Affirmative Gay Relationships: Key Steps in Finding a Life Partner

by Neil Kaminsky

Affirmative Gay Key Steps in Finding a Life Partner presents a step-by-step strategy for gay men serious about finding a life partner and establishing a committed relationship. This groundbreaking book puts the focus on the individual to help him understand what he wants (and needs) from a partner, how (and where) to find him, and how to form a healthy and happy relationship that just might last a lifetime!

Genres: LGBT

173 pages, Hardcover

First published January 1, 2003

Reviews

[Marvin Lopez · Rating 5 out of 5]

I will never get tired reading this book, because it helped me in ways the society I live in can't.

[Douglas Lord · Rating 5 out of 5]

As with his prior When It's Time To Leave Your Lover: A Guide for Gay Men, Kaminsky's latest is not a generic book in which genders are conveniently edited to read "gay"; it actually examines much that is specific to gay men, such as obsession with youth, the closet, and "easy, quick, no strings attached sex." Emotional vulnerability, intimacy, and the meaning of being and having a life partner are also covered. Kaminsky, a licensed clinical social worker, uses a blunt style, but it's charmingly effective (e.g., "Thinking with your penis can make the wrong guy seem right until it gets so bad that there's no more room for denial"). Readers who stick with it will catch on to the instructive, results-oriented approach. Like Martin Kantor's My Guy: A Gay Man's Guide to a Lasting Relationship, this book will find an appreciative audience. Recommended.
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[Dex · Rating 5 out of 5]

This is the best gay advice book ever written, and that's saying a lot because I've read of ton of gay advice books. Neil Kaminsky is a gay therapist with years of experience, and hence, very qualified to write such a book. Beware of other so-called "self-help" or relationship advice books for gay men written by authors without a foundation in psychology and no experience in therapy. Those books are usually funny without any practical advice, or intentionally misleading (i.e. Dynamic Duos by Keith Swain, Boyfriend 101 by Jim Sullivan). This book written by Kaminsky is the real deal, and he tells it like it is without sugar coating or any glossing over. This work has made me a well-adjusted, self-actualized gay man. I cannot recommend this book enough for all gay men! If only all gay men would read this, we, as a community, would be much improved and in a healthier state of mind. If I could give it six stars, I would. This book should be etched in gold. Kaminsky should be every gay man's co-pilot when wading through gay life and making wise choices.