I love this book, and I feel fortunate for stumbling across a free copy. It presents ideas that can be found in other books, but it does so in a way that doesn't make you feel like an awful failure as a parent. It also doesn't bludgeon you with a narrow set of parenting tools that are coldly applied or make you feel like a stubborn troglodyte if you're skeptical (I'm looking at you, Dreikurs.). I only took off one star because it would be helpful to have more explicit techniques that can be applied simply in the heat of a problematic situation (which is something Dreikurs does well, aside from a bit of "of course my methods always work" hubris).