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Porn Free: Finding Renewal through Truth and Community
Millions of Christian men, especially younger men, have become trapped in bondage to sexual lust through the widespread availability of Internet pornography. Porn Finding Renewal through Truth and Community teaches us how the truth of the gospel of Jesus Christ revolutionizes our thinking, and transforms our desires to lead us into healthy sexuality. It also shows us how living openly and honestly in community frees our hearts from guilt, and satisfies our need for true relational intimacy
240 pages, Kindle Edition
First published September 21, 2011
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March 24, 2022
Sexual sin hurts us relationally.
God created sex so that two people could experience a spiritual oneness and intimacy.
Because porn involves looking at women but not interacting with them, it elevates the physical while ignoring or trivializing all other aspects of the woman.
Porn turns women into objects to be consumed. Like a bucket of chicken / a woman is nothing more than beasts, legs and thighs.
Men who look at porn find less enjoying in normal sex 👈
As porn and fantasy take control of the mind, it becomes a dream theater that is transposed over the waking world. Every woman they come in contact with is objectified, undressed and evaluated as a willing or unwilling sexual partner.
Porn and masturbation deliver strong feelings of pleasure and excitement. The problem is that it’s never enough. You always sense that you need more, and you foolishly believe more will satisfy you.
The lord calls you into battle!!
You are no more worth of gods acceptance on the first day than you are on the second.
Trust god for the power of change.
Grace = free gift
No matter what you did yesterday, you can get up each morning in hopeful gratitude for what Christ has done for you.
The Holy Spirit is the agent of change in our lives.
7 qualities of true repentance. Change of direction, sorrow, awareness, humility, active obedience, hope in Christ alone,
And joy.
You must decide that you are not going to follow a course of life that leads to lust, and instead decide that you are going to follow a course of life that leads you to god and his blessings.
Each choice represents an opportunity for failure or victory. It is in these small moments of life that you are deciding what kind of person you are, and whom you want to follow.
You may stop looking at porn but find yourself having persistent sexual fantasies, or notice that you constantly check out woman’s bodies as you walk down the street. Those fantasies or that second look will be things you must bring to god, as the spirit convicts you of them.
Looking at porn trains us to see women as objects, inhibits our ability to have intimacy, and diminishes our capacity to enjoy normal sex.
Have you asked the lord to free you? Have you also prayed against the enemy of your progress?
Have you prayed against you favorite fantasies and fetishes?
Consider what can be gained when you flee from temptation: the sweetness of experiencing the love of god.
✨✨ if a single man wants to have an orgasm, he needs to first become a man and undergo the hard work of courting and marrying a woman. He needs to first undergo the hard work of loving, leading and romancing his wife.
A man has no right to touch himself sexually without discussing it with his wife.
👈 in order to succeed, we’re going to have to move into uncomfortable waters without a map.
Sex is best enjoyed when it is anticipated with great patience.
There are 3 things that will stir up the flame of passion in your woman: your walk with god, you relational depth, and the romance that you bring to the relationship.
God created sex so that two people could experience a spiritual oneness and intimacy.
Because porn involves looking at women but not interacting with them, it elevates the physical while ignoring or trivializing all other aspects of the woman.
Porn turns women into objects to be consumed. Like a bucket of chicken / a woman is nothing more than beasts, legs and thighs.
Men who look at porn find less enjoying in normal sex 👈
As porn and fantasy take control of the mind, it becomes a dream theater that is transposed over the waking world. Every woman they come in contact with is objectified, undressed and evaluated as a willing or unwilling sexual partner.
Porn and masturbation deliver strong feelings of pleasure and excitement. The problem is that it’s never enough. You always sense that you need more, and you foolishly believe more will satisfy you.
The lord calls you into battle!!
You are no more worth of gods acceptance on the first day than you are on the second.
Trust god for the power of change.
Grace = free gift
No matter what you did yesterday, you can get up each morning in hopeful gratitude for what Christ has done for you.
The Holy Spirit is the agent of change in our lives.
7 qualities of true repentance. Change of direction, sorrow, awareness, humility, active obedience, hope in Christ alone,
And joy.
You must decide that you are not going to follow a course of life that leads to lust, and instead decide that you are going to follow a course of life that leads you to god and his blessings.
Each choice represents an opportunity for failure or victory. It is in these small moments of life that you are deciding what kind of person you are, and whom you want to follow.
You may stop looking at porn but find yourself having persistent sexual fantasies, or notice that you constantly check out woman’s bodies as you walk down the street. Those fantasies or that second look will be things you must bring to god, as the spirit convicts you of them.
Looking at porn trains us to see women as objects, inhibits our ability to have intimacy, and diminishes our capacity to enjoy normal sex.
Have you asked the lord to free you? Have you also prayed against the enemy of your progress?
Have you prayed against you favorite fantasies and fetishes?
Consider what can be gained when you flee from temptation: the sweetness of experiencing the love of god.
✨✨ if a single man wants to have an orgasm, he needs to first become a man and undergo the hard work of courting and marrying a woman. He needs to first undergo the hard work of loving, leading and romancing his wife.
A man has no right to touch himself sexually without discussing it with his wife.
👈 in order to succeed, we’re going to have to move into uncomfortable waters without a map.
Sex is best enjoyed when it is anticipated with great patience.
There are 3 things that will stir up the flame of passion in your woman: your walk with god, you relational depth, and the romance that you bring to the relationship.
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March 21, 2017
By coupling real stories with solid, scriptural teaching, Gardner broaches a difficult and complex topic with boldness and compassion. He sets the bar where the Bible puts it, but gently calls his readers to more than they've settled for. Ending with the pictures of genuine, loving relationships and perfection in heaven was an optimistic end to a dark path. Whether you struggle with a sexual addiction, are trying to love someone who does, or are just plain curious about the nature of sexual addiction, this book is an excellent resource.
July 29, 2016
Page turner excellent book
I found the author to very transparent and candid with the facts. A topic that can be shameful or even embarrassing to discuss. This book touches on triggers and accountability. And most importantly the grace and love of God that will help ands guide you through dark temptations. It details the terrible effects it can have in your relationships with family, friends and marriage. I highly recommend this book if you are struggling with sexual perversion mainly porn.
I found the author to very transparent and candid with the facts. A topic that can be shameful or even embarrassing to discuss. This book touches on triggers and accountability. And most importantly the grace and love of God that will help ands guide you through dark temptations. It details the terrible effects it can have in your relationships with family, friends and marriage. I highly recommend this book if you are struggling with sexual perversion mainly porn.
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