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And by the Way…

(Butterfly #1)

3.81  ·  Rating details ·  565 ratings  ·  59 reviews
At Strandbrook College, we are Kids Of. Kids of diplomats, media stars, musicians, artists, actors, oh, and wealthy people who aspire to all of that. I'm the kid of a rock star. Means nothing to me.

When Mum died, six months ago, I didn't just lose her, I lost my dad - to work. The only thing he does now is annoy me. He hires people like 'The Stylist' who wears bullets in h
Paperback, 325 pages
Published February 1st 2011 by Hachette Books Ireland
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Sep 16, 2011 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: ya-contemporary
When Keris Stainton first told me about And By the Way... for D&B Week, I didn't know what to expect. It sounded really good, but I hadn't heard of Denise Deegan before. I have to say, I judged the book by it's cover. When I opened it's pages, I was looking forward to what I expected would be a fluffy read, despite the topic. It's anything but fluffy. But it's completely fantastic!

I don't even really know where to begin. Alex is suffering terribly from the death of her mother six months ago. Her
When most non-Irish people think of Irish people they think of alcohol, leprachauns, and more alcohol. So when an Irish book comes out it's hard to be optimistic. But as a (sometimes) proud Irish girl, I am so honoured to be from the same country as the setting of this book! I loved this book so fucking much. You get drawn into the story, begin to love the characters, and cry with them along the way. Definitely one of the best things to come from Irish soil. Go you, Denise Deegan! You've made ou ...more
Sue Wallace
Jun 20, 2017 rated it really liked it
And By The Way by Denise Deegan.
Six months ago, I lost my mum to cancer and my dad, 'The Rockstar', to work. Now, I don't do close. With anyone. That way I won't get hurt.

My friend, Rachel, won't give up on me. And that's a problem. So is David McFadden, a guy in my class who says he wants to help. Six months ago, he could have but didn't. Now, it's too late. The last person I'm going to listen to is David McFadden. When he calls me Ice Queen, I'll show him just how right he is.
A very good rea
Michelle Caffrey
Jan 25, 2013 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: love

Alex is sixteen and struggling to deal with her mother's death and her father's apparent indifference to it all. Then she meets David.
This book was recommended to me by a friend after my mother died. I was a little reluctant to read it at first but now I'm delighted I did.

I thought the blurb made the book sound a little cliché when really, it was anything but. I liked how the author handled the relationship between Alex and David. It was sweet, but not over the top. Both characters were well de
Jun 12, 2017 rated it really liked it
A lovely book focused on love and loss and learning to trust and live again. I really enjoyed the style in which this book was written with the main character being very emotional and torn throughout the book, the characters closest to Alex are also emotionally charged and at various stages of grieving. The characters all slotted together well and helped to create a visual story that deepened as the story established. I found it took a longer than I expected for the story to warm up and for the ...more
Jun 23, 2017 rated it it was amazing
A fantastic, emotional story about Alex dealing with the loss of her mother and her father who is lost in his work. I can't wait to read the next book in the series. Thanks to TBC for the review copy. ...more
Dec 02, 2011 rated it really liked it
Recommends it for: Everyone! Literally! It's Amazing - One Of Those Books You HAVE To Read!
4½ Out of 5
“I used to do close. Then Mum died. And I died too. I can't go through that pain again. I just can't…”
Since her mum died, Alex has felt empty, hollow. Though she's surrounded by people all the time, she always feels completely and utterly alone. But she doesn't want to let people in. Not again. The last time she did, her heart was broken and she just can't live through that again.
Her dad's no longer there, no longer 'dad' - he's just "The Rockstar", the man who's never there and pay
Jul 15, 2011 rated it really liked it
Shelves: own
When I was first offered the chance to read and review And By The Way, I knew nothing about the book whatsoever. However, after reading the summary as well as a few rave reviews, I knew I had to give it a chance, no matter what, and as it turns out I’m glad I felt that way, because And By The Way is an amazing, heartfelt book that’s perfect for fans of YA contemporary!

And By The Way tells the story of Alex, a girl who has felt nothing but lost ever since she lost her mother six months ago. It d
Nov 28, 2012 rated it it was amazing
The author of this book, Denise Deegan approached me to read her three novels when I got a chance and I agreed because 1) She was extremely polite in asking me 2) Worked really hard at getting me the novels because for some reason since she's in Ireland and I'm here, she can't gift them to me from Ireland. Some Amazon Law. 3) And it's set in Ireland. I haven't read a YA novel set in Ireland.
So, I started it on the holiday weekend, and I couldn't put it down! Alex, the main character is broken an
Apr 04, 2011 rated it liked it
And By The Way is Denise Deegan's first novel in the "Butterfly" series, revolving around the kids who attend Strandbrook College in Dublin. It came to my attention when Denise emailed us about her novel and I was pleased to get a copy to review. It's taken me months to read it - mainly because I prefer to have an entire series to read rather than risk cliff-hangers, but as the second book of the series has recently come out, I decided it was time to read And By The Way.

And By The Way isn’t a pe
Cheyenne Teska
Dec 10, 2012 rated it really liked it
Shelves: reviewed, for-review
Alex is just another sixteen year old living life the best way she knows how. After the loss of her mother, she has issues connecting with others and she begins to pull away from her best friends, even when she needs them the most. Her rock star dad is barely around and she feels like she's alone in the world, at least until things start heating up between her and hottie American, David McFadden. Just when things are building back up, life seems to knock everything down again. And By The Way is ...more
Sammee (I Want to Read That)
There is something about this book that really draws you in. I became really invested in the story and the characters.

We meet Alex six months after her mother has died. She's adamant that she doesn't want anyone - believes if she 'doesn't do close' she wont get hurt. But David McFadden refuses to let her push him away - and she starts to believe that maybe she can let people in again...

Alex is a very complicated character. She is intensely private, refuses to let anyone close - and you can truly
Feb 02, 2013 rated it really liked it
I thought this book was brilliant as it was written through the eyes of Alex who lives with her rockstar Dad who has'nt a clue what fatherhood is even if it hit him in the face.Alex has been feeling so alone lately as her mother has just passed away after cancer and her Dad is just acting like nothing else happened.She becomes accustumed to har new life without anyone to talk to but her two best friends Rachel and Sarah.Except this year is going to be different this is the year when everything c ...more
Kate Byrne
Feb 28, 2011 rated it it was amazing
I saw this book in a shop window and thought I would give it a try. I was amazed at how addictive it was, it was like being stuck in a time warp. Everything else faded out and I completely lost track of time. I only realized how long I was reading for when it was dinner time :L This book is absolutely amazing. I would recommend it to teens and adults alike. It manages to be both extremely funny and deeply sad and moving. If you have ever lost someone close to you like I have, you will find yours ...more
Aanchal (Book Flame)
May 30, 2011 rated it really liked it
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This book was amazingly good. It's about a sixteen year old girl named Alex who is dealing with the passing of her mom, and if that isn't enough she also has a famous "Rockstar" for a dad, only problem is he stopped being her "father" quite some time ago.

I found this to be a very fast read, a page turner to be exact. Alex's troubled emotions and struggles were right on key with what a teenager may go through when they have lost someone very close to them.

Oct 17, 2012 rated it really liked it
4.5 stars

And By The Way is the perfect example of a cover giving you a different impression. I asked Twitter for contemporary romance recommendation and Luisa Plaja suggested this. So I was expecting romance, aww and good writing. All of those things are in there but this book is so much more.

Sixth months after her mother died Alex is angry at the world, her father and David McFadden. She doesn’t know how to talk to her friends and is systematically cutting herself of from everyone. If you aren’
Dec 28, 2013 rated it really liked it
I won this book through Chrissireads' blog so thank you to her and Denise Deegan.

And by the Way... was a sweet lovely to read book about loss, love, growing up and heart ache.
I wasn't really sure what to expect and I was pleasantly surprised at how much I enjoyed reading And by the Way...
Although I didn't really like Alex as a character I could understand why she did everything she did and the way she acted to her friends, family and boyfriend. At times I did find myself warming to her and want
Oct 23, 2012 rated it it was amazing
This is one of my favourite books of all time. It's so easy to relate to. I was constantly looking for a good book that is about Irish teens, it's harder to find than you would think! But Denise Deegan captures the Irish teen life perfectly in all three books of the butterfly novels. "And By The Way" (the first novel in the series) tells the story of Alex, who has lost her mother to cancer. It starts off with her still grieving her loss. She doesn't see it ever getting better but then she gets t ...more
Sep 28, 2012 rated it it was amazing
This book is amazing. Full of romance, heartbreak and friendship, 'And by the way...' is a book you won't get enough of. I loved the romance between David and Alex, I thought it was sweet and full of love. At the start Alex despises 'The rockstar' (her dad) because he wasn't there when her mum needed him when she died and isn't there now when Alex needs him the most. I felt Alex's heartbreak and later on I felt her love when she and David start to go out. I extremely approved of her rebellious s ...more
Dec 03, 2012 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: enjoyable
This book was beautiful. Truly.

I realize that may sound unbelievably stupid and corny but I loved it and enjoyed it thoroughly! Denise Deegan is a Very talented writer and Alex's emotions are portrayed perfectly without them sounding melodramatic or whiny. The story was quite sad but it had a good ending. I found myself loving Alex's character and her conversations with David made me smile :)

I REALLYY recommend this book, the series are amazing and sum up teenage life really well. I especially
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Graded By: Meghan
Cover Story: Brown. Bag. IT.
BFF Charm: Dammit! Yes, Ok?
Swoonworthy Scale: 7 With a Double-Shot of SHAME
Talky Talk: Like, A One-Two Punch?
Bonus Factors: Dublin, Private School
Relationship Status: Secret Boyfriend

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Indrė Karvelytė
Aug 05, 2013 rated it really liked it
4.5 stars.
It was a beautiful, sad and lovely read. So many feelings, so much disappointment and lovely moments. Alex's life is tough but she made it harder herself as well. Sometimes I found her annoying; I feel sorry for Louis, because he was a sweet guy after, and she only used him to kill her heartbreak. Can't wait to read "And For Your Information", which is, as I understood, Sarah's story. And by the way, I found Sarah to be annoying as well, one of a drama queens.
Aug 01, 2012 rated it it was amazing
One of the best books of the year. I must admit when I saw it I thoght it was another one of these boy trouble books but it turned out the be a wonderful suprise! I would HIGHLY recommend this book.

Denise, in my opinion is Irelands most promising, talented and upcoming authors. Watch out for her in the future!
Aoife Carton
I've read 'And By the Way' countless times at this stage and still it fails to disappoint! The characters are so believable that I really feel like I'm on the journey with Alex and her two best friends. I definately recommend it to everybody, it can simultaneously cheer you up while making you cry along with the characters. A truly great read! ...more
Jan 06, 2012 rated it really liked it
3.5-Good exploration of grief. Alex's home life definitely the most compelling thing about this story. California surfer dude a nice bonus as is the rockstar dad :) The rest is guilty pleasure at its finest. ...more
Shubhra Aurita  Roy
Mar 19, 2013 rated it really liked it
Loved it. had been facing a "reader's block" and this one broke it down, and that's saying something.
Really well written, wonderful character development, scenes that feel real and a great story.

Wouldn't it be awesome if someone made a movie out of it? Absolutely Rad!
Apr 03, 2013 rated it it was amazing
This book is so amazing! It had so much Meaning.
The writing is so believable that its easy to believe that 16 year old Alex actually wrote the book! Obviously she didn't but I loved it so much! It should be a movie! One of my all time favourite books! I can't stop thinking about it!
Jan 23, 2012 rated it it was amazing
One of my favourite books of all time.
Laura Tyrrell
Aug 16, 2012 rated it it was amazing
It took about 2 pages to draw me in to this book & 2 days to finish it. It that leaves you wanting more & makes you really care about what happens to the characters. Highly recommended.
Sep 15, 2012 rated it it was amazing
Really great read. Loved it.
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Award-winning and best-selling author, Denise Deegan lives in Dublin with her family where she regularly dreams of sunshine, a life without cooking and her novels being made into movies.

Denise has been a nurse, a china restorer, a pharmaceutical sales rep, a public relations officer, an entrepreneur and a college lecturer. Her most difficult job was being a checkout girl, although ultimately this

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