"Yup." "Nope." "Maybe.": A Woman's Guide to Getting More Out of the Language of Men

by Stephen James, David Thomas

Oftentimes when two guys are communicating, a lot can be communicated with a few head nods, a couple of grunts. From a woman's perspective, men aren't always so clear. What a woman hears a man say and what he means to communicate can often be very disconnected. Gain an appreciation for how men communicate and discover the depth of feelings that your man has been trying to communicate to you. A companion book to ""Does This Dress Make Me Look Fat?"" the book for men. Contains a group study guide. Chapter Headings: Yup. Nope. Maybe. (Decoding manspeak) I'm Not Lost (Why won't men stop for directions?) Wanna Do It? (Do men "always" think about sex?) Your Problem Is . . . (Why does he always try to fix my problems?) You're Too Sensitive! (Are men emotionally constipated?) In a Minute (Why do men spend so much time on the toilet? Can't it Wait Till Halftime? (What's the deal with men and sports?) What Were You Thinking? (Why women will always have questions about men) Conclusion Discussion Guide

Genres: Relationships, Marriage, Christian

176 pages, Paperback

First published March 29, 2007

About the author

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Stephen James, LPC, MHSP, NCC is a private practice psychotherapist in Nashville, TN where he provides individual, couples, and group therapy as well as organizational and leadership consulting.

He received his MA in Counseling from The Seattle School of Theology and Psychology and his BA in English from Belmont University. He has published numerous articles and is the coauthor of five books including the bestselling Wild Things: The Art of Nurturing Boys. Stephen has appeared in interviews on ESPN, Sports Illustrated as well various other media outlets. Stephen speaks and consults often in the areas of servant leadership, parenting, and family.

You can find out more about his clinical practice at www.sagehillcounseling.com.

Reviews

[Jules Woody]

This book had potential but was executed terribly. Each chapter would include some weird story that was supposed to be an anecdote about the theme, but barely had a point. The book basically says men are generally always pretty stupid, very insecure, stubborn and hide from all their problems then fails to offer much good practical advice for what to do about it.

[Davraena]

“Most men pursue pleasure with such breathless haste that they hurry past it.” Soren Kierkegaard
This book is based on the idea that though a man and woman in relationship have a great potential for conflict, there’s also a great potential for synergy. We are meant to grow from our relationships.

[Kimberly]

Good food for thought on why we communicate differently.

[Michelle]

This is definitely more of a relationship book than a primer on men for bitter women looking for reasons to tear their man apart. I liked it for three reasons.

1. These guys (the two authors)are funny. And they're humble.

2. It isn't trying to explain men's attitudes/actions and give them a free pass. The information delves into both male and female attitudes/actions and how they can work together more often than just focusing on how a woman can put her man under a magnifying glass and tick off the clinical characteristics.

3. The book is written with a spiritual perspective referencing Adam and Eve and other stories in the Bible. The focus is on marriage and our divinity as images of God.

The golden nugget of this book is at the end. A "study guide" of sorts is included with questions to consider as you read each chapter. Wish I had known it was there as I was reading. Don't worry, though, the questions are a complete mix of serious and soul-searching questions as well as complete ridiculousness to remind you just to have fun with your partner.

Also, read the very last question of the book first. I think it will help you get more out of it as you're reading along.

[Deanna]

OK girls, this one's for you. James and Thomas decided to dig in and find the most frequent questions women have about men and attempt to answer them. After talking to women from all ages and backgrounds they take on the big ones, such as, "Why won't they ask for directions?", "Do they really only think about sex?" and "What are they doing for so long in the bathroom?". This book is a short, easy read, but does not lack entertaining anecdotes and deeper applications.

[Rebecca]

Ha-ha-ha! My hubby just pointed this book out to me, and we just laughed and laughed! He's working on a LibraryThing Early Reviewer's book written by Stephen James and David Thomas entitled Wild Things: the art of nurturing boys, which so far has been great for the both of us for him to read. I'm glad my hubby's joined me in my love for social sciences!

[Stephanie]

it was okay. the best chapter was where he recounted the vacation trip in their new ford expedition that was hilarious!

[Dannuel Delizo]

Men are simple.
Women are complicated.
Men act first.
Women talk first.

Good book. Read this years ago.