The Best Kept Secret: Men and Women's Stories of Lasting Love

by Janet Reibstein

Statistics showing rising divorce rates and broken relationships abound, but they conceal another story - relationships that are happy and enduring. Janet Reibstein, psychologist and relationship expert, has talked in depth to 200 couples who have stayed happy together. Here she pulls back the curtains to reveal their best-kept secrets. Whether married or unmarried, gay or straight, they talk candidly and profoundly about their what worked, what didn't, how they survived strife and overcame it, the importance or not of commitment, monogamy, sex, romance, autonomy and independence, and of children (their own and from previous relationships), friends, relatives, ex-partners and in-laws. Lifelong love need not be elusive - this inspiring book convinces us that it is real and attainable.

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First published January 1, 2006

Reviews

[Karah · Rating 5 out of 5]

I became aware of this book from browsing my library's catalog. Love, love, love... I want it in songs. I want it in books. I want it in my ice cream sundae with hot chocolate fudge and roasted peanuts. These couples were linked by love, friendship, forbearance, joy, resilience, and a fascination with each other. Many of the interviewees reported fluctuation and/or reduction in sexual activity but everyone claimed the warmth and tenderness made it even better. I honor that progression. If you live wisely and joyously, life often does get better.