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It Stops With Me: 10 Mindful Parenting Tools to Break the Cycle, Heal Generational Trauma and Raise Emotionally Strong Kids
Break the Transform Your Family Legacy Through Mindful Parenting.Every parent carries invisible baggage, emotional patterns, reactive triggers and unconscious beliefs inherited from their own childhood. Despite our best intentions, we often find ourselves repeating the very behaviors we swore we'd never use with our children.
It Stops With Me offers a compassionate roadmap for parents ready to break generational cycles, heal past trauma and create lasting change.
Drawing on neuroscience, attachment theory and practical wisdom, this book provides 10 powerful tools to help youunderstand how your childhood experiences shape your parenting triggers.use mindfulness to stay present during challenging moments with your children.rewrite the limiting stories that drive reactive parenting.communicate consciously even during conflict and emotional storms.discipline effectively without shame or fear-based tactics.heal your own inner child while nurturing your actual children.create a family culture built on emotional strength and authentic connection.This isn't about becoming a perfect parent, it's about becoming a conscious one. With practical exercises, real-life examples and gentle guidance, you'll learn to parent from your values rather than your wounds, creating the emotionally healthy family you've always envisioned.
The cycle can end with you. Your children can inherit emotional tools instead of emotional trauma. The healing work you do today will ripple through generations to come.
It Stops With Me offers a compassionate roadmap for parents ready to break generational cycles, heal past trauma and create lasting change.
Drawing on neuroscience, attachment theory and practical wisdom, this book provides 10 powerful tools to help youunderstand how your childhood experiences shape your parenting triggers.use mindfulness to stay present during challenging moments with your children.rewrite the limiting stories that drive reactive parenting.communicate consciously even during conflict and emotional storms.discipline effectively without shame or fear-based tactics.heal your own inner child while nurturing your actual children.create a family culture built on emotional strength and authentic connection.This isn't about becoming a perfect parent, it's about becoming a conscious one. With practical exercises, real-life examples and gentle guidance, you'll learn to parent from your values rather than your wounds, creating the emotionally healthy family you've always envisioned.
The cycle can end with you. Your children can inherit emotional tools instead of emotional trauma. The healing work you do today will ripple through generations to come.
153 pages, Kindle Edition
Published June 12, 2025
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February 2, 2026
It Stops With Me: 10 Mindful Parenting Tools to Break the Cycle, Heal Generational Trauma and Raise Emotionally Strong Kids
By Ellis Carter
Parenting feels a lot like holding a mirror to your own childhood - some reflections are warm and familiar, others sting like old splinters. In It Stops With Me, Ellis Carter doesn’t hand you another shiny parenting manual; she hands you sandpaper for the soul and the courage to use it. This isn’t about “fixing” yourself in the Instagram-perfect sense - it’s about finally unpacking the emotional hand-me-downs that clutter your family’s story and rewriting what gets passed on.
The book walks straight into the messy heart of parenting - the inherited beliefs, the voices that sneak in from your own parents, the triggers that hit before you even realize they’re yours. Each chapter drops another tool into your belt: staying present when emotions flare, disciplining with respect instead of fear, and learning to speak with your children instead of at them. Carter links neuroscience with honesty, laying out a roadmap that feels both practical and deeply personal. You don’t have to dig through therapy textbooks to get it; you just need a desire to stop repeating what hurt you.
There’s something magical about how Carter writes - equal parts tough love and tender truth. She doesn’t sugarcoat the work; she makes you want to do it. Every section feels like sitting across from a friend who’s walked the same storm and still believes the sun’s worth chasing. Her examples hit hard because they’re real - tantrums, regrets, and quiet victories that remind you healing doesn’t happen in a straight line.
The pacing is steady and purposeful, easing you through reflection without ever dragging. The transitions flow like conversation - one idea rolling effortlessly into the next. You feel anchored by her calm voice even when the topic cuts close to bone. The book’s tone is warm but uncompromising, the kind that opens your chest and says, “Let’s deal with this - together.”
If you’ve ever caught yourself saying something you swore you’d never repeat - or seen your past peek out through your parenting - It Stops With Me is your wake-up call. It’s an invitation to turn the page on generational pain, to raise children who inherit your strength, not your scars. Available now on Amazon and wherever courage meets compassion on the bookshelf.
As always, all opinions and reviews are of my own volition. I have not been promised any compensation, current or future, by the author or publisher for a fair and honest review.
By Ellis Carter
Parenting feels a lot like holding a mirror to your own childhood - some reflections are warm and familiar, others sting like old splinters. In It Stops With Me, Ellis Carter doesn’t hand you another shiny parenting manual; she hands you sandpaper for the soul and the courage to use it. This isn’t about “fixing” yourself in the Instagram-perfect sense - it’s about finally unpacking the emotional hand-me-downs that clutter your family’s story and rewriting what gets passed on.
The book walks straight into the messy heart of parenting - the inherited beliefs, the voices that sneak in from your own parents, the triggers that hit before you even realize they’re yours. Each chapter drops another tool into your belt: staying present when emotions flare, disciplining with respect instead of fear, and learning to speak with your children instead of at them. Carter links neuroscience with honesty, laying out a roadmap that feels both practical and deeply personal. You don’t have to dig through therapy textbooks to get it; you just need a desire to stop repeating what hurt you.
There’s something magical about how Carter writes - equal parts tough love and tender truth. She doesn’t sugarcoat the work; she makes you want to do it. Every section feels like sitting across from a friend who’s walked the same storm and still believes the sun’s worth chasing. Her examples hit hard because they’re real - tantrums, regrets, and quiet victories that remind you healing doesn’t happen in a straight line.
The pacing is steady and purposeful, easing you through reflection without ever dragging. The transitions flow like conversation - one idea rolling effortlessly into the next. You feel anchored by her calm voice even when the topic cuts close to bone. The book’s tone is warm but uncompromising, the kind that opens your chest and says, “Let’s deal with this - together.”
If you’ve ever caught yourself saying something you swore you’d never repeat - or seen your past peek out through your parenting - It Stops With Me is your wake-up call. It’s an invitation to turn the page on generational pain, to raise children who inherit your strength, not your scars. Available now on Amazon and wherever courage meets compassion on the bookshelf.
As always, all opinions and reviews are of my own volition. I have not been promised any compensation, current or future, by the author or publisher for a fair and honest review.
September 23, 2025
The encouragement i needed
I have many favorite quotes from thos book, that play through my mind to help me to keep repairing when needed and returning to the goals I have for my parenting. I appreciate how thoughtful and encouraging this book is, no shaming or blaming, but grace abundant.
I have many favorite quotes from thos book, that play through my mind to help me to keep repairing when needed and returning to the goals I have for my parenting. I appreciate how thoughtful and encouraging this book is, no shaming or blaming, but grace abundant.
January 19, 2026
I am grateful to have received an advance review copy, and I am leaving this review voluntarily. This is a wonderful resource to learn emotional regulation and communication strategies, not only for parents, but also for people in general. I found myself frequently thinking that the same exact advice can be applied just as successfully to almost all relational conflicts, including but not limited to romantic partners, friends, adult and extended family, and even some professional circumstances. I will be recommending this book to at least two parents this week and will continue to recommend it for many parents, as well as a tool for adults who may not be parents. Great resource for communication and healing!
January 13, 2026
A great book for yelling parents (who were abused or neglected)
This book reviews the generational inheritance of yelling and emotional turmoil within families. It define emotional triggers for parents and explains mindful awareness. It discussed communication styles and culture within the family. Parents are taught the significance of repair and various types of discipline. Most importantly, the chapter on parenting the parent’s inner child is crucial and well-done. A lovely, and important book!
This book reviews the generational inheritance of yelling and emotional turmoil within families. It define emotional triggers for parents and explains mindful awareness. It discussed communication styles and culture within the family. Parents are taught the significance of repair and various types of discipline. Most importantly, the chapter on parenting the parent’s inner child is crucial and well-done. A lovely, and important book!
February 21, 2026
This is a heartfelt and empowering resource for parents ready to reflect, grow, and parent with intention. As someone trying to manage the traumatising experience of an acrimonious divorce on 3 very different children, I am trying to do so while building emotional healing myself. I like that each chapter offers practical exercises, reflection prompts, and real-life examples. I am also trying to move forward from my own childhood experiences. Some of the examples around sibling conflict and self-reflection are great for me.
I received an advance review copy for free, and I am leaving this review voluntarily.
I received an advance review copy for free, and I am leaving this review voluntarily.
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