The User's Guide to Sleight of Mouth: How to Unleash the Magic of Language to Persuade Anyone, Anytime, Anywhere

by Doug O'Brien

What is Sleight of Mouth? Sleight of Mouth is a persuasion skill, a vehicle for conversationally changing beliefs. It is a system of 14 different patterns of response to a stated belief. A system that, once mastered, can allow you to always have a response that will effectively elucidate your position and help you to persuade rather than be persuaded. Simply put, it will help you win any argument, be verbally powerful and powerfully verbal. Where Did Sleight of Mouth Come From? Sleight of Mouth is a result of the methodology of NLP (Nuero Linguistic Programming) being applied to NLP itself, or, more properly, to Richard Bandler's debate skills. NLP grew out of Richard Bandler and John Grinder analyzing and codifying the methods of a number of the 20th Century's great therapists like Milton Erickson, Virginia Satir and others. Robert Dilts, one of Bandler and Grinder's early students, applied this same methodology to Bandler's own unique way with people. In his NLP Certification courses, Bandler would challenge participants to use their newly acquired skills to persuade him that a belief system adopted for the occasion (eg."I can't see the curve, therefore the world is flat.") was wrong. As hard as they tried, Bandler was always able to field an army of responses to turn their "logical" arguments around. Dilts was able to discern the patterns of persuasion that Bandler used. Dilts systemized the patterns into specific categories and developed an elegant flow chart of them which makes it wonderfully easy and fun to use. "The User's Guide to Sleight of Mouth" by Doug O'Brien teaches you this system in a wonderfully succinct and user-friendly manner that will have you using it in no time. Here's just some of what you'll * The inner structure of Beliefs. It's true - every belief has the same inner structure and - once you know that - you can unlock and unpack any belief that comes your way * The Agreement Frame - it's like verbal Aikido. * The Precision Model - a powerful, yet simple, technique to bust through any fluffy language you hear people using and get them to be more specific and accurate * The Polya Patterns of Plausible Inference * Fourteen different "Sleight of Mouth" patterns for reframing those beliefs * Much much More

142 pages, Paperback

First published August 9, 2011

Reviews

[Hartman Out · Rating 4 out of 5]

Goede introductie in het herkennen van welke frames waar en in welke redenering worden toegepast. Er bestaan (slechts?) 14 benaderingen om een uitspraak een andere draai te geven. Vooraf is het de kunst om na te gaan waar iemands waarden, normen, zelfbeeld en criteria liggen om daar SOM toe te kunnen passen. Dit boek is een goede opstap om je in SOM te storten. Het boek van Robert Dilts met dezelfde titel is daarna verplichte kost ...

[Lionkhan-sama · Rating 3 out of 5]

A really interesting read, especially if you have any prior knowledge of NLP.
This book builds on the concepts of NLP and hypnosis, to teach you how human beliefs come to life, how they are preserved and how best to tackle them.

It's a sexy little manual, with a neat method of teaching that relies on simplicity.
You don't need to be a genius to become proficient at sleight of mouth. You just need to be curious to learn, and determined to apply.

There are parts of the book that seem a bit misleading or unclear, but they are very few. However, it did make me feel like I was not quite reading a high level book. For that reason, I did not give the book the 4-star rating it deserves, and put it down to a 3-star.

A great and nifty read, that could benefit you greatly in your life.

[Eric · Rating 4 out of 5]

Awesome read, I truly enjoyed it.