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When No Gets You Nowhere: Teaching Your Toddler and Child Self-Control
Raising children is truly an exciting adventure! Each day brings new discoveries that parents can enjoy right along with their children. However, child rearing can also present frustrating and stressful situations when children refuse to listen and obey.
When ?No? Gets You Nowhere—Teaching Your Toddler and Child Self-Control offers parents three categories of reasons to say ?no? and other options to saying ?no? that will build trust between parents and children. This trust can begin to develop when parents learn to say ?no? in a different way. Acknowledging your child?s feelings, giving your child choices, and demonstrating consequences to your child?s actions are examples of such options.
Author Mark L. Brenner says that besides having children live in a loving and balanced home, parents should, ?always acknowledge and allow [their] child the freedom to express his or her feelings without censorship.?
In When ?No? Gets You Nowhere , Brenner provides both his Seven-Step Method for Saying ?No? and the rationale for why these methods work. Other chapters include:
• Dangerous No?s
• Don?t talk Down—Talk Up!
• A Matter of Trust
• Summary of ?Knows?
Parenting does not have to be a frustrating experience. When ?No? Gets You Nowhere , is an essential guide for parents who are facing a problem situation with their child and for those parents who want to avoid problems before they begin.
About the Author
A licensed marriage/family/child therapist for 18 years, Mark L. Brenner has worked with children ages preschool through adolescence including those who are hyperactive and autistic. A father of a three-year-old son, he is currently developing a video series and a television show about parenting.
When ?No? Gets You Nowhere—Teaching Your Toddler and Child Self-Control offers parents three categories of reasons to say ?no? and other options to saying ?no? that will build trust between parents and children. This trust can begin to develop when parents learn to say ?no? in a different way. Acknowledging your child?s feelings, giving your child choices, and demonstrating consequences to your child?s actions are examples of such options.
Author Mark L. Brenner says that besides having children live in a loving and balanced home, parents should, ?always acknowledge and allow [their] child the freedom to express his or her feelings without censorship.?
In When ?No? Gets You Nowhere , Brenner provides both his Seven-Step Method for Saying ?No? and the rationale for why these methods work. Other chapters include:
• Dangerous No?s
• Don?t talk Down—Talk Up!
• A Matter of Trust
• Summary of ?Knows?
Parenting does not have to be a frustrating experience. When ?No? Gets You Nowhere , is an essential guide for parents who are facing a problem situation with their child and for those parents who want to avoid problems before they begin.
About the Author
A licensed marriage/family/child therapist for 18 years, Mark L. Brenner has worked with children ages preschool through adolescence including those who are hyperactive and autistic. A father of a three-year-old son, he is currently developing a video series and a television show about parenting.
176 pages, Paperback
First published March 19, 1997
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May 20, 2019
This was one of those books that both transformed my thinking and education but also my parenting. I had read this book before having children, then again when my first was about a year. The skills I gained I was able to pass along to a young child and challenge to create his critical thinking skills. Ten years later I have raised a son who thinks before he asks, asked questions, and is willing to understand while accepting the consequences of his actions.
This books can transform your mindset, and skills with teaching and parenting. What you read can transform your own life to be more positive and supportive. If you are open, and I mean truly open to changing your behavior and habits to become a better role model, then reading book can help you get there.
Please don’t bother if you are not willing to open and change or adapt. This book is for those who know and understand that there isn’t one wT to rear kids or get productive or positive outcomes.
This books can transform your mindset, and skills with teaching and parenting. What you read can transform your own life to be more positive and supportive. If you are open, and I mean truly open to changing your behavior and habits to become a better role model, then reading book can help you get there.
Please don’t bother if you are not willing to open and change or adapt. This book is for those who know and understand that there isn’t one wT to rear kids or get productive or positive outcomes.
August 30, 2010
I only gave this book 3 stars because I haven't yet started trying any of the "solutions" suggested in it. It was a fast read and some parts made me think. All around, I think a good book, but we'll see later on the results!
February 24, 2010
Was a while ago...remember thinking it had helpful tips.
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