Discover why relationships full of hope and potential disintegrate beginning with the most common myths that sabotage intimacy, such as “If you really loved me, you would know,” “If you’re in pain, I should be able to fix it,” or “If we disagree, one of us must be wrong, defective or inadequate.” For nearly half a century, Lori Heyman Gordon, PhD., pioneered the field of evidence-based relationship skills training through her innovative PAIRS (“Practical Application of Intimate Relationship Skills”) courses that have touched countless lives across the globe. This updated edition of her groundbreaking exploration of the most common hazards of intimacy insightfully deconstructed and logically reframed into enduring behaviors offers a roadmap for anyone who values their closest relationships and wants to protect those connections as a foundation for life.