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Over It: Letting God Get You Past Life's Hurts
Whether it's a big deal or no big deal, everything that happens to a teen is a big deal. From the small mortifications everyone experiences in the dating world to the truly tragic (and all-too-common) issues of divorce or the death of a loved one, the teen years are full of emotional upheaval. If teens aren't getting the support they need from friends, family, and church to get through the tough stuff of life, they cope in whatever ways they can--sometimes with disastrous results.
Now bestselling authors Hayley DiMarco and Michael DiMarco show teens how to pick themselves up, move on, and deal with it. With a potent combination of empathy, tough love, Scripture, and wit, the DiMarcos lead teens through true recovery. As always, they avoid platitudes and tell it like it is--which is what teens really want. Parents, youth leaders, counselors, and teens will find that Over It is the book they've been waiting for.
Now bestselling authors Hayley DiMarco and Michael DiMarco show teens how to pick themselves up, move on, and deal with it. With a potent combination of empathy, tough love, Scripture, and wit, the DiMarcos lead teens through true recovery. As always, they avoid platitudes and tell it like it is--which is what teens really want. Parents, youth leaders, counselors, and teens will find that Over It is the book they've been waiting for.
- GenresChristian
192 pages, Paperback
First published July 1, 2011
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Hayley DiMarco
81 books83 followersHayley DiMarco is the best-selling author of over 30 books, including God Girl, Mean Girls, and Die Young. She and her husband, Michael, run Hungry Planet, a company focused on producing books that combine hard-hitting biblical truth with cutting-edge design in Nashville, Tennessee.
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December 20, 2017
Overall this book was pretty good. I found a lot of the cited scripture beneficial, and looked them up in my bible to compare. This book does a great job of piecing together lessons, and helping them flow. The language in this book is very direct. A lot of times though, that direct dialogue and comparisons are what are needed to bring mental clarity. I enjoyed the message of this book and it helped me a lot.
I did have some contentions on a few points that were made due to other biblical scriptures. This was mainly in regard to all sins being equal, which I understand for the most part. I know that God uses even murderers to preach his word, but I have yet to find evidence that child molesters are only as guilty as those who lie, cheat, murder, and steal, and have not seen biblical evidence that they are used to further God's kingdom. Matthew 18:6 KJV "But whoso shall offend one of these little ones which believe in me, it were better for him that a millstone were hanged about his neck, and that he were drowned in the depth of the sea." Luke 17:2 KJV "It were better for him that a millstone were hanged about his neck, and he cast into the sea, than that he should offend one of these little ones." Mark 9:42 KJV "And whosoever shall offend one of these little ones that believe in me, it is better for him that a millstone were hanged about his neck, and he were cast into the sea." I'm not accusing when I say this or saying that a child molester is forever doomed, but I would like to find biblical evidence that shows that even they can truly turn around. The other point of contention I had is in regard to Ephesians 6:2 referenced as an example to "obey" your parents. I was glad that this book expounded upon you obey your heavenly father first and foremost and if your parents contradict that you do not obey them. Honoring your parents does not always mean obeying them, especially in cases where parents are abusive. I would have liked to have known more about how to live peacefully with others, especially abusive parents. I believe that God wants to protect his children from abuse, but it is a difficult balance to find how to interact according to God with an abusive parent. I know that regardless you are to love them and forgive them, but how can you go back to a situation that will cause more pain and suffering? This seems a difficult balance to maintain. It's a hurdle that is difficult to just forgive and get over-except through trusting in God. Like I said, I am glad it was expounded upon that if morals conflict with Christ's example and with God's Word you do not have to obey, but this was a tricky area.
The rest of the book though was helpful, and did bring great amounts of clarity. It helped me view others in a different light, as well as the sins of my past. This book even helped me realize sins that I hadn't even realized I was committing. I was glad the authors drove the point home about how your first priority is to please God and to disregard the opinions of others. I have found myself caring about the opinions of others far too much. I also liked the section on what can happen when you believe you must be punished for your wrongdoings, and take that punishment upon yourself even though Christ died on the cross, and you really just need to accept it. I had self-harm tendencies in the past trying to punish myself. I always felt as though I deserved punishment, and thought perhaps I could save myself from harder punishment if harmed myself. It was arrogant to think that any of that would help, and I am glad Christ healed me. I now look back at that time period as an amazing time where I saw a true example of God's grace. I had always thought there had to be some sort of catch for the sins I committed, like I would get less time with my husband as punishment for my sin of fornication beforehand. This book referenced Psalm 103:10 "He does not treat us as our sins deserve or repay us according to our iniquities." When I read that verse, I felt like I had heard it for the first time, and I began crying for joy. Despite the things of my past, the Lord showed mercy on me. He not only didn't punish me harshly for the sins I felt were so terrible, but instead when I called on him, he gave me the blessing of a loving husband (far sooner than I could have ever anticipated.) It was at a time when I felt I was at my worst, and my faith had dwindled considerably. I didn't deserve God's grace, but then again no one really does. I looked at others and thought they were always better than me, and that they always had more hope of being saved in the afterlife. That isn't true. We all sin, and God loves all of us. This book even shows the amount of pride in self-loathing, and I think that is a very important thing to teach. We don't hear about it often enough. Humility is different, and I'm glad this book was written to bring all of these things to light.
I did have some contentions on a few points that were made due to other biblical scriptures. This was mainly in regard to all sins being equal, which I understand for the most part. I know that God uses even murderers to preach his word, but I have yet to find evidence that child molesters are only as guilty as those who lie, cheat, murder, and steal, and have not seen biblical evidence that they are used to further God's kingdom. Matthew 18:6 KJV "But whoso shall offend one of these little ones which believe in me, it were better for him that a millstone were hanged about his neck, and that he were drowned in the depth of the sea." Luke 17:2 KJV "It were better for him that a millstone were hanged about his neck, and he cast into the sea, than that he should offend one of these little ones." Mark 9:42 KJV "And whosoever shall offend one of these little ones that believe in me, it is better for him that a millstone were hanged about his neck, and he were cast into the sea." I'm not accusing when I say this or saying that a child molester is forever doomed, but I would like to find biblical evidence that shows that even they can truly turn around. The other point of contention I had is in regard to Ephesians 6:2 referenced as an example to "obey" your parents. I was glad that this book expounded upon you obey your heavenly father first and foremost and if your parents contradict that you do not obey them. Honoring your parents does not always mean obeying them, especially in cases where parents are abusive. I would have liked to have known more about how to live peacefully with others, especially abusive parents. I believe that God wants to protect his children from abuse, but it is a difficult balance to find how to interact according to God with an abusive parent. I know that regardless you are to love them and forgive them, but how can you go back to a situation that will cause more pain and suffering? This seems a difficult balance to maintain. It's a hurdle that is difficult to just forgive and get over-except through trusting in God. Like I said, I am glad it was expounded upon that if morals conflict with Christ's example and with God's Word you do not have to obey, but this was a tricky area.
The rest of the book though was helpful, and did bring great amounts of clarity. It helped me view others in a different light, as well as the sins of my past. This book even helped me realize sins that I hadn't even realized I was committing. I was glad the authors drove the point home about how your first priority is to please God and to disregard the opinions of others. I have found myself caring about the opinions of others far too much. I also liked the section on what can happen when you believe you must be punished for your wrongdoings, and take that punishment upon yourself even though Christ died on the cross, and you really just need to accept it. I had self-harm tendencies in the past trying to punish myself. I always felt as though I deserved punishment, and thought perhaps I could save myself from harder punishment if harmed myself. It was arrogant to think that any of that would help, and I am glad Christ healed me. I now look back at that time period as an amazing time where I saw a true example of God's grace. I had always thought there had to be some sort of catch for the sins I committed, like I would get less time with my husband as punishment for my sin of fornication beforehand. This book referenced Psalm 103:10 "He does not treat us as our sins deserve or repay us according to our iniquities." When I read that verse, I felt like I had heard it for the first time, and I began crying for joy. Despite the things of my past, the Lord showed mercy on me. He not only didn't punish me harshly for the sins I felt were so terrible, but instead when I called on him, he gave me the blessing of a loving husband (far sooner than I could have ever anticipated.) It was at a time when I felt I was at my worst, and my faith had dwindled considerably. I didn't deserve God's grace, but then again no one really does. I looked at others and thought they were always better than me, and that they always had more hope of being saved in the afterlife. That isn't true. We all sin, and God loves all of us. This book even shows the amount of pride in self-loathing, and I think that is a very important thing to teach. We don't hear about it often enough. Humility is different, and I'm glad this book was written to bring all of these things to light.
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