Trapped in the Magic Mirror: Shattering Illusions About Romance And Marriage

by Deborah B. Dunn

A subtle message has been ingrained in American women, telling them their primary goal in life is to find the "Prince" who will whisk them off to a "Magic Kingdom" and save them from the drudgery of an ordinary life. This Prince will make them feel beautiful and loved and will meet all their emotional needs, if he truly loves them. These unrealistic expectations are what Dunn calls the "Magic Mirror," and when unmet, they lead to a constant craving for "something more." Unable to make their wives happy, husbands often react by emotionally distancing themselves. Lonely and disillusioned, wives turn to romance novels, movies, food, and shopping to fill the emptiness. Those comforts turn into addictions, and that is when women become trapped. Only by finding the "Christ within" and developing a strong sense of their own value and God's vision for their lives, can women rise to their potential and overcome narcissism, emotional neediness, and romance addiction. This comes by focusing on God instead of their husbands to meet their needs and by retraining their thinking about romance. Only then can they have the courage to become the kind of woman they admire, one who is not dependant on romance and constant attention from her husband in order to feel good about herself.

251 pages, Paperback

First published May 1, 2006

Reviews

[Phallen (Helen) Sakhan · Rating 5 out of 5]

Mirror, Mirror on the wall, tell me who’s the fairest of them all! Well, just kidding. This is not the fairy tale book. This book teaches us to hammer that evil mirror from our hearts. So stop asking the mirror, because at the end of the day, it will tell you that it was itself that is the fairest of them all. 😂😂🚑🚑

You have to be sure God is really calling you to marry someone, and not just go along with it because it is convenient and feels like a safe life choice.