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So What Are the Guys Doing?: Inspiration about Making Changes and Taking Risks for a Happier Life
Is this as good as it gets? Can I do better with my life?
These two questions nagged David J. Figura, as he grappled with a troubled marriage and considered an affair. He was also burned out at his job, lonely and resentful because of his lack of meaningful friendships. Sound familiar?
In So What Are The Guys Doing? Figura bares all and relates the changes he made in his marriage. He tells of the radical steps he took to make more male friends and the risks he took in his career to turn things around-and also of his conversations with more than 50 men who were dealing with many of the same issues. It is his hope that this book will inspire other men to seek happier, more satisfying lives.
"I love this book. Its message to middle-aged men about the importance of getting and keeping their male friends close is much needed." John Gray, best selling author of Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus
"For far too long, a man's quest for passion has been disregarded as a 'midlife life crisis.' Against the backdrop of David J. Figura personal transformation, he offers guys practical and heart-centered adviceon finding a deeper connections and joy in life. A must read for the men and the women who love them." Sheila Applegate, MSW. and award winning author of Enchanted One: the Portal to Love
"David Figura has uncovered a difficult and uncomfortable reality that many men share in their mid-life years. For those who are struggling, the light he sheds-I think-will be a great solace." Tim Green, ex-NFL football player, best selling author, TV and radio personality
These two questions nagged David J. Figura, as he grappled with a troubled marriage and considered an affair. He was also burned out at his job, lonely and resentful because of his lack of meaningful friendships. Sound familiar?
In So What Are The Guys Doing? Figura bares all and relates the changes he made in his marriage. He tells of the radical steps he took to make more male friends and the risks he took in his career to turn things around-and also of his conversations with more than 50 men who were dealing with many of the same issues. It is his hope that this book will inspire other men to seek happier, more satisfying lives.
"I love this book. Its message to middle-aged men about the importance of getting and keeping their male friends close is much needed." John Gray, best selling author of Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus
"For far too long, a man's quest for passion has been disregarded as a 'midlife life crisis.' Against the backdrop of David J. Figura personal transformation, he offers guys practical and heart-centered adviceon finding a deeper connections and joy in life. A must read for the men and the women who love them." Sheila Applegate, MSW. and award winning author of Enchanted One: the Portal to Love
"David Figura has uncovered a difficult and uncomfortable reality that many men share in their mid-life years. For those who are struggling, the light he sheds-I think-will be a great solace." Tim Green, ex-NFL football player, best selling author, TV and radio personality
180 pages, Paperback
First published July 10, 2014
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About the author
David J. Figura
2 books3 followersDavid J. Figura describes himself as "your average middle age guy who loves the outdoors, sports and his beer. I'm also balding, fighting the battle of the gut, taking high blood pressure medication and getting nagged by my wife and daughter to use teeth-whitening strips," he says.
A Cornell University graduate, David is an award-winning journalist with more than 30 years of experience as a reporter and editor in Southern California and Upstate New York. He is currently the outdoors writer for Syracuse.com/The Post-Standard in Syracuse, N.Y., covering everything from birding to bear hunting.
Figura has published columns about middle age men in The Post-Standard and on the websites of nationally syndicated advice columnist Amy Dickinson and the Good Men Project. He also read many of his columns on WJFF, a public radio station in the Catskills.
He and his wife, Laura, live in Skaneateles, N.Y. They have two grown children, Katie and Alex.
For more on his writings about "the guys," see www.davidjfigura.com
A Cornell University graduate, David is an award-winning journalist with more than 30 years of experience as a reporter and editor in Southern California and Upstate New York. He is currently the outdoors writer for Syracuse.com/The Post-Standard in Syracuse, N.Y., covering everything from birding to bear hunting.
Figura has published columns about middle age men in The Post-Standard and on the websites of nationally syndicated advice columnist Amy Dickinson and the Good Men Project. He also read many of his columns on WJFF, a public radio station in the Catskills.
He and his wife, Laura, live in Skaneateles, N.Y. They have two grown children, Katie and Alex.
For more on his writings about "the guys," see www.davidjfigura.com
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February 27, 2015
A Guys Guide to What Works at 50+
Not too deep. Not to philosophical. You'll meet a guy like you. An easy read for what can be a hard time in life.
Not too deep. Not to philosophical. You'll meet a guy like you. An easy read for what can be a hard time in life.
March 26, 2018
He made a couple of good points, but overall I thought the book was repetitive and an overgeneralization of both men and women. My husband read half the book
before quitting because he thought it was boring.
It needed a final edit. Commas weren't always in the right place, and there were missing and extra words.
On the plus side, there were some great quotes about middle age.
before quitting because he thought it was boring.
It needed a final edit. Commas weren't always in the right place, and there were missing and extra words.
On the plus side, there were some great quotes about middle age.
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