How to Speak Your Mind - "Become Assertive and Set Limits"

by Darlene Lancer

Do you say what you think, express how you feel, and ask for what you want? The way you speak immediately conveys your self-esteem. Nonassertive communication limits your professional success and leads to conflict and problems in relationships. Learning to be assertive actually raises your self-esteem, while benefiting your career, relationships, and sense of well-being.

"How to Speak Your Mind" explains what it means to be assertive, why it's important, and how to achieve it. It details all of the elements of assertive and nonverbal communication and lays out the steps to become assertive, as well as common mistakes to avoid.

Once you learn to be assertive, you're ready to establish boundaries with people. The book explains what it means to have limits and a bottom line and how to determine what yours are. The next section shows you how to go about verbalizing your boundaries in a way that will be effective.

Genres: Psychology, Self Help, Nonfiction

37 pages, Kindle Edition

First published October 11, 2012

About the author

I'm a Marriage and Family Therapist and author of "Dating, Loving, and Leaving a Narcissist," "Codependency for Dummies, "Conquering Shame and Codependency: 8 Steps to Free Your True Self," and 7 ebooks: "How to Speak Your Mind - Become Assertive and Set Limits," "Spiritual Transformation in the Twelve Steps," "Freedom from Guilt and Blame - Finding Self-Forgiveness," "Dealing with a Narcissist - 8 Steps to Raise Self-Esteem and Set Boundaries with Difficult People," "Codependency Daily Reflections," "I'm Not Perfect - I'm Only Human," - How to Beat Perfectionism, and "10 Steps to Self-Esteem." PDF's of all ebooks are available on my website and in other formats at online booksellers.

I specialize in relationships, narcissism, and codependency, and have treated individuals and couples for over 35 years. Enjoy articles, blogs, and a Free PDF, "14 Tips for Letting Go," at my site, www.whatiscodependency.com. You can join the journey at www.facebook.com/codependencyrecovery, or follow me on Twitter @darlenelancer, Instagram @darlenelancerLMFT, and Youtube.

Reviews

[Darlene Lancer · Rating 5 out of 5]

A Concise Easy to Read Guide March 6, 2013 on Amazon
By Traveler
I found this little e-book to be extremely helpful. The author laid out, step-by-step, simple guidelines for speaking directly and simply in conversation and interaction. She goes over why we don't express our feelings and thoughts concisely or directly, then lays out a simple program for change: first spend time observing ourselves, our interactions, when we don't speak our truth. Write these interactions down, then practice. She gives guidelines for practice in concise terms.

Very helpful for better communication in work and intimate relationships.

[Marty · Rating 4 out of 5]

A really fun read if you're into this type of thing. It does give some good insight into the subject matter, and even if some things were basic as heck it was still worthy of a read.

The only thing I found odd and lacking about the book was how scarce the examples and exercises were. It would a great help for people that actually want to see how this works or learn how to do it better to just see MORE, you know?
However I can disregard that just for the simple fact that this book was easy to read and easy to follow.

[Nai · Rating 3 out of 5]

Short, basic, but not bad

[Michelle Turner · Rating 5 out of 5]

A short read and full of great tips of bettering yourself by being assertive.

[Jonathan · Rating 5 out of 5]

Pragmatic in nature

Short and sweet read. However, I enjoyed the book. It facilitated critical introspection along with many epiphanies with it's solid yet concise practical examples.

[Mariah · Rating 4 out of 5]

Grammar errors.. the only reason I give it four stars. Despite this, a very informative book. I would suggest it to anyone who wants to communicate better and even advance in their career.