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In Search of the Proverbs 31 Man: The One God Approves and a Woman Wants
The Secrets to Finding, Nurturing–or Being–an Irresistible Man.
Never before has the search for real connection between the sexes been more important–or more confusing. Single women want to know what they should ask for–not settle for–in a mate, while married women wonder how they can nurture godly character traits in their husbands. Men, both single and married, wonder what women really want. Both genders are long on questions and short on answers.
Where Can Men and Women Go for Help?
In Proverbs 31, Scripture presents a powerful composite of a virtuous woman. But what about the virtuous man–what does the Bible say about him? Popular Bible teacher Michelle McKinney Hammond tackles this timely and important question, digging into Scripture to study key men–from Adam to Christ himself, the ultimate bridegroom–to learn what God requires of husbands and men, and to lay out a trustworthy model of how men and women can live in healthy, fulfilling relationship.
Find out what you can do to identify, nurture–or become–a truly godly man and mate in In Search of the Proverbs 31 Man.
“This is not a man bashing book, but one that champions the original design for their lives. Women need real men.” –Michelle McKinney Hammond
Never before has the search for real connection between the sexes been more important–or more confusing. Single women want to know what they should ask for–not settle for–in a mate, while married women wonder how they can nurture godly character traits in their husbands. Men, both single and married, wonder what women really want. Both genders are long on questions and short on answers.
Where Can Men and Women Go for Help?
In Proverbs 31, Scripture presents a powerful composite of a virtuous woman. But what about the virtuous man–what does the Bible say about him? Popular Bible teacher Michelle McKinney Hammond tackles this timely and important question, digging into Scripture to study key men–from Adam to Christ himself, the ultimate bridegroom–to learn what God requires of husbands and men, and to lay out a trustworthy model of how men and women can live in healthy, fulfilling relationship.
Find out what you can do to identify, nurture–or become–a truly godly man and mate in In Search of the Proverbs 31 Man.
“This is not a man bashing book, but one that champions the original design for their lives. Women need real men.” –Michelle McKinney Hammond
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First published February 18, 2009
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Michelle McKinney Hammond
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As a bestselling author, speaker, singer and television co-host, Michelle has authored over 30 books (selling over one million copies worldwide), including best-selling titles The Diva Principle, Sassy, Single and Satisfied, 101 Ways to Get and Keep His Attention, and Secrets of an Irresistible Woman. A gifted vocalist, Michelle has recorded two CD’s, It’s Amazing and Let’s Go In and co-hosted the Emmy Award-winning television talk show Aspiring Women.
She has appeared on countless television shows including Bill Maher’s Politically Incorrect, E Channel’s “Soap Talk,” NBC’s The Other Half, The 700 Club, and BET’s Oh Drama! as well as a regular relationship segment on WGN Morning News. She has graced the cover of magazines such as Today’s Christian Woman Precious Times, The Plain Truth and Gospel Today. She has been a contributing writer for Spirit Led Woman, Discipleship Journal and has been featured in articles in Shine, Essence, Ebony, Jet, Black Enterprise Magazine, The Chicago Tribune, The Associated Press and The New York Times.
Following several successful years in an award-winning advertising career as an art director/writer/producer (her clients included Coca-Cola USA, McDonald’s, Procter and Gamble, GMC and Ford Motor Company), Michelle suffered a devastating leg injury after being hit by a car. For her the accident was a spiritual turning point, a wake up call to embrace her purpose and fulfill her destiny. These bedridden months gave birth to her first bestseller, “What to Do Until Love Finds You.” Since then Michelle has emerged as a highly-respected author, speaker and singer, reaching a diverse audience nationally and internationally. Crossing denominational lines, addressing secular audiences, as well as addressing men and women from every walk of life, Michelle is known for “keeping it real.” She addresses real-life issues with candor and wit, and the hard questions with sensitivity and empathy. This merits her reputation as a relationship and life empowerment coach, crossing the great divide and sharing keys that lead to reconciliation between the sexes.
Michelle’s underlying message is “get yourself in spiritual order and your natural life will come together.” Her passion is to give relevant and workable solutions to people’s questions based in timeless spiritual truths. Sharing solid, effective principles that will help her audience to navigate through the journey of life and reach the ultimate destination of living and loving to their fullest potential.
As a bestselling author, speaker, singer and television co-host, Michelle has authored over 30 books (selling over one million copies worldwide), including best-selling titles The Diva Principle, Sassy, Single and Satisfied, 101 Ways to Get and Keep His Attention, and Secrets of an Irresistible Woman. A gifted vocalist, Michelle has recorded two CD’s, It’s Amazing and Let’s Go In and co-hosted the Emmy Award-winning television talk show Aspiring Women.
She has appeared on countless television shows including Bill Maher’s Politically Incorrect, E Channel’s “Soap Talk,” NBC’s The Other Half, The 700 Club, and BET’s Oh Drama! as well as a regular relationship segment on WGN Morning News. She has graced the cover of magazines such as Today’s Christian Woman Precious Times, The Plain Truth and Gospel Today. She has been a contributing writer for Spirit Led Woman, Discipleship Journal and has been featured in articles in Shine, Essence, Ebony, Jet, Black Enterprise Magazine, The Chicago Tribune, The Associated Press and The New York Times.
Following several successful years in an award-winning advertising career as an art director/writer/producer (her clients included Coca-Cola USA, McDonald’s, Procter and Gamble, GMC and Ford Motor Company), Michelle suffered a devastating leg injury after being hit by a car. For her the accident was a spiritual turning point, a wake up call to embrace her purpose and fulfill her destiny. These bedridden months gave birth to her first bestseller, “What to Do Until Love Finds You.” Since then Michelle has emerged as a highly-respected author, speaker and singer, reaching a diverse audience nationally and internationally. Crossing denominational lines, addressing secular audiences, as well as addressing men and women from every walk of life, Michelle is known for “keeping it real.” She addresses real-life issues with candor and wit, and the hard questions with sensitivity and empathy. This merits her reputation as a relationship and life empowerment coach, crossing the great divide and sharing keys that lead to reconciliation between the sexes.
Michelle’s underlying message is “get yourself in spiritual order and your natural life will come together.” Her passion is to give relevant and workable solutions to people’s questions based in timeless spiritual truths. Sharing solid, effective principles that will help her audience to navigate through the journey of life and reach the ultimate destination of living and loving to their fullest potential.
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May 29, 2008
"This is not a man bashing book, but one that champions the original design for their lives. Women need real men.” –Michelle McKinney Hammond
This author was "right on the money" when she wrote this book. I have read it twice, and it will be my next read again. This book is soooo helpful to any man or woman, married or single. For the married folks, it help you evaluate the way you are living and running your household according to the word. For the single folks, it helps you see you value and worth and the type of mate God has in store for you, and what you need to do to prepare spiritual for a mate. All of the text lines up with the bible. A MUST READ!!!!!.
This author was "right on the money" when she wrote this book. I have read it twice, and it will be my next read again. This book is soooo helpful to any man or woman, married or single. For the married folks, it help you evaluate the way you are living and running your household according to the word. For the single folks, it helps you see you value and worth and the type of mate God has in store for you, and what you need to do to prepare spiritual for a mate. All of the text lines up with the bible. A MUST READ!!!!!.
June 20, 2009
I am one step closer to being a Proverbs 31 man after reading this book!
December 29, 2012
Gave a good insight into how to be as a husband, boyfriend etc.... Alternative views to many of today's views of the way we should be.
May 30, 2016
I just finished reading In Search of the Proverbs 31 Man by Michelle McKinney Hammond. This book caught my attention as soon as I spotted on the Used Books bookshelf at the Amazing Grace christian bookstore a week ago. I was really intrigued by the title, In Search of the Proverbs 21 MAN. Proverbs 31 has always been one of my all-time favorite bible passages. It told me everything I ever wanted to know about what kind of woman I should strive to be — a Proverbs 31 woman. But I completely forgot about the fact that behind that great woman, there was a great Proverbs 31 man, too. Also, being single, I am still in search of my Proverbs 31 man, so I decided to purchase the book and see what it said.
Overall I really enjoyed this book. I give it 4 out of 5 stars because I do wish it could’ve went a little more in depth. A couple points were repetitive, redundant, and at times a little generic, but giving it only 3 stars seemed way too harsh because it was a good book that I did learn from. Here are 4 of the main points I learned after reading this book.
1. The connection between men and women. I honestly never really considered this point before. I love how the author, Michelle McKinney Hammond breaks down the connection of men and women. She explains that man is made from God (which I already knew) and that woman is made from the rib of man (which I also already knew). Then she goes a step further and explains that when woman was created, there was a piece taken out of man. That piece is missing. He still needs that piece to survive, which is why he needs woman. This just totally blew my mind. It makes perfect sense and it’s that complicated of an idea, but it was one I never thought of before. The need for a man and a woman to coexist alongside each other isn’t done on a spiritual or emotional level, but it is a physical need and one that goes far beyond just sex.
2. The orders of men and women and why women must submit to their husbands. I never realized there was an order before, I just heard repetitively that woman must submit to their husbands. Now I’ll be honest and say that this is a concept I often struggle with. I am by no means a feminist and I don’t typically support the feminist movement, but I do want general equality between men and women and I don’t want to feel like I’m just letting a man control me and push me around. But that’s not what submission is at all. See, as Hammond explains in her book, women must submit to men because of their order. The order goes like this God – > man -> woman. God always comes first. Because God created man, man must dedicate his life to serving God and striving to be as Christ-like as possible. Woman was created from man. Therefore, it is her order to submit to her husband. This is her priority. It is still her priority to worship and serve God, but the man rules over the woman. The man is closer to God than the woman is because the man is a direct creation from God whereas woman is a direct creation from man. This goes back to point one.
3. What to look for in terms of a future husband. If you’re single like me you should still be thinking in terms of what you should be looking for in a husband. I felt better reading what Hammond has to say about this because I think that’s what I was doing a lot in my last relationship which ultimately helped me to decide to leave my relationship because I didn’t see the future I wanted. If you’re single you should be looking for a Proverbs 31 man to be your husband. It should be a strong man that has a deep love, appreciation, and understanding of God. He should love and cherish you very deeply and passionately and not be afraid to show his love for you. He should offer you security through his job and financial wealth and have the ability to truly support you and care for you. That is his responsibility not just as a man, but as the head of the household which is precisely what a Proverbs 31 man should be according to the order of God.
4. How to prepare myself to become a Proverbs 31 woman. If you’re single like I am, then you shouldn’t just be focusing on searching for a Proverbs 31 man to be your husband, but you should also consider all of the ways you are a Proverbs 31 woman and what areas need more help. For me I could probably bear to be more patient, communicative with my partner (well in this case, future partner) especially during times of trouble, and above all else, I need to learn to submit more to men. I need to learn to let men approach me rather than be the one to approach them. That is not the right order. Men were built like hunters who hunt for their lovers. It is natural for a man to approach a woman. Woman should be waiting for men to approach them and then they should be willing to submit. That is the proper, biblical order. It is also something I tend to be pretty bad at — I tend to wear my feelings on the sleeve and jump at the chance to display love and affection even when it is not returned. I need to work on this and strive to be less like well, me, and more like the godly Proverbs 31 woman.
I really did enjoy reading Michelle McKinney Hammond’s novel, In Search of the Proverbs 31 Man. I think this book will definitely be helpful for me in understanding my responsibilities as a single woman and also what my future role as a wife and a Proverbs 31 woman will be.
Overall I really enjoyed this book. I give it 4 out of 5 stars because I do wish it could’ve went a little more in depth. A couple points were repetitive, redundant, and at times a little generic, but giving it only 3 stars seemed way too harsh because it was a good book that I did learn from. Here are 4 of the main points I learned after reading this book.
1. The connection between men and women. I honestly never really considered this point before. I love how the author, Michelle McKinney Hammond breaks down the connection of men and women. She explains that man is made from God (which I already knew) and that woman is made from the rib of man (which I also already knew). Then she goes a step further and explains that when woman was created, there was a piece taken out of man. That piece is missing. He still needs that piece to survive, which is why he needs woman. This just totally blew my mind. It makes perfect sense and it’s that complicated of an idea, but it was one I never thought of before. The need for a man and a woman to coexist alongside each other isn’t done on a spiritual or emotional level, but it is a physical need and one that goes far beyond just sex.
2. The orders of men and women and why women must submit to their husbands. I never realized there was an order before, I just heard repetitively that woman must submit to their husbands. Now I’ll be honest and say that this is a concept I often struggle with. I am by no means a feminist and I don’t typically support the feminist movement, but I do want general equality between men and women and I don’t want to feel like I’m just letting a man control me and push me around. But that’s not what submission is at all. See, as Hammond explains in her book, women must submit to men because of their order. The order goes like this God – > man -> woman. God always comes first. Because God created man, man must dedicate his life to serving God and striving to be as Christ-like as possible. Woman was created from man. Therefore, it is her order to submit to her husband. This is her priority. It is still her priority to worship and serve God, but the man rules over the woman. The man is closer to God than the woman is because the man is a direct creation from God whereas woman is a direct creation from man. This goes back to point one.
3. What to look for in terms of a future husband. If you’re single like me you should still be thinking in terms of what you should be looking for in a husband. I felt better reading what Hammond has to say about this because I think that’s what I was doing a lot in my last relationship which ultimately helped me to decide to leave my relationship because I didn’t see the future I wanted. If you’re single you should be looking for a Proverbs 31 man to be your husband. It should be a strong man that has a deep love, appreciation, and understanding of God. He should love and cherish you very deeply and passionately and not be afraid to show his love for you. He should offer you security through his job and financial wealth and have the ability to truly support you and care for you. That is his responsibility not just as a man, but as the head of the household which is precisely what a Proverbs 31 man should be according to the order of God.
4. How to prepare myself to become a Proverbs 31 woman. If you’re single like I am, then you shouldn’t just be focusing on searching for a Proverbs 31 man to be your husband, but you should also consider all of the ways you are a Proverbs 31 woman and what areas need more help. For me I could probably bear to be more patient, communicative with my partner (well in this case, future partner) especially during times of trouble, and above all else, I need to learn to submit more to men. I need to learn to let men approach me rather than be the one to approach them. That is not the right order. Men were built like hunters who hunt for their lovers. It is natural for a man to approach a woman. Woman should be waiting for men to approach them and then they should be willing to submit. That is the proper, biblical order. It is also something I tend to be pretty bad at — I tend to wear my feelings on the sleeve and jump at the chance to display love and affection even when it is not returned. I need to work on this and strive to be less like well, me, and more like the godly Proverbs 31 woman.
I really did enjoy reading Michelle McKinney Hammond’s novel, In Search of the Proverbs 31 Man. I think this book will definitely be helpful for me in understanding my responsibilities as a single woman and also what my future role as a wife and a Proverbs 31 woman will be.
May 8, 2013
This is the kind of book that's embarrassing to read while on public transport. I felt like I was reading 50 Shades of Grey though I was probably more self conscious than I should have been.
The title, while fantabulous, is also a bit of a misnomer. One would think that this is a book targeted at females (Doesn't it scream "I AM LOOKING FOR MR. RIGHT??) but it's for males, females and couples with targeted questions at the end of each chapter for the 3 groups I've mentioned.
Written by a female author, the book covers what females desire from males and gives tips on what both genders can do to prepare themselves for a relationship/marriage. Submission, surprisingly to me, was brought up a couple of times. Perhaps, it is becoming a larger problem as females, while still under some glass ceiling, are achieving more and becoming less adept at submitting.
An easy read with sound advice and relatively good questions to ponder over.
The title, while fantabulous, is also a bit of a misnomer. One would think that this is a book targeted at females (Doesn't it scream "I AM LOOKING FOR MR. RIGHT??) but it's for males, females and couples with targeted questions at the end of each chapter for the 3 groups I've mentioned.
Written by a female author, the book covers what females desire from males and gives tips on what both genders can do to prepare themselves for a relationship/marriage. Submission, surprisingly to me, was brought up a couple of times. Perhaps, it is becoming a larger problem as females, while still under some glass ceiling, are achieving more and becoming less adept at submitting.
An easy read with sound advice and relatively good questions to ponder over.
April 27, 2015
Proverbs 31 is the summation of the ideals presented throughout the book and the fruits of its obedience for all adherents. Although the woman of excellence is most commonly discussed, the author unpacks its message for modern day men by illustrating the virtues referenced from a broader scriptural base. Her election to go beyond Proverbs 31 proves wise and the precepts are reinforced through biblical snapshots which illustrate the attributes being discussed.
This is not a girlfriend book. And while men are the intended audience, the concluding questions provide equitable opportunities for engagement for single and married persons. For women desiring a similar experience I recommend "How to Get the Best Out of Your Man" by the same author. The latter draws inspiration from the Book of Esther and is more convicting that most would expect.
This is not a girlfriend book. And while men are the intended audience, the concluding questions provide equitable opportunities for engagement for single and married persons. For women desiring a similar experience I recommend "How to Get the Best Out of Your Man" by the same author. The latter draws inspiration from the Book of Esther and is more convicting that most would expect.
June 22, 2012
This book is a great refresher on what characteristics and core values a Godly man should have and how they should effect women around them. Miss Hammond sheds some new light on some men of the Bible and situations that we would tend to over look. All while giving some practical insight and questions to chew on for single women, married women and also men. It was an enjoyable read and I would recommend this both to females and males.
January 2, 2012
This book gave me great insight into how better to encourage my husband to be the best he can be for our family. I highlighted several passages and hope he will read to book for himself. I tucked it on his nightstand :)
July 29, 2013
I love books by Michelle McKinney Hammond. I learned a lot in reading this particular book about the every day man as well as men in the bible. I admire that she is able to use verses from the bible to back up her information but still able to keep it on a layperson level. Love it!
September 5, 2007
Michelle shows us what a Proverbs 31 man is suppose to be. A must read if a man wants to satisfy a woman.
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May 26, 2009Thx Mom! Got this one for Christmas.
August 24, 2010
Great guide and inspiration of what to look for in a soulmate, what to avoid, and what to work on in yourself. Loved it!
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August 15, 2011Amazing/easy read. I. Didn't want to put it down and I couldn't stop sharing the points that were made in it. Definitely a book that I'd recommend and will also be revisiting throughout the years.
June 1, 2016
A very insightful book, uncovering the Man blessed enough to marry a proverb 31 wife... and the woman whose awesomeness is brought to its full potential by the Man she is with
November 16, 2016
LOVE loves heart to heart, spirit to spirit.
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