30 Days to Understanding Other People: A Daily Guide to Improving Relationships

by Beverly D. Flaxington

Commit 30 days and watch your relationships change. If you are tired of struggling in your relationships with coworkers, bosses, family members or friends, this book is for you. In its pages, Gold Award-winning author Beverly Flaxington offers you a daily, step-by-step approach to uncovering those things about yourself and about others that could be preventing your relationships from thriving. The wisdom that Bev has shared with thousands of people and readers of her bestselling book Understanding Other The Five Secrets to Human Behavior is here for you! Free yourself from the relationships that bring you down and hold you down using this simple, day-by-day approach.

146 pages, Paperback

First published April 26, 2012

About the author

Beverly Flaxington is a relationship expert, communication specialist, and
behavioral consultant who has spent decades helping individuals and organizations
improve the way they connect with others. Drawing from real-world experience
across diverse industries and personal development fields, she offers practical
insights into human behavior that empower readers to build stronger, healthier
relationships.
Through her writing, Beverly simplifies complex behavioral concepts into
easy-to-understand techniques that anyone can apply. Her work focuses on
emotional awareness, effective communication, and identifying common
relationship missteps that often lead to conflict or misunderstanding.
With a passion for helping people thrive both personally and professionally,
Beverly’s books inspire readers to develop deeper understanding, improve
connection, and create more meaningful interactions in everyday life.

Reviews

[BAM doesn’t answer to her real name · Rating 3 out of 5]

This would have been better as a paper book for me. I would have like to have written my answers to the exercises instead of trying to keep a notebook. But I could answer honestly to most situations. I was surprised.

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[Natalie · Rating 3 out of 5]

Found the tips to be more common sense than any new insights.

[Sandra · Rating 5 out of 5]

Over my lifetime I have had to deal with my share of extremely difficult people! And being the nice person that I am have found it hard at times to play nice, as they say. This book is a great guide and seriously if more people thought this way or even acted this way, we would all be a lot happier. Bev takes one day in a month period to give lessons and tips on situations we deal with all the time.These tips from this Gold-award winning author will help you in every aspect of your life, whether it be at your business or in your personal life. These techniques have been used by many and really work.

A quick example of what you can find in this book, with the current state of our country right now and this being an election year.....Day 23-Let's Agree to Disagree is a GREAT lesson. She talks about how people react and criticize those that don't agree with their political opinion. I encounter this a lot only because I am well read on current events and when asked I like to present the facts. This doesn't go over very well with those who have their own beliefs they feel strongly about. In this section she asks you to do an exercise where you write down a certain situation that you reacted in a negative way towards someone who had a different perspective than you. By doing this it made me realize that I over reacted and ended up loosing a friendship because of a political argument a while back. I should have just let the person speak their mind, given my opinion and just left it at that. Agree to Disagree. I now think this way, and like I said, I give my two sense when asked but don't force my opinions on others and know when to stop the conversation and just finish off with Agree to Disagree.

[Kim Hansen · Rating 4 out of 5]

Do you have problems dealing with relationships in your life and aren’t quite able to pinpoint what the issue is? Maybe a partner, a boss or a family member? Then 30 Days to Understanding Other People by author Beverly D. Flaxington, just might be the right book for you.

This book helps lead you in the right direction to getting these relationships back on track and living a happier, more calm life. The book is broken up into daily exercises that teach you lessons on how to handle your reaction to what other people say and do to you each day.

I have worn many hats in my life so far; mother, step-mother, caretaker, employee and boss. With each phase of my life, I’ve had to deal with a variety of people and situations. I used to be a pushover – allowing people all of the control over situations and outcomes. Most of the time, this didn’t work well and the end result was that I was left to pick up the pieces of a broken friendship or relationship. But as I matured and gained more responsibilities, I had to start taking control of how I handled someone elses reaction to what I may have said or done. I truly wish I had this book during that time!

This book gives lessons that I have tried to teach my children as they mature and start to deal with new people and new issues in their life. People can only take your power if you give it to them. You have to give a little sometimes and be the bigger person – agree to disagree sometimes!

Like the author says, commit 30 days and watch your relationships change – reading this book is a huge step in that direction!

[Katie · Rating 4 out of 5]

There are a few gems in here - a few tips that I actually wrote down. Moor the most part, every one of these 35 (yes, there were 5 bonus tips) tips and suggestions were and are pretty intuitive, but they are good to read every now and then as reminders. Not as just reminders, actually, but as behavior "checks" or things that we all, hopefully, want to do. But they aren't tangible, so they are easy to forget in the heat of the moment.

I will definitely come back to some of these tips as things I know I need to work on. Just reading about them, and recognizing that fact, I think, at least makes me more aware of them. Now let's just hope I can remember them the next time someone pisses me off. I mean...when my filter acts up and I misinterpret someone's words or actions.

[Kelly · Rating 3 out of 5]

I especially liked the tips from our furry friends: "Wag more, bark less" is a new mantra of mine.