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The 5 Hidden Love Questions: Radically Simple Strategies to Date Smarter, Own Your Power, and Flourish
THE MODERN WOMAN'S UNCONVENTIONAL GUIDE TO FINDING THE LOVE YOU NEED
Over the years, I've received around 5000 letters from readers asking for advice about love and relationships. Like It didn't take a genius to notice a all the questions boiled down to the same basic stuff. Specifically, five fundamental Am I enough? Am I choosing or being chosen? Am I safe, physically and psychologically? What do I really want? And who am I, really?
I call these The 5 Hidden Love Questions . Why? Because they're hidden, and running your life right now even as you read, whether you're aware of them or not. Get the answers wrong, and you'll be miserable without even knowing why. Get them right, and you'll be a champ at dating -- and everything else in life, too.
Drawing from ancient wisdom (Buddhism, Taoism, Zen, yoga) and modern science (neuroscience, psychology, game theory, evolutionary biology), this book offers practical strategies for smart strong women to successfully navigate modern romance, own your power, and flourish like never before. It's informed by my training in neuroscience, physics, medicine, management consulting, professional poker, meditation, and mental health. I sincerely hope it's the last dating book you'll ever need.
Over the years, I've received around 5000 letters from readers asking for advice about love and relationships. Like It didn't take a genius to notice a all the questions boiled down to the same basic stuff. Specifically, five fundamental Am I enough? Am I choosing or being chosen? Am I safe, physically and psychologically? What do I really want? And who am I, really?
I call these The 5 Hidden Love Questions . Why? Because they're hidden, and running your life right now even as you read, whether you're aware of them or not. Get the answers wrong, and you'll be miserable without even knowing why. Get them right, and you'll be a champ at dating -- and everything else in life, too.
Drawing from ancient wisdom (Buddhism, Taoism, Zen, yoga) and modern science (neuroscience, psychology, game theory, evolutionary biology), this book offers practical strategies for smart strong women to successfully navigate modern romance, own your power, and flourish like never before. It's informed by my training in neuroscience, physics, medicine, management consulting, professional poker, meditation, and mental health. I sincerely hope it's the last dating book you'll ever need.
199 pages, Paperback
Published October 14, 2023
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October 14, 2023
This is one of the best books I’ve read this year, and one of my favorite books on how to find a satisfying relationship. Although this is aimed at heterosexual women looking for a committed relationship, some of the advice is useful for anyone interested in becoming a healthier, happier human being. The author, Happiness Engineer Dr. Victor Frank, offers the reader guidance and exercises for how to overcome subconscious programming that may be sabotaging your dating efforts. He does so in a conversational tone with lots of humor, occasionally swearing, some great metaphors, and plenty of references.
Some of the highlights for me were his discussion of the broken picker problem, learning the factors that actually influence relationship satisfaction, determining what you need in a relationship (as opposed to those long lists of traits that you think you want), and how to avoid dangerous people. Dr. Victor’s tips for spotting narcissists and sociopaths alone would justify the cost of this book for me. I really wish I’d had access to this book 20 years ago. It would have saved me a lot of heartache. Also, the conclusion is outstanding and I’d love to get absolutely everyone to read it and take it to heart.
I love how the author combines Western science, Eastern wisdom, and years of experience as a coach and behavioral change therapist. He offers practical exercises such as meditation, Self-Havening, and weekday superhero identities to try on (these might sound silly, but they are evidence-based practices). He also includes an annotated list of references, many of which I have also read and highly recommend.
I highly recommend this book to anyone interested in leading a happier, more fulfilling life.
The author provided me with an advanced reader copy (ARC), and I volunteered to provide an honest review.
Some of the highlights for me were his discussion of the broken picker problem, learning the factors that actually influence relationship satisfaction, determining what you need in a relationship (as opposed to those long lists of traits that you think you want), and how to avoid dangerous people. Dr. Victor’s tips for spotting narcissists and sociopaths alone would justify the cost of this book for me. I really wish I’d had access to this book 20 years ago. It would have saved me a lot of heartache. Also, the conclusion is outstanding and I’d love to get absolutely everyone to read it and take it to heart.
I love how the author combines Western science, Eastern wisdom, and years of experience as a coach and behavioral change therapist. He offers practical exercises such as meditation, Self-Havening, and weekday superhero identities to try on (these might sound silly, but they are evidence-based practices). He also includes an annotated list of references, many of which I have also read and highly recommend.
I highly recommend this book to anyone interested in leading a happier, more fulfilling life.
The author provided me with an advanced reader copy (ARC), and I volunteered to provide an honest review.
October 14, 2023
Mind. blowing.
I got read an early review of the book and just got the final version. It’s truly mind blowing and life changing. Since reading it I have really worked to make significant changes in my life (new career, better attitude towards life, acceptance, more awareness of who I am and what I need in the world and with a future life partner. Definitely a better relationship with my self and the universe. Biggest take away, I am a miracle and so are you. We are the very fabric of the universe so go shine! I highly recommend this book which continues to help me grow and become who I want to be in the world.
I got read an early review of the book and just got the final version. It’s truly mind blowing and life changing. Since reading it I have really worked to make significant changes in my life (new career, better attitude towards life, acceptance, more awareness of who I am and what I need in the world and with a future life partner. Definitely a better relationship with my self and the universe. Biggest take away, I am a miracle and so are you. We are the very fabric of the universe so go shine! I highly recommend this book which continues to help me grow and become who I want to be in the world.
December 15, 2023
A great read to get you thinking.
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