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The Snuggle Party Guidebook: Create Deeper Friendships, Decrease Loneliness, & Enjoy Nurturing Touch Community

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Finalist Medal Winner, Relationships, 2015 Indie Book Awards.

Imagine a life where physical affection is readily available beyond romantic relationships. A life where you resonate with friends on a deeper heartfelt level. In just a few weeks, you can be hosting platonic touch-positive events, enjoying warmer friendships, and creating a supportive tribe.

Packed with the knowledge of experts from a long-established, grassroots snuggling community, this book gives you a wealth of tools:

* an explanation of what snuggle parties are and how they can help
* tips on how to attract and recruit other snugglers, even if you're a bit shy
* 25 games and educational activities to introduce others to snuggling
* ideas and tools for creating a safe, comfortable snuggling environment
* pointers on self-care and getting support, such as money and volunteers
* tips on sexuality, gender, couples/dating, and cultural diversity
* strategies for managing even some of the less common dynamics
* ways platonic snuggling can complement and enhance romantic relationships

Organized cuddle events date back to at least 2002, when a small group of visionaries in Portland, Oregon began to hold snuggle parties. Formal and informal snuggle gatherings have since become frequent pastimes among segments of the community. But this joyful, connective way of relating remains a mystery to most people.

A decade after their inception, Dave Wheitner discovered snuggle parties and other platonic touch-positive events during a challenging life transition. He had rarely sought nurturing touch outside of romantic relationships, and found this new approach profoundly supportive. He was eager to share what he had learned with others, but no books on how to throw such events existed. A few innovative training programs had created talented facilitators, but time and tuition costs still left out many people.

Immersed in a community of cuddle experts, Wheitner created this book. He brings you much of their wisdom, developed over many years, with his own experiences and advanced psychology training. Included are the voices of many people who have benefited from snuggle events.

This book has much to offer for anyone who desires more physical affection. It may be especially powerful for: those who have lost a partner due to divorce or death, those in addictions recovery who want to abstain from romantic/sexual relationships, young adults who crave physical affection but aren't ready for a romantic relationship, partners separated due to military service, those seeking support following a geographic relocation, and those in residential care settings. If you're interested in one-on-one snuggling, or in becoming a professional snuggler or cuddle buddy, you'll also find valuable information.

225 pages, Paperback

First published January 1, 2014

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Dave Wheitner

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Dave guides others to create happier and more powerful lives through his strategic life coaching practice, and is a lifelong student of human behavior and social interaction. He is an award-winning author of several books.

Raised in a blue-collar Ohio neighborhood, Dave earned his B.A. in Psychology from Yale University, M.A. in Counseling from Indiana University of Pennsylvania, M.S. in Public Policy and Management from Carnegie Mellon University, and Life Coach Certification from the Institute for Life Coach Training. He has presented to various groups including the North American Vegetarian Society and American Mensa.

Alongside participating in various workshops and trainings on awareness, authenticity, sensuality, sexuality, and personal growth, he has worked on a number of projects related to social, ecological, and economic sustainability, and health and well-being.

Dave also enjoys attending and sometimes facilitating snuggle parties, cooking and baking (especially anything involving chocolate and waffles), composing dance music with social consciousness themes, beatboxing (creating rhythm and percussion with the mouth), gardening, hiking, and running in nature. He previously bicycled across the United States for charity, and has interests in sustainable communities that transform our connections with food, energy, and one another.

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November 21, 2014
I received this book for Free through Goodreads First Reads in exchange for an Honest review.


Honestly. I entered this giveaway and didn't read much on the book....so when I received it, my husband picked it up and was like WTF are you reading these days.

I only gave this book a low rating because it was not what I expected. Though, there is still much information in this book I can still use (even as a married woman.)
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November 28, 2014
Highly recommended book. A very thoughtful primer on a complex, "touchy" subject.

The author writes in a personable voice, addresses practical concerns, & offers suggestions for increasing physical touch in our lives.
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