A Very Large Expanse of Sea Quotes

“If the decision you’ve made has brought you closer to humanity, then you’ve done the right thing.”
― Tahereh Mafi, A Very Large Expanse of Sea

“I didn't believe it was possible to hide a woman's beauty. I thought women were gorgeous no matter what they wore, and I didn't think they owed anyone an explanation for their sartorial choices. Different women felt comfortable in different outfits.
They were all beautiful.”
― Tahereh Mafi, A Very Large Expanse of Sea

“I wondered, for the very first time, if maybe I was doing this whole thing wrong. If maybe I'd allowed myself to be blinded by my own anger to the exclusion of all else. If maybe, just maybe, I'd been so determined not to be stereotyped that I'd begun to stereotype everyone around me.”
― Tahereh Mafi, A Very Large Expanse of Sea

“I understood too well what it was like to feel like you were defined by one superficial thing- to feel like you would never excape the box people had put you in”
― Tahereh Mafi, A Very Large Expanse of Sea

“The more I got to know people, the more I realized we were all just a bunch of frightened idiots walking around in the dark, bumping into each other and panicking for no reason at all.
So I started turning on a light.
I stopped thinking of people as mobs. Hordes. Faceless masses. I tried, really hard, to stop assuming I had people figured out, especially before I’d ever even spoken to them. I wasn’t great at this—and I’d probably have to work at it for the rest of my life—but I tried. I really did. It scared me to realize that I’d done to others exactly what I hadn’t wanted them to do to me: I made sweeping statements about who I thought they were and how they lived their lives; and I made broad generalizations about what I thought they were thinking, all the time.”
― Tahereh Mafi, A Very Large Expanse of Sea

“Because i always say that. I always say that i don't care what other people think. I say it doesn't bother me, that i don't give a shit about the opinions of assholes but it's not true. It's not true, because it huts every time, and that means i still care. It means i'm still not strong enough because every time someone says something rude, it hurts. it never stops hurting. It only gets easier to recover”
― Tahereh Mafi, A Very Large Expanse of Sea

“I mean, I wasn't fine. I would be fine. But I wasn't there yet.”
― Tahereh Mafi, A Very Large Expanse of Sea

“Be honest. Remember, honesty is everything. Without it, we can never move foward. We can never have productive discussions. So be honest”
― Tahereh Mafi, A Very Large Expanse of Sea

“Ocean had given me hope. He’d made me believe in people again. His sincerity had rubbed me raw, had peeled back the stubborn layers of anger I’d lived in for so long. Ocean made me want to give the world a second chance.”
― Tahereh Mafi, A Very Large Expanse of Sea

“Maybe it was enough, i thought, that i knew someone like him existed in this world. Maybe it was enough that our lives had merged and diverged and left us both transformed. Maybe it was enough to have learned that i love was the unexpected weapon, that it was the knife i'd needed to cut through the Kevlar i wore every day.”
― Tahereh Mafi, A Very Large Expanse of Sea

“I looked out at the world around me and no longer saw nuance. I saw nothing but the potential for pain and the subsequent need to protect myself, constantly”
― Tahereh Mafi, A Very Large Expanse of Sea

“I felt like crying. I felt like crying and screaming all at the same time, but i didn't want to give in to feeling. I just wanted to push through this. I wanted to survive it with out losing my head”
― Tahereh Mafi, A Very Large Expanse of Sea

“I was so raw from repeated exposure to cruelty that now even the most minor abrasions left a mark.”
― Tahereh Mafi, A Very Large Expanse of Sea

“Hey," he whispered. "Don't do this, okay? Don't give up on me. I'm not going anywhere”
― Tahereh Mafi, A Very Large Expanse of Sea

“Please don’t walk away from me because you’re worried about the opinions of racists and assholes. Walk away from me because you hate me,” he said. "Tell me you think I’m stupid and ugly and I swear this would hurt less.”
― Tahereh Mafi, A Very Large Expanse of Sea

“I was stuck in another small town, trapped in another universe populated by the kind of people who’d only ever seen faces like mine on their evening news, and I hated it.”
― Tahereh Mafi, A Very Large Expanse of Sea

“Be careful with that ," I said, nodding at the paper, "because if you text me too much, you'll have to marry me. It's the rules in my religion.”
― Tahereh Mafi, A Very Large Expanse of Sea

“Music made my day so much easier. Walking through the halls at school was somehow easier; sitting alone all the time was easier. I loved that no one could tell i was listening to music and that, because no one knew, i was never asked to turn it off. I'd had multiple conversations with teachers who had no idea i was only half hearing whatever they were saying to me, and for some reason this made me happy. Music seemed to steady me like a second skeleton; I leaned on it when my own bones were too shaken to stand. I always listened to music on the iPod i'd stolen from my brother, and here- as i did last year, when he first bought the thing- I walked to class like i was listening to the soundtrack of my own shitty movie. It gave me an inexplecable kind of hope.”
― Tahereh Mafi, A Very Large Expanse of Sea

“I had never, ever touched someone and felt like this: like I was holding electricity inside of me.”
― Tahereh Mafi, A Very Large Expanse of Sea

“Ocean, azizam,” she said, “please tell Shirin she should stop swearing so much. It’s always asshole this, bullshit that. I say to her, Shirin joon, why are you so obsessed with shit? Why everything is shit?”
― Tahereh Mafi, A Very Large Expanse of Sea

“I got lost in the feel of him, in the heat of his skin, in the way his body shook when he broke away and I felt like I was dreaming, like I’d forgotten how to think.
(...) We broke apart, fighting to breathe, holding on to each other like we were drowning, like we’d been lost, left for dead in a very large expanse of sea.”
― Tahereh Mafi, A Very Large Expanse of Sea

“I could no longer distinguish people from monsters. I looked out at the world around me and no longer saw nuance. I saw nothing but the potential for pain and the subsequent need to protect myself, constantly.”
― Tahereh Mafi, A Very Large Expanse of Sea

“I’ve been trying to educate people for years and it’s exhausting. I’m tired of being patient with bigots. I’m tired of trying to explain why I don’t deserve to be treated like a piece of shit all the time. I’m tired of begging everyone to understand that people of color aren’t all the same, that we don’t all believe the same things or feel the same things or experience the world the same way.’ I shook my head, hard. ‘I’m just– I’m sick and tired of trying to explain to the world why racism is bad, okay? Why is that my job?”
― Tahereh Mafi, A Very Large Expanse of Sea

“How can you say that?” he said, and I heard his voice break. “How can you even think that? I want this more than I’ve ever wanted anything. I want everything with you,” he said. “I want all of it with you. I want you. I want this forever.”
― Tahereh Mafi, A Very Large Expanse of Sea

“He kept trying to be nice to me and, in an unexpected turn of events, his kindness left me angry and confused. I pushed him away because i was afraid to be even remotely close to someone who, i was certain, would one day hurt me. I trusted no one anymore. I was so raw from repeated exposure to cruelty that now even the most minor abrasions left a mark”
― Tahereh Mafi, A Very Large Expanse of Sea

“He said he promised he wouldn’t try to kiss me again and I wanted to say don’t you dare promise not to kiss me again but I didn’t.”
― Tahereh Mafi, A Very Large Expanse of Sea

“Just try to be happy', Jacobi finally said to me. 'Your happiness is the one thing these assholes can't stand”
― Tahereh Mafi, A Very Large Expanse of Sea

“Listen. I know what it's like to be angry all the time, okay? i do. Your shit- the shit you have to deal with- it's hard, yeah. But you just -you can't do this. You can be angry all the time. Trust me. I've tried that. It'll kill you”
― Tahereh Mafi, A Very Large Expanse of Sea

“My body felt like it was now made entirely of nerves, like muscle and bone had been removed to make room for all this new emotion”
― Tahereh Mafi, A Very Large Expanse of Sea

“I dressed the way I did not because I was trying to be a nun, but because it felt good—and because it made me feel less vulnerable in general, like I wore a kind of armor every day. It was a personal preference.”
― Tahereh Mafi, A Very Large Expanse of Sea