Why Men Fall Out of Love: The Secrets They Don't Tell

by Michael R. French

WHY MEN FALL OUT OF LOVE is a provocative, intriguing book that looks at Love from the male perspective. Experts in the fields of gender issues and male-female relationships are heralding this groundbreaking work by Michael French as a major contribution to understanding the complex love relationship between a man and a woman. If you are a woman, read this book to find out why your man fell out of love with you. If you're a man, read this book to better understand why you no longer love the woman in your life. The reality is that men fall in love and some of them fall out of love. "This book is must reading for anyone involved in a male-female love relationship. Michael French's book is an impressive, insightful and completely accessible view deep into the heart of men and their struggle with love. I commend him for writing a book that both men and women will benefit from enormously. My hope is that he has millions of readers because WHY MEN FALL OUT OF LOVE is not optional, it is an essential guide to Love." Joel Block, Ph.D., Assistant Clinical Professor of Psychiatry, Einstein College of Medicine, Author of NAKED INTIMACY: HOW TO INCREASE THE OPENNESS IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP" "WHY MEN FALL OUT OF LOVE offers thoughtful insights into the dynamics, of not only men but women in relationships. I highly recommend this book because it suggest helpful solutions in the form of real listening and honest, courageous dialogue." Ali MacGraw, Actor, Activist Michael French is a businessman and author who divide his time between Santa Barbara, California, and Santa Fe, New Mexico. He has published some twenty books, mostly novels, including the best-selling Abingdon's, a Literary Guild Selection, and Pursuit, winner of the California Young Reader Medal. WHY MEN FALL OUT OF LOVE is his first self-help book. He and his wife Patricia have been married for 35 years and have an adult son and daughter. "Read this brilliant book and untie the knot of life - why does love fade?" Susan Braudy, Author, former Editor of MS Magazine

Paperback

First published January 1, 2007

About the author

#1 Amazon best selling author Michael French graduated from Stanford University and Northwestern University. He is a businessman and author who divides his time between Santa Barbara, California, and Santa Fe, New Mexico. He is an avid high-altitude mountain trekker, as well as a collector of first editions of twentieth-century fiction.

He has published twenty-four books, including fiction, young adult fiction, biographies, and art criticism. His novel, Abingdon’s, was a bestseller and a Literary Guild Alternate Selection. His young adult novel, Pursuit, was awarded the California Young Reader Medal.

The Reconstruction of Wilson Ryder was published January 2013.

Mountains Beyond Mountains was published April 2013.

Once Upon a Lie was published March 2016.

Reviews

[Brody · Rating 4 out of 5]

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[Susannah · Rating 4 out of 5]

Mr. French seems to have a lot of rather misogynistic notions about women - but then it happens that a lot of men seem to as well. He attributes quite a bit of power and control to us that I'm not sure is actually valid - but then, I'm a woman and by definition I'm not going to understand why so often men do attribute so much power to us when we feel helpless and manipulated by just the type of actions and circumstances the men in this book describe. Still, I'm finding this book helpful because it gives a purely male view toward what causes relationships to fail, and that is what I was looking for in order to better understand my own present circumstances. I do not have to agree with all of what he says in order to gain insight and value from it. French does an excellent job of presenting a list of very well-illustrated reasons why men may have difficulty in relationships, and this information will help me to be more effective in my dealings with people of the opposite sex, as well as have empathy toward them and perhaps not be so likely to feel hurt by them. Understanding, respect, and open dialogue about the inner landscape that leads us to act and feel the way we do about others is the canvas on which he makes a case for more effective and ultimately satisfying relationships between men and women. After all, it's the inability of the sexes to communicate effectively that is at the root of most of our failures, and this is a point he makes rather well.

Reading this book led me to discover the attachment style theories. This in turn provides more insight into the problems that can develop when two people in a relationship do not understand their own motivations and issues, and are ignorant of certain important truths about themselves and their relationship partners due to realities that they perceive as flawed, unbelievable, or invalid.

Fortunately not all men are like the troubled ones described in this book. It is, however, a good guidepost for things to watch out for - because in the initial stages as related by the individual men who share their own stories, there were definite warning signs of the problems that would be likely to develop, if only their partners had been knowledgeable about the inability or difficulties that certain people have to develop and sustain close, successful, and ultimately satisfying partnerships. As much as I berated myself for being unable to discern what really lay behind my recent husband's dissatisfaction and rejection, I know now that I did all that I could. An entire realm of personal excavation and growth needs to be explored before he will ever be ready for a real relationship with anyone, including himself. And I can not do that for him.

[sbmk · Rating 5 out of 5]

This book made me realise things about my partner, which were so glaringly obvious, yet I never noticed. It made me understand men a lot better, and despite my future plans to clear out my library of physical books (as I move to reading on a Kindle), this is definitely one I will be keeping and refer back to when I feel the need.

[Anthony Gonzalez · Rating 3 out of 5]

It’s relatable in some ways and certainly informative regarding what goes on inside of a man as well as what he thinks he needs, the author stresses communication as a panacea and it comes across as repetitive but it’s worth reading at least once to see deeper structure.

[Shaida Hossein · Rating 3 out of 5]

I read this for bookclub but was surprised that I was intrigued by this book. I cannot really compare it to self help books because haven't read one before, but I do not think this qualifies as a self help book. For me it is a cross between Cosmopolitan magazine and He's Just Not That Into You (the movie, not the book). The book is setup as a bunch of short stories with the author's insights inserted throughout the stories. It was interesting to hear insights from a guy's perspective. The author included modern day movies, topics and pop culture to make comparisons and add evidence and support to his insights. Definitely was not a comical novel, nor was it preachy. I definitely think it is a book that you may not want to purchase for your personal library, therefore, I recommend checking it out at the library. This book deserves to be read once by all just to gain awareness that everyone has troubles and there are times when you cannot control situations. Personally cannot wait to discuss the novel in bookclub to see how others thought about it.

[Maritza · Rating 5 out of 5]

if you've ever had your heart broken, read this