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How to Recover From Emotional Abuse: Heal Your Broken Heart
Are you in an abusive relationship? Have you left an abusive relationship? Then this book is for you.
It's bad enough to be emotionally abused, but what happens after you leave the relationship? The act of leaving the relationship won't instantly make your life better. You need to regain your confidence - in fact, you need to rebuild your life.
How do you begin to create the life you want after abuse? This book helps you on your journey to the life you want.
About the author.
The author, Tamara Bris, has been through nearly a lifetime of abuse in various forms. The author struggled with leaving a fifteen year emotionally abusive relationship and then wondered why she felt such a close bond and connection with her abuser. After contact with other victims, Tamara found that many victims form strong love and bonding attachments to the people who abuse them. Tamara, who has a degree in criminology and sociology, used her skills as a researcher and discovered "trauma bonding," a type of love addiction which bonds victims to their abuser.
Having the knowledge that she was suffering “trauma bonding” helped Tamara and other women recover from their abuse addiction to abuse. Tamara’s story and other stories are shared in this book.
It's bad enough to be emotionally abused, but what happens after you leave the relationship? The act of leaving the relationship won't instantly make your life better. You need to regain your confidence - in fact, you need to rebuild your life.
How do you begin to create the life you want after abuse? This book helps you on your journey to the life you want.
About the author.
The author, Tamara Bris, has been through nearly a lifetime of abuse in various forms. The author struggled with leaving a fifteen year emotionally abusive relationship and then wondered why she felt such a close bond and connection with her abuser. After contact with other victims, Tamara found that many victims form strong love and bonding attachments to the people who abuse them. Tamara, who has a degree in criminology and sociology, used her skills as a researcher and discovered "trauma bonding," a type of love addiction which bonds victims to their abuser.
Having the knowledge that she was suffering “trauma bonding” helped Tamara and other women recover from their abuse addiction to abuse. Tamara’s story and other stories are shared in this book.
196 pages, Kindle Edition
First published November 23, 2013
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February 23, 2023
What i got out of this book
I liked this book because I saw myself in so much of it! .Proves I wasn't crazy, but
I was definitely abused. I deserve much more and most of all, I deserve to be loved for the loving person I am!! His problems are just that,his problems and I don't have to take on any of it. Now to find the person I was before him and live my life on my terms. Its what I should have had all along.
I liked this book because I saw myself in so much of it! .Proves I wasn't crazy, but
I was definitely abused. I deserve much more and most of all, I deserve to be loved for the loving person I am!! His problems are just that,his problems and I don't have to take on any of it. Now to find the person I was before him and live my life on my terms. Its what I should have had all along.
September 8, 2019
The best way to describe this book, and encourage those who need it, is to quote from it.
“I reached a point where I had almost totally lost my identity. My life was revolving around what he wanted and I continually strove to feel ‘good enough.’ I took a good hard think about how I liked to feel. I realized that the major thing I wanted out of life to have calmness, serenity and peace. I knew I couldn’t have that and also have a relationship with ______. Like a lot of other women I had become too much of a doormat in my eagerness to please. What I wanted and needed out of life had ceased to be important as long as he was happy. The thing is–he never was happy!”
If this at all resembles your current relationship, and you are looking to take a step into more “calmness, serenity and peace”, this book is perfect for you and your path to recovery. Emotional abusers are charming to the world and behind close doors they will not stop until they destroy your very soul, and there is nothing left of you. Thank you, Tamara Bris. Your bravery will save many souls, and quite possibly, lives.
“I reached a point where I had almost totally lost my identity. My life was revolving around what he wanted and I continually strove to feel ‘good enough.’ I took a good hard think about how I liked to feel. I realized that the major thing I wanted out of life to have calmness, serenity and peace. I knew I couldn’t have that and also have a relationship with ______. Like a lot of other women I had become too much of a doormat in my eagerness to please. What I wanted and needed out of life had ceased to be important as long as he was happy. The thing is–he never was happy!”
If this at all resembles your current relationship, and you are looking to take a step into more “calmness, serenity and peace”, this book is perfect for you and your path to recovery. Emotional abusers are charming to the world and behind close doors they will not stop until they destroy your very soul, and there is nothing left of you. Thank you, Tamara Bris. Your bravery will save many souls, and quite possibly, lives.
November 30, 2025
The Victim-Blaming Handbook
I am convinced Tamara Bris has never actually met a victim let alone been one. she writes with the arrogance of someone who thinks abuse is a choice we make because we forgot to do our morning affirmations.
her thesis? "Anyone can be abused, but the confident ones leave immediately."
Excuse me?
according to Ms. Bris, if you stayed it’s because you didn’t love yourself enough on a "deep inner level." This is insulting rubbish. it’s like telling a mugging victim they got robbed because they didn't walk with enough swagger.
Ms. Bris, confident people get trapped too because some predators like to attack confident people. Predators get so much joy from bringing down a strong person.
AND, a Victim of crime is not inferior to other people. A victim of crime does feel good about themselves on a deeper level. They did not cause the crime. They did not bring it upon themselves. The victim deserved the abuse as less as any other person.
We didn’t f***ing order the abuse off a menu because we felt "unworthy."
You cannot heal people you fundamentally look down on. You claim to offer a cure, but you’re just serving a side dish of shame.
If you are drowning in pain, do not let this woman lecture you. go read Pete Walker’s The Tao of Fully Feeling he actually has a soul. Trauma and Recovery is eloquent and validating. And for the heavy lifting, use The war on Lies and The Armor of Truth journals. those tools actually help you rebuild, rather than blaming you for the demolition.
I am convinced Tamara Bris has never actually met a victim let alone been one. she writes with the arrogance of someone who thinks abuse is a choice we make because we forgot to do our morning affirmations.
her thesis? "Anyone can be abused, but the confident ones leave immediately."
Excuse me?
according to Ms. Bris, if you stayed it’s because you didn’t love yourself enough on a "deep inner level." This is insulting rubbish. it’s like telling a mugging victim they got robbed because they didn't walk with enough swagger.
Ms. Bris, confident people get trapped too because some predators like to attack confident people. Predators get so much joy from bringing down a strong person.
AND, a Victim of crime is not inferior to other people. A victim of crime does feel good about themselves on a deeper level. They did not cause the crime. They did not bring it upon themselves. The victim deserved the abuse as less as any other person.
We didn’t f***ing order the abuse off a menu because we felt "unworthy."
You cannot heal people you fundamentally look down on. You claim to offer a cure, but you’re just serving a side dish of shame.
If you are drowning in pain, do not let this woman lecture you. go read Pete Walker’s The Tao of Fully Feeling he actually has a soul. Trauma and Recovery is eloquent and validating. And for the heavy lifting, use The war on Lies and The Armor of Truth journals. those tools actually help you rebuild, rather than blaming you for the demolition.
May 18, 2015
This is OK - a cheaper Kindle purchase, but not as well written and thorough as "Healing the Scars of Emotional Abuse". It might get someone unstuck, but it glosses over or ignores the part of the spectrum where it is difficult to find support from friends and family because they never saw what went on in private.
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