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Raising Emotionally Intelligent Teenagers: Guiding the Way for Compassionate, Committed, Courageous Adults
The world before September 11, 2001, was challenging enough for parents of teenagers. Now it is more so. Our families, schools, and workplaces need Emotionally Intelligent Teenagers who will not only be knowledgeable, responsible, nonviolent, and caring youths, but who also will grow up to be compassionate, committed, and courageous adults.
How can parents accomplish this? Not only do raging hormones make everything more intense for teenagers, but they have their own special issues concerning identity, self-confidence, peer pressure, and responsibility, including individuating from their parents. Raising Emotionally Intelligent Teenagers shows parents how to use a balance of love, laughter, and limits to reach their goals. Drs. Elias, Tobias, and Friedlander, all respected experts in child behavior and parents of teenagers, have written a clear, informative book of sound advice that applies the insights of Daniel Goleman’s best- seller, Emotional Intelligence, to unlock teenagers’ untapped desire to belong to families and schools that make a difference and to contribute positively to them.
Raising Emotionally Intelligent Teenagers is filled with real-life scenarios, practical strategies, and the answers to the questions parents ask most frequently, all drawn from the authors’ professional and personal experiences and given with warmth and humor.
Guiding the way to compassionate, committed, courageous adults is a serious challenge, but its effective pursuit is a labor of love, a journey of joy, and a path filled with pride.
How can parents accomplish this? Not only do raging hormones make everything more intense for teenagers, but they have their own special issues concerning identity, self-confidence, peer pressure, and responsibility, including individuating from their parents. Raising Emotionally Intelligent Teenagers shows parents how to use a balance of love, laughter, and limits to reach their goals. Drs. Elias, Tobias, and Friedlander, all respected experts in child behavior and parents of teenagers, have written a clear, informative book of sound advice that applies the insights of Daniel Goleman’s best- seller, Emotional Intelligence, to unlock teenagers’ untapped desire to belong to families and schools that make a difference and to contribute positively to them.
Raising Emotionally Intelligent Teenagers is filled with real-life scenarios, practical strategies, and the answers to the questions parents ask most frequently, all drawn from the authors’ professional and personal experiences and given with warmth and humor.
Guiding the way to compassionate, committed, courageous adults is a serious challenge, but its effective pursuit is a labor of love, a journey of joy, and a path filled with pride.
- GenresParenting
272 pages, Paperback
First published September 26, 2000
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January 8, 2017
I was a little hesitant to read this book because I thought it would make me feel guilty or I'd feel pushed to try to do the impossible. I was worried that I'd feel it is too late to do anything to improve our situation. None of that happened.
I currently have two teenagers who are opposites of each other in temperament. Our relationships with each are very different. They both have emotional intelligence issues, but different ones. Despite my feelings of inadequacy, or maybe because of them, I hoped this book could help. Thankfully, I've discovered it's not too late to grow the emotional intelligence of either one of my teens and myself.
I learned specific ways I can interact with my children. I have a greater understanding of the reasons behind some of our conflicts and how to overcome them. I am going to talk with my teens about "contributing" rather than doing "chores." I like that word much better. I realize I need to be more goal oriented with my children and help them problem solve. I especially enjoyed reading about the real situations toward the end of the book. The authors don't seem to have all the answers and they make it clear that sometimes you just do the best you can. I felt I was given permission to be imperfect. I realize that our situation isn't as bad as I thought. We and our problems are all more normal than I thought. I feel less concerned and more empowered. I love the last line of the book! It's funny and I don't want to spoil it.
I appreciate the humor throughout the book. Yes, it's all a bit dated, but it was written seventeen years ago, so I expected that. I could see past the acronyms that bothered another reviewer to their intention to help parents remember important ideas. The book is easy to read and doesn't drag on too long. It helped me. That's all that matters.
I currently have two teenagers who are opposites of each other in temperament. Our relationships with each are very different. They both have emotional intelligence issues, but different ones. Despite my feelings of inadequacy, or maybe because of them, I hoped this book could help. Thankfully, I've discovered it's not too late to grow the emotional intelligence of either one of my teens and myself.
I learned specific ways I can interact with my children. I have a greater understanding of the reasons behind some of our conflicts and how to overcome them. I am going to talk with my teens about "contributing" rather than doing "chores." I like that word much better. I realize I need to be more goal oriented with my children and help them problem solve. I especially enjoyed reading about the real situations toward the end of the book. The authors don't seem to have all the answers and they make it clear that sometimes you just do the best you can. I felt I was given permission to be imperfect. I realize that our situation isn't as bad as I thought. We and our problems are all more normal than I thought. I feel less concerned and more empowered. I love the last line of the book! It's funny and I don't want to spoil it.
I appreciate the humor throughout the book. Yes, it's all a bit dated, but it was written seventeen years ago, so I expected that. I could see past the acronyms that bothered another reviewer to their intention to help parents remember important ideas. The book is easy to read and doesn't drag on too long. It helped me. That's all that matters.
September 21, 2024
Mostly skimmed at this point. I’ve raised 7 successful adults and have two teens and two more to go. Great advice here especially for parents starting in the teen years.
July 20, 2010
I found this book to be a bit dated in its references, although I did take away a few good ideas. Most, though, were either common sense or we already do as a family. I do like the lengthy surveys that each parent can take and compare.
Build Teens' Assets:
-Appreciation
-Belonging
-Competencies and Confidence
-Contributions
"Service is the rent each of us pays for living."
Any member of a sports team, varsity or intramural had to develop and sign a contract that stated three goals in each of three areas: -How will you improve yourself in your sport? -How will you improve your team? -How will you improve your school or community?
Build Teens' Assets:
-Appreciation
-Belonging
-Competencies and Confidence
-Contributions
"Service is the rent each of us pays for living."
Any member of a sports team, varsity or intramural had to develop and sign a contract that stated three goals in each of three areas: -How will you improve yourself in your sport? -How will you improve your team? -How will you improve your school or community?
August 18, 2013
Their heart was in the right place, but book was poorly organized and under-developed. Some of the most clumsy acrynyms I've ever seen…
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