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Monkeytraps: Why Everybody Tries to Control Everything and How We Can Stop
Something’s missing from your life -- this much you know.
But did you know you may be looking for it in the wrong place?
This book is about a problem disguised as a solution, an idea that shapes and drives us all:
Control.
It’s about the universal urge to make reality meet our expectations. How this urge becomes an addiction, wrecking lives and relationships. How it leads to anxiety, depression, substance abuse, broken marriages and dysfunctional parenting.
In this book you'll learn:
Why everyone is addicted to control
How this addiction causes most -- if not all -- of our emotional problems
How to listen to feelings instead of controlling them
Filled with actionable insights you can start using today, Monkeytraps is a must-read for anyone seeking happiness, healthier relationships, and more peace of mind.
But did you know you may be looking for it in the wrong place?
This book is about a problem disguised as a solution, an idea that shapes and drives us all:
Control.
It’s about the universal urge to make reality meet our expectations. How this urge becomes an addiction, wrecking lives and relationships. How it leads to anxiety, depression, substance abuse, broken marriages and dysfunctional parenting.
In this book you'll learn:
Why everyone is addicted to control
How this addiction causes most -- if not all -- of our emotional problems
How to listen to feelings instead of controlling them
Filled with actionable insights you can start using today, Monkeytraps is a must-read for anyone seeking happiness, healthier relationships, and more peace of mind.
376 pages, Kindle Edition
Published December 19, 2015
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About the author
Steve Hauptman
2 books13 followersAuthor, Steve Hauptman is a Gestalt-trained, Buddhist-flavored therapist who has practiced on Long Island for twenty years. He has released his first book titled:
"Monkeytraps: Why Everybody Tries to Control Everything and How We Can Stop"
He graduated from Adelphi University's School of Social Work, trained at the Gestalt Center of Long Island, and specializes in a unique control-centered approach that integrates elements of psychodynamic, Gestalt, cognitive-behavioral and family systems theory in the treatment of anxiety, depression, addictions, dual disorders, codependency and relationship problems.
A leader of Interactive Therapy groups, he is also a cartoonist and creator of the blogs
Monkeytraps: A blog about control, Monkey House (a forum for discussing control issues), and Bert's Therapy: Adventures of an Inner Monkey.
"Monkeytraps: Why Everybody Tries to Control Everything and How We Can Stop"
He graduated from Adelphi University's School of Social Work, trained at the Gestalt Center of Long Island, and specializes in a unique control-centered approach that integrates elements of psychodynamic, Gestalt, cognitive-behavioral and family systems theory in the treatment of anxiety, depression, addictions, dual disorders, codependency and relationship problems.
A leader of Interactive Therapy groups, he is also a cartoonist and creator of the blogs
Monkeytraps: A blog about control, Monkey House (a forum for discussing control issues), and Bert's Therapy: Adventures of an Inner Monkey.
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January 21, 2017
Steve Hauptman's text could justifiably be required reading for every human. Its short and meaningful lessons are infused with humor, anecdotal studies and Truths (yes, the big T) that resonate with every life experience I can think of. While the author doesn't hesitate to use himself as an example, I found my own--enculturation, relationships, family, historical and present paradigms--reflected in line after line. I kept a pen handy to savor each gem of a chapter; I wanted to extract quote after perfect quote to reflect on in future. But before I do that, I want to read it a second time. One question lingers: Are five stars enough to rate this book?
Julie Saeger Nierenberg, MEd, Editor, Educator, Author of "Daddy, this is it. Being-with My Dying Dad"
Julie Saeger Nierenberg, MEd, Editor, Educator, Author of "Daddy, this is it. Being-with My Dying Dad"
January 16, 2016
Fantastic book on Control... Will help many.
April 7, 2025
Monkey traps is a basic regurgitation of ideas that don't actually belong to the author. The writing is sophmoric and the illustrations are poor.
February 17, 2016
"Nothing Like Calming The Control Monkeys In Your Head!"
I am a person who lives life in recovery from addiction. I can tell you that after reading this fine authors e-book, I now know I was also addicted to "Control." But this book is not just for those in recovery. It is for everyone.
What an amazing guide, resource and wonderful read on how to grab hold of control and remove it from your life. Steve did a fantastic job with writing this book. And of course, I loved the humor and wit in making light of just how bad this behavior is, and how it invades every part of our lives. In our relationships, co-workers, spouses, family, etc.
Steve clearly lays out how to remove control out of your life, and shows just how much "negativity" surrounds this behavior. If you want a more peaceful and happy life? I highly recommend everyone to read this amazing book! When I entered recovery, the first thing we are taught is: "we have no CONTROL over people, places, and things, and our recovery journey will be more smooth if we let go of control."
Funny, I have a list made already of those I will be recommending this book to! LOL.
A 5-Star read worth your time!
I am a person who lives life in recovery from addiction. I can tell you that after reading this fine authors e-book, I now know I was also addicted to "Control." But this book is not just for those in recovery. It is for everyone.
What an amazing guide, resource and wonderful read on how to grab hold of control and remove it from your life. Steve did a fantastic job with writing this book. And of course, I loved the humor and wit in making light of just how bad this behavior is, and how it invades every part of our lives. In our relationships, co-workers, spouses, family, etc.
Steve clearly lays out how to remove control out of your life, and shows just how much "negativity" surrounds this behavior. If you want a more peaceful and happy life? I highly recommend everyone to read this amazing book! When I entered recovery, the first thing we are taught is: "we have no CONTROL over people, places, and things, and our recovery journey will be more smooth if we let go of control."
Funny, I have a list made already of those I will be recommending this book to! LOL.
A 5-Star read worth your time!
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