How to Stay Lovers for Life: Discover a Marriage Counselor's Tricks of the Trade

by Sharyn Wolf

Every relationship has its ups and downs, the moments when someone says, "I'm so in love I can't imagine being single," and the moments when they wonder, "Who is this alien beside me?" But the good news is that the excitement and romance a couple knew at the beginning can be restored and sustained. Based on the same model of guerrilla survival skills that made her book Guerrilla Dating Tactics such a success, Sharyn Wolf takes the same playful, humorous approach to solving relationship problems--from the lingering dirty socks in the bedroom to the bigger issues like children, housework, sex, and communication. In this step-by-step guide to diagnosing and treating your relationship problems, hundreds of simple strategies are provided to get your relationship back on track. Some sample Mating After a fight, make it up to your partner by doing a household task she/he hates to do
Chart your positive and negative times together--and see the patterns that develop
Draw a family tree with your partner so you can recognize the impact of your past on your present
Replete with colorful, real-life stories of couples who made it through the trenches together, How to Stay Lovers for Life offers hundreds of quick, easy, and fun things couples can do to keep their love alive and their relationship flourishing.

Paperback

First published January 1, 1997

About the author

Sharyn Wolf, R-LCSW , is a New York State licensed psychotherapist with twenty-three years of clinical experience in her Manhattan based private practice. She is the author of five books on relationships and one memoir and has been a frequent guest on more than four-hundred television and radio shows, including Oprah, Today, and CNN. Her work has been profiled internationally in publications such as The Wall Street Journal, Newsweek, The Boston Globe, The Washington Post, The Seattle Times, and The New York Times who wrote, “Sharyn Wolf charts a course on the bumpy road to love.”

Through her long career, Sharyn has worked with individuals, couples, groups and families who have experienced the many varying challenges that life presents. She brings empathy, wisdom and a sense of safety. Sharyn is nationally known for her practical, down-to-earth approach as well as her sense of humor.

In addition, for twenty years, she led hundreds of relationship and dating workshops from Boston to Seattle. In 2005, she served as a national spokesperson and consultant for Viagra.

Outside of the realm of psychotherapy, Sharyn paid her rent for seventeen years as a jazz and R&B singer where she opened for B.B. King, Taj Mahal, Robert Klein, David Brenner and Victor Borge among others. She has been a jewelry designer featured in Vogue and with a case at Barney’s.

Sharyn has also been an avid bicyclist completing an AIDS ride where she raised $3,600 and taking a solo trip from Astoria, Oregon to Crescent City, CA with her tent and sleeping bag on her bike. She is an avid pet lover and her late cairn terrier, Sparky Jones, never missed a group therapy session in eight years.

- excerpted from her website

Reviews

[Ken · Rating 5 out of 5]

Great, practical tips for taking a relationship all the way from the brink to the 'next frontier'. My favorite parts were the sex and housework code, always keeping in mind gender differences, and the examples of turning a problem from a 'you' to a 'we'.

[Jenifer]

I may have read this a long time ago. I re-skimmed it in my attempt to clean off my self-help shelf. The language put me off a little. It probably has some good points in it, but I'm going to pass this book on for the benefit of someone else. Hope it helps.

[Cory · Rating 4 out of 5]

Hilarious and helpful at the same time! Even for true love (of which I have) it's good to have a reality check about expectations about a relationship.