guide on how to be become more feminine.
Really enjoyed reading this book, it’s was very informative and a great guide on how to be become more feminine.
September 20, 2019
Lots of truth in this. The writing was a little unpolished, but the counsel in the book was mostly sound. Some parts were too new ageish for my taste, but overall I liked it.
February 26, 2021
If you want to cultivate your femininity this is the book to read!
January 6, 2025
Agree to disagree... it is a good book for a fluid reading session! Will definitely incorporate some of her guide lines into my life!
August 14, 2021
Context: white straight male with fairly gender neutral attitudes.
I read this book not with the expectation of taking or giving any of the advice, but to see a perspective of someone in that demographic talking in turn to it. A curiosity to see what were the topics and assumptions, and how such a person would approach them.
Still, overall, I think it's a fairly kind discussion. Most of the advice in general is just steering away from (toxic) masculinity: the normalization of meanness, physical violence, and a tendency to view relationships as control battles. The callout is good, the path laid out I'd be skeptical of. Certainly it has more rigid gender roles baked into the whole premise of the thing- and with that comes an expectation and enablement in the other sex.
The topics range on things that were very fascinating as an outsider. I knew hair was important . . . but the extent and complexity of the subject, made me feel an appreciation and a sense of scale I don't think I had before. There's practical examples on self care routines- the why and how to communicate the priority. There's an entire section on the importance of swallowing. Chuckles aside, it was enjoyable to read the author's introspection on the significance of all these things.
Again, being who I am, the advice isn't meant for me- but I praise the author for laying out her thoughts in a way that allowed some honest critiquing. This would not be possible if the context and reasoning were not so thoroughly established.
Definitely fun to read, and the author's perspective is definitely a valuable one.
I read this book not with the expectation of taking or giving any of the advice, but to see a perspective of someone in that demographic talking in turn to it. A curiosity to see what were the topics and assumptions, and how such a person would approach them.
Still, overall, I think it's a fairly kind discussion. Most of the advice in general is just steering away from (toxic) masculinity: the normalization of meanness, physical violence, and a tendency to view relationships as control battles. The callout is good, the path laid out I'd be skeptical of. Certainly it has more rigid gender roles baked into the whole premise of the thing- and with that comes an expectation and enablement in the other sex.
The topics range on things that were very fascinating as an outsider. I knew hair was important . . . but the extent and complexity of the subject, made me feel an appreciation and a sense of scale I don't think I had before. There's practical examples on self care routines- the why and how to communicate the priority. There's an entire section on the importance of swallowing. Chuckles aside, it was enjoyable to read the author's introspection on the significance of all these things.
Again, being who I am, the advice isn't meant for me- but I praise the author for laying out her thoughts in a way that allowed some honest critiquing. This would not be possible if the context and reasoning were not so thoroughly established.
Definitely fun to read, and the author's perspective is definitely a valuable one.
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