Parenting With Patience: Turn Frustration Into Connection With 3 Easy Steps

by Judy Arnall

According to a New York Times article, shouting at children is the new spanking. Parents don't intend to shout or yell, but they lose patience and raise their voices. Afterwards, parents feel guilt, and resolve not to yell. Parenting With Patience is a short easy-to-read book that is full of tips and tricks that really work to curb yelling in the moment of anger. It provides a simple 3 step model for dealing with parent and child anger and helps parents to better connect with children in order to solve everyday normal parenting challenges. Positive discipline has to begin with positive stress management. All families have stress. Make it work for you! Learn how to recognize stress, manage it, and regain your patience before yelling. Learn why children have tantrums at all ages, and how to help them channel anger into lifelong skills for self-control and communication. Learn normal childhood development, capabilities and temperament, so you can respectfully and non-punitively resolve everyday family issues. "This is a quick book to read when you are calm, with tools to use when you are not." says Judy Arnall, who has also authored the international bestseller, Discipline Without 135 Tools for Raising Caring Responsible Children without Time-out, Spanking, Punishment or Bribery. As a parent of five children, Arnall knows what she is talking about. She gave up all punishments when her oldest child was ten, having learned that the key to controlling frustration is to calm down and then move into problem-solving with the children. That way, she didn't punish out of anger, with later regrets. "It is easier to solve normal parenting challenges after a few calming minutes for both parent and child, to gain a reasonable, collaborative perspective," Says Arnall, who is the proud parent of four university graduates so far. She has taught thousands of parents respectful, non-punitive research-based parenting tools that have brought them closer to their children, and they will work for your family, too. Bonus! Includes a handy section of calm-down tools to cut out and put on your fridge. Families can try a new one each week. "Every parent needs patience, and this book has simple, respectful ways to calm down and connect," says Dr. William Sears and Martha Sears, RN, co-authors of The Baby Book, Attachment Parenting, and The Discipline Book.

Genres: Parenting

176 pages, Paperback

First published October 1, 2014

About the author

Judy Arnall, BA, CCFE, DTM is a certified brain and child development expert and master of non-punitive parenting and education practices.

She has taught family communication and child development at The University of Calgary, Continuing Education, and Alberta Health Services for 13 years in addition to many other health and educational institutions.

Judy is certified to provide training in several programs:

The Growing Brain from 0-5, by ZeroToThree.org
Alberta Health Services' Terrific Toddlers
Attached At The Heart Program
Positive Discipline in Everyday Parenting
P.E.T. Parent Effectiveness Training


As a parent of three university graduates, 1 studying at university and 1 Masters student, Judy has a broad understanding of the issues facing parents and the digital generation.

Judy is a parenting expert for Scholar's Choice Canada, Labatt Canada, and Mothering. She is an international award winning professional speaker and a well-known Canadian parenting expert, having given advice for television interviews on CBC, CTV, and Global as well as publications such as Chatelaine, Today’s Parent, Canadian Living, Parents magazine, and newspapers including The Globe and Mail, Sun Media and Postmedia News.

www.professionalparenting.ca
www.judyarnall.com
www.unschoolingtouniversity.com
www.unschoolingcanada.ca
www.attachmentparenting.ca

jarnall@shaw.ca

Reviews

[Stephanie · Rating 5 out of 5]

I absolutely LOVED this book. It talked about so many helpful things. It talks about parental anger, spousal anger, child anger, sibling conflict, positive discipline, the difference between logical consequences and natural consequences, the art of negotiation, parent time-out, time-in vs time-out, developmental stages, etc. A very powerful book in my opinion.

[Alison Slyman · Rating 5 out of 5]

I began reading this book in five months ago, and finally finished! Yay! This is an A++ guide for parenting with patience, respect and care. I'll be referring to it again and again.

[Maggie the Muskoka Library Mouse · Rating 4 out of 5]

Full of great tips and useful insights, this book was written in a very easy-to-read style. The poor editing annoyed me, but I enjoyed it nevertheless.