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True Betrayal: 9 Steps for Processing Your Spouse’s Infidelity
True Betrayal
by counselor and pastor Brad Hambrick outlines a clear, compassionate, and biblical 9-step framework for processing and healing from your spouse’s sexual infidelity.
Finding out about your spouse’s sexual sin feels like a gut punch. In your overwhelming flood of emotions, you may feel like pretending like it never happened or you might think you need to take intense, immediate action. In the middle of your questions and pain, you need a safe, stable place to process what has happened and to take wise steps forward. Your spouse’s sexual sin is not your fault. Grief is going to be a major part of your healing journey, and the Lord is walking with you as you face what’s next.
This support group curriculum seeks to capture the gospel in slow motion and facilitates a safe environment for participants to grow together as they articulate their pain, grieve, and identify healthy ways to reengage with life and set realistic expectations for themselves and their spouse.
9-step model that helps participants process the intense suffering of a spouse’s infidelity with the hope of the gospel.An in-depth resource offers churches and individuals a unique opportunity to respond to the experience of infidelity in a faith-filled and healing way.A resource in the Church-Based Counseling series, built on the G4 model of subject-specific, lay-led counseling groups, designed to help churches create sustainable lay counseling ministries.
Finding out about your spouse’s sexual sin feels like a gut punch. In your overwhelming flood of emotions, you may feel like pretending like it never happened or you might think you need to take intense, immediate action. In the middle of your questions and pain, you need a safe, stable place to process what has happened and to take wise steps forward. Your spouse’s sexual sin is not your fault. Grief is going to be a major part of your healing journey, and the Lord is walking with you as you face what’s next.
This support group curriculum seeks to capture the gospel in slow motion and facilitates a safe environment for participants to grow together as they articulate their pain, grieve, and identify healthy ways to reengage with life and set realistic expectations for themselves and their spouse.
9-step model that helps participants process the intense suffering of a spouse’s infidelity with the hope of the gospel.An in-depth resource offers churches and individuals a unique opportunity to respond to the experience of infidelity in a faith-filled and healing way.A resource in the Church-Based Counseling series, built on the G4 model of subject-specific, lay-led counseling groups, designed to help churches create sustainable lay counseling ministries.
333 pages, Kindle Edition
Published August 10, 2025
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October 4, 2025
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True Betrayal by pastor, professor, and biblical counselor Brad Hambrick is one of the latest titles in the Church-Based Counseling series of books. These books utilize a recovery group ministry called G4, where G stands for gopsel-centered groups and 4 refers to the four types of groups included in the ministry. These groups are Recovery, Support, Therapeutic Educational, and Process. True Betrayal focuses on helping spouses process marital infidelity.
I've not experienced marital infidelity, but I wanted to read this book in order to be an encouragement to brothers and sisters who have. This book is an incredible resource, and I highly recommend it for healing from marital infidelity. The tone is compassionate and tender, doing a lovely job of balancing grace and truth. Hambrick isn't one to rush the healing process. He acknowledges early on in the book that G4 isn't one size fits all and that the healing process takes time.
True Betrayal helpfully examines many doubts and questions a wounded spouse may experience in the aftermath of infidelity. It points them to the hope of the gospel and validates their experiences and feelings through a biblical lens. I was impressed by the amount of detail and thoughtfulness that went into this book. Each chapter includes a QR code for viewing the corresponding video material for that chapter. The videos can also be viewed here.
One aspect of the book I appreciated is its handling of abuse. Page 14 details how to respond if sexual sin has occurred against a child. Readers are encouraged to contact CPS and law enforcement. Regarding the responsibility to report abuse, Hambrick wrote, "This responsibility supersedes any obligations you may feel as a spouse." He also encourages spouses to contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline if they've experienced domestic abuse.
I've read about many instances in which pastors instructed spouses who had been sinned against to remain in an abusive marriage. In some instances, some spouses heeded this instruction to their detriment. Such advice is wicked and should never come from someone who claims to follow Christ. It was refreshing to read Hambrick's wise, practical, biblical advice and to know that there are Christians who don't encourage image bearers to remain in abusive situations. Mishandling abuse risks marring our witness to the beauty of Christ, and I can imagine that many readers will find Hambrick's counsel healing.
I also appreciated how the emphasis of this particular G4 book and group is for the spouse who's been betrayed to make their own decisions. Part of the True Betrayal program is not making any major decisions until the program is completed, and I thought that was helpful and wise.
This book is designed for groups to complete together, but it is also great for individual use. I love the structure of the G4 program and the idea of healing happening together. Although I'm not facing the particular struggle this book focuses on, I still gleaned biblical wisdom for counseling this issue and found it to be an incredibly helpful read.
I received True Betrayal compliments of New Growth Press in exchange for my honest review.
True Betrayal by pastor, professor, and biblical counselor Brad Hambrick is one of the latest titles in the Church-Based Counseling series of books. These books utilize a recovery group ministry called G4, where G stands for gopsel-centered groups and 4 refers to the four types of groups included in the ministry. These groups are Recovery, Support, Therapeutic Educational, and Process. True Betrayal focuses on helping spouses process marital infidelity.
I've not experienced marital infidelity, but I wanted to read this book in order to be an encouragement to brothers and sisters who have. This book is an incredible resource, and I highly recommend it for healing from marital infidelity. The tone is compassionate and tender, doing a lovely job of balancing grace and truth. Hambrick isn't one to rush the healing process. He acknowledges early on in the book that G4 isn't one size fits all and that the healing process takes time.
True Betrayal helpfully examines many doubts and questions a wounded spouse may experience in the aftermath of infidelity. It points them to the hope of the gospel and validates their experiences and feelings through a biblical lens. I was impressed by the amount of detail and thoughtfulness that went into this book. Each chapter includes a QR code for viewing the corresponding video material for that chapter. The videos can also be viewed here.
One aspect of the book I appreciated is its handling of abuse. Page 14 details how to respond if sexual sin has occurred against a child. Readers are encouraged to contact CPS and law enforcement. Regarding the responsibility to report abuse, Hambrick wrote, "This responsibility supersedes any obligations you may feel as a spouse." He also encourages spouses to contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline if they've experienced domestic abuse.
I've read about many instances in which pastors instructed spouses who had been sinned against to remain in an abusive marriage. In some instances, some spouses heeded this instruction to their detriment. Such advice is wicked and should never come from someone who claims to follow Christ. It was refreshing to read Hambrick's wise, practical, biblical advice and to know that there are Christians who don't encourage image bearers to remain in abusive situations. Mishandling abuse risks marring our witness to the beauty of Christ, and I can imagine that many readers will find Hambrick's counsel healing.
I also appreciated how the emphasis of this particular G4 book and group is for the spouse who's been betrayed to make their own decisions. Part of the True Betrayal program is not making any major decisions until the program is completed, and I thought that was helpful and wise.
This book is designed for groups to complete together, but it is also great for individual use. I love the structure of the G4 program and the idea of healing happening together. Although I'm not facing the particular struggle this book focuses on, I still gleaned biblical wisdom for counseling this issue and found it to be an incredibly helpful read.
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