“I can't speak highly enough about the way this book addresses manhood in our culture. Biblically challenging and radically applicable, it honestly addresses the deepest longings and fears a man faces.” --Matt Chandler
Prepare for a paradigm-shifting view of biblical manhood.
Every man wants to succeed. But for so many, life seems to get in the way. We all have friends—good men, followers of Christ even—who start out well but before long, they’re failing at relationships, bending ethical standards, or driving themselves so hard at work they’re losing the hearts of their wife and kids.
In The Real Win, Colt McCoy and Matt Carter wrestle deeply and personally with this challenge, then deliver down-to-earth, biblical answers. Based on their personal experiences and a close study of Scripture, McCoy and Carter show
• Why so much depends on who you trust and who you serve • Why every man is called to lead and why every man can • How to man up to temptation—and conquer it • How to fi nd the “win” even in your biggest failure
“The real win means trusting the Lord and walking with Jesus no matter what,” write Matt and Colt. “That kind of faithfulness is possible for any man who follows God with all his heart. No matter what circumstances threaten him, a faithful man is the most truly confi dent man in the room.”
Complete with practical study guide for personal or small group use.
This book has some good principles. It's a simple guide for directing your life to honor God in everything you do. Granted, I am of a different denomination than the authors, but I agreed with most of their Biblical interpretations.
One thing that bothered me about this book was the dialogue. It seemed that the target audience was uneducated men who enjoy very simple sentences. At times I thought the authors were talking down to me with how they presented the material. However, I don't think this was intentional. The book is definitely geared towards men, and I can think of plenty of women who would find their percieved role in a man's life offensive, according to the authors' description.
The book is short, and states simple concepts in ways that help you apply tjem to your life. However, this definitely my first recommendation for anyone wanting to learn God's will for them.
There's nothing quite like a good sports story. Documentaries and productions abound exploring the crucial moments of things like the Superbowl, the NBA finals, and also NCAA College Football's National Championship game. So often, these stories focus on the hero who produces in larger than life fashion solidifying their godlike status in our minds. For Christians, this is sweetened whenever the hero stands before the world and proclaims that he did all for the glory of God.
But what happens whenever the underdog gets knocked out in the final seconds of their championship run? Or, when coming down from a jump shot lands funny and sits our the rest of the game with a sprain? Or, tragically, what happens when the all star quarterback takes a hit in the first quarter of the National Championship only to have to sit out the rest of the game and watch his beloved team lose.
Not only is eternity written on the hearts of men, but in a sense, so is winning. That's why Matt Carter and Colt McCoy's book is so refreshing - it is not a bad thing to desire to win. The question is, where is it that "true winning" is found? Is it the pursuit of pleasure, fame, wealth, or National Championships? Or is it somewhere else?
Carter/McCoy set out to write a pastorally sensitive, lucid book on exploring how the "real win" of Christ's work in the gospel reshapes and transforms how we view the satisfied life. Winning, it turns out is not found in the fleeting pleasures of this world as King David so gloomily shows in the book of Ecclesiastes - but in focusing all we do - work, marriage, family - upward to God and His glory. Carter/McCoy set out to show that, both theologically and practically, life's purpose is found in trusting in an unlikely winner: a shepherd King from Bethlehem. We are worshipful beings and until we return to Whom our hearts were created to worship, every mere "win" will leave us longing for more.
While this book is primarily about manhood, women will benefit greatly from it as well. I actually could see this being a very useful tool for families to walk together through during a family devotional time. The Study Guide in the back fosters good discussion for those of all ages and genders.
All in all, I am grateful that Carter/McCoy wrote this book for the Church and men everywhere. I pray that lives would be changed, marriages would be saved, and perspectives would be shifted about what it really means to win.
In one sense, Colt McCoy and Matt Carter couldn't be more different. One is an Aggie, the other a Longhorn; one is a pastor, the other an NFL quarterback. But what both of these men share is a commitment to be the kind of men God calls them to be. God's word shapes their marriage and family life, their work, how they deal with hardships, and even the kind of legacy they want to leave. And they wrote this book together because they want other men to have their lives shaped by God's word too.
I was blown away by how biblically solid this book is. The vision of manhood it presents is robust; there's no watered-down feel good stuff here. Perhaps most striking of all is how obvious it is from the stories they share that Carter and McCoy have learned many of these lessons the hard way and are willing to share the mistakes they made along the way.
The Real Win is written in a plain and direct style that is easy to read and hard to put down, so even the non-reader is likely to enjoy it. Men of all stripes need to hear the message of this book. I'm already looking for someone to pass it on to...
The Real Win by Colt McCoy and Matt Carter is an excellent book for men of all walks of life. Young men could read this book to help them prepare for life. Adult men can find advice and help for every area and stage of their lives. The book covers topics that have to do with the home, the workplace, personal character, and leaving a worthy legacy behind. Any man seeking to better himself will find guidance through this book.
The beginning of the book introduces these two authors to us. Colt McCoy is currently the starting quarterback for the Cleveland Browns. Matt Carter is the pastor of Austin Stone Community Church. Both of these men offer wide perspectives from their very different lives. The premise of this book has to do with the fact that often we see men who are successful according to the world’s standards, but then fail in areas of life that we all consider to be valuable: marriage, family, integrity, etc. The main source for these problems is one of idolatry.
The next section of the book deals with the home. The authors give eight sin traps that men are prone to fall into and how to avoid them. They proceed to show how the husband/wife relationship is second in importance to our relationships with our wives. Men must understand how to love their wives. Finally, the authors explain the father’s role as spiritual leader within the home. The man must make sure his relationship with God is right, then lead his wife in her relationship to God, and finally see that his children have a right relationship to God.
The next section of the book explains the man’s role in the workplace. The authors present several idols that many men place before God in their desire to be successful at work. They encourage men to follow the principles of God’s Word in conducting business. This attitude starts when we realize that God has sovereignty placed us in our work, so He is our true “boss." We should work in an excellent way so as to please Him in all we do. This will also dictate our relationships with co-workers of the opposite sex.
The final section of the book centers on personal character. The authors explain why we face trials and what our attitude and outlook should be as we go through trials. They also demonstrate what it means to leave a legacy of whole-hearted service to the Lord. We can do this as we live a life that obviously shows what God is doing in our hearts, remaining faithful to our wives and families, and by being courageous to fulfill the calling that God has placed on each of our lives.
This book was wonderful and easy to read. The end of the book also includes a study guide that goes along with each chapter of the book. So, this book would be great for a person to read alone, or for a group of men to study and encourage each other together. (Critique by Bobby Lyles)
DISCLOSURE: A complimentary copy was provided in exchange for our honest review. No compensation was received for this review. Opinions expressed are solely those of the reviewer.
I think most men are borne with a desire to be significant, to be seen to have made an impact wherever we are stationed. As Christian men, this desire is no different and we often find ourselves chasing the world's roadmaps for achieving impact.
Matt, a Pastor and Colt, an NFL quarterback, are leading successful lives in the world's eyes. The two men take us through their struggles with the world's guidelines for success to demonstrate an alternative based on Biblical practices. They specifically focus on four key areas: work, family, a man's character and his future or legacy.
The book is especially practical not just because it comes with a study guide but also uses examples from both of their lives to demonstrate how they've managed to depend on Jesus rather than the world's principles. They don't shy away from revealing their own struggles, failures and weaknesses.
There are many good chapters in this book. I especially appreciated the two that cover a man's character especially in discussing integrity and weaknesses. "Therefore, let us draw near with confidence to the throne of grace so that we may receive mercy and find grace to help in time of need." (Heb 4:16b NASB)
They sum it up well: "The real win means trusting the Lord, walking with Jesus, and living your life in the way He defined it." (p177)
This is an important book as the Christian world grapples with the latent "macho-ism" of manhood. Walking with Jesus is an all day everyday lifestyle that requires discipline that the Spirit so desires to empower us with. Let's ask Him each day to guide us as we seek to be faithful to all the Father has in store for us.
The Good: If you are looking for a practical book for a Men’s Study, this is it. Colt McCoy and Matt Carter - one a pastor, the other an NFL quarterback, wrote it. It excels in being practical – about marriage, work, hardships, raising kids, that kind of stuff. There is a study guide in the back for small groups. One of my favorite chapters gave a great exegesis and application of of Psalms 37:4 (NASB77) “Delight yourself in the LORD; And He will give you the desires of your heart.” Good stuff.
The Bad: There are a ton of “Be a gladiator for Jesus” men’s books out there, and I’m burned out on them. Maybe it all started with Wild at Heart. I don’t know. Still, I made it through this one for two reasons. • One, they do a good job getting into Scripture. • Two, they were real. They nowhere give a, “follow our example and you will become a mega-church pastor with tattoos while playing for the NFL and bench-pressing 300 lbs like Sampson” application. In fact, P. 156 does a terrific job of emphasizing how we must trust God when life goes sideways.
The Ugly: I have two ugly things to share with you. • One, I know and care zip about sports. I realize that loses me guy points, but I just don’t. That made it difficult for me to get into some of the illustrations. Now, give me a book written by a pastor and someone from Top Gear - that I could get into. • Two, I received this book free from WaterBrook Multnomah Publishing Group for this review. That did save me $20 bucks retail, but that’s not quite enough for me to lie. Had it been a $50 dollar book, well…
This book is an easy read. The language is written for men to quickly get into it with it down to earth writing and manly illustrations. Most men will probably enjoy reading this book with it conversational style. If you are geared towards a more intellecutally stimulating and well reasoned book then you might get frustrated by the constant sports illustrations.
For me, I enjoyed the book and even recommended it for men to read. Both men present a very authentic look at the struggles of being a man who is passionate about succeeding in business and doing well with his family. There is a great tension between work and family.
The entire book centers on the idea of what does true success and victory look like a man's life. Is it fame? fortune? family? For Colt and Matt the write, "Who you trust and who you serve, those two decisions change everything for a man."
If you are needing to challenge a man in his spiritual walk who is working with tension of work and family and significance, this is a great book.
One of my favorite parts is the last chapter which challenges men to understand what they will leave behind. There is an illustration about famous Christian men of the past and the legacy they left to their families. Two of the men left port examples and one man left a strong example. It reminded me that I too, desire to leave a strong example behind to my wife, kids, and future generations.
Pretty straight forward self-help book for guys, presented in tag-team format, courtesy of an NFL quarterback (Colt McCoy) and the pastor of a vibrant church (Matt Carter). THE REAL WIN addresses one of the greatest challenges most men (and women) face on a daily basis. Prioritization. With all our commitments and interests vying for our attention, it’s hard to decide what deserves your focus. McCoy and Carter help provide some perspective.
After redefining, or rather, refocusing, our understanding of winning and losing, THE REAL WIN tackles (yes, pun intended, sadly) the day to day struggles of living within the context of seeking God’s kingdom first and letting Him add all things unto our lives. A “real win” is a life marked by trust, surrender, and leading your family through challenges and trials. Sounds like fun, right? It’s actually the most fulfilling life you can lead, one in which you follow hard after your savior… all for His glory.
This book was a quick, fairly enjoyable read. It’s full of personal stories – many of which you can’t immediately relate to, but most of which you recognize in one form or another in your own life. And, while there’s not really anything groundbreaking tucked away here, it’s still solid advice and a good reminder. There are worse ways to explore these ideas.
Here I am, a woman, and a non sports fan to boot reviewing a book written by Colt McCoy, a quarterback for the Cleveland Browns, who won 13 of the 15 major college player awards, and a 2008 Heisman trophy runner up. He lives in Texas and is a close friend of the other author Matt Carter, 8000 member Austin Stone Comm. Church in Austin. See ColtMccoy.com and AustinStone.org
Before you stop there and don't read any further, know that I can whole heartily recommend this book. The two men have made a very readable book on Man's quest for authentic success. Every page has Bible references and verses. Although I can't understand the male quest for “winning” I can see that they are committed to their journey with the Lord, and carry it into every aspect of their life. They cover an excellent chapter on being a husband, and father as well as the temptations and idolatries that are part of the male culture and how they choose to mentor young men into being good husbands, fathers, and friends and mentors.
There is an excellent study guide and notes and would work very well, in a young men's study group. There are lessons to learn throughout the book and you will please the men in your congregation with this title.
I recently got the book "The Real Win: a Man's quest for authentic success" by Colt McCoy and Matt Carter, which is a book for men and is one that I hope to get my husband to read,but if I waited to post a review until he read it...well that would be awhile.:) I realize that my opinion is somewhat distorted as this is a book that is by men for men,so some things I did not get,but overall I found this book outstanding! The authors both used a lot of football analogies (probably because one of the authors is in the NFL), so that was not something I can relate to,but a lot of men like that sort of thing. The things that were talked about in the book were phenomenal! It talked about the things that really matter in life and how so many men get caught up in their jobs that they miss out of God and time with their families.
I highly recommend this book to anyone, whether a female to help understand her man and ways to encourage him,or obviously to a man to help realize what it means to really win.
I received a free copy of the book from the publisher but my opinion was in no way influenced.
THE REAL WIN: A MAN'S QUEST FOR AUTHENTIC SUCCESS by Colt McCoy and Matt Carter is a non-fiction/Christian living. What do you get when you combine quarterback legend, Colt McCoy and mega-church pastor,Matt Carter? A mega book written from personal experiences,their struggles,their triumphs, using principles from scriptures. This book is written for men,but being a woman,a non-sports fan and a reviewer I found this a very well written book. Rather you are male,female,well-known or not so well-known we all need faith and trust. It has a great bible study guide at the back to use with a small study group. A great addition to any library,rather it be personal or church library. Great for young men to start quest for authentic success. Received for an honest review from the publisher.
RATING: 4
HEAT RATING: NONE(NON-FICTION/CHRISTIAN LIVING)
REVIEWED BY: AprilR, Review courtesy of My Book Addiction and More
I was really looking forward to reading this book, and I'm glad that I did. That said, it was a tough read because of the writing style. Much of the book was written in a "guy to guy" style that flowed, made the point, and was enjoyable and informative. They said things like "hit me like a ton of bricks," and "Fast forward a bunch of years." Then I would come to something like "I desperately wanted the people I loved to speak value and approval into my life." It might just be me. They seem like two really good guys with an important message. I found great value in what they had to say, but it was occasionally a challenge to keep reading. I'm glad I continued to the end.
I won this book off of Goodreads First Reads. At first, I was just going to read it to write this review and then give it to a friend. However, once I started reading it, the book really started to make me think. It is a great Christian book and one that I really want to introduce to my husband. As a woman reading this book, it really brought things around for me in a religious way and just opened my eyes to a lot of areas of improvement in my personal life. I recommend this book to everyone. I was really engrossed in the message!
"We are called to be leaders...The problem is that most of us don't have a clue how to do it." -Powerful book & incredible perspectives from 2 amazing leaders. This is a must add to the leaders bookshelf.
This is a must read for any husband, father or those that plan to be. This book is great for small groups. The Real Win offers sound Biblical and practical steps to win at home work and play.
Men, do you want to know what real success looks like? Then read this book. Biblically based, this book is filled with great advise on how to get your life on track to accomplish The Real Win.