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I Hear You: The Surprisingly Simple Skill Behind Extraordinary Relationships I Hear You: The Surprisingly Simple Skill Behind Extraordinary Relationships by Michael S. Sorensen
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“Ignoring, dismissing, or suppressing your emotions doesn’t get rid of them; it buries them. It tucks them away to fester and arise again at a later time. When you recognize and validate your emotions instead, you strip away the judgment—the “I’m bad,” “this is wrong,” or “I shouldn’t” responses—and allow your experiences to flow through you. It helps you quell the inner critic and live a more present and enjoyable life.”
Michael S. Sorensen, I Hear You: The Surprisingly Simple Skill Behind Extraordinary Relationships
“One of the most sincere forms of respect is actually listening to what another has to say.” –Bryant H. McGill”
Michael S. Sorensen, I Hear You: The Surprisingly Simple Skill Behind Extraordinary Relationships
“More often than not, people who vent or complain already know how to handle their current situation—they’re just looking for someone to see and appreciate their struggle.”
Michael S. Sorensen, I Hear You: The Surprisingly Simple Skill Behind Extraordinary Relationships
“Behind the need to communicate is the need to share. Behind the need to share is the need to be understood.” –Leo Rosten”
Michael S. Sorensen, I Hear You: The Surprisingly Simple Skill Behind Extraordinary Relationships
“Validation has two main elements. It 1) acknowledges a specific emotion, and 2) offers justification for feeling that emotion.”
Michael S. Sorensen, I Hear You: The Surprisingly Simple Skill Behind Extraordinary Relationships
“Empathy is different from sympathy. Sympathy is standing on the outside of a situation and looking in (e.g. “I’m sorry you’re sad.”) Empathy is stepping into the situation with the other person and feeling the emotion with them (e.g. “Wow, this is sad”).”
Michael S. Sorensen, I Hear You: The Surprisingly Simple Skill Behind Extraordinary Relationships
“If you want to make a difference in someone’s life, you don’t need to be gorgeous, rich, famous, brilliant, or perfect. You just have to care.” – Karen Salmansohn”
Michael S. Sorensen, I Hear You: The Surprisingly Simple Skill Behind Extraordinary Relationships
“Remember: everyone you meet is afraid of something, loves something, and has lost something. Remember that we are all looking for love, appreciation, and connection. And remember that, regardless of age, gender, background, or ethnicity, being listened to—and heard—is one of the greatest desires of the human heart.”
Michael S. Sorensen, I Hear You: The Surprisingly Simple Skill Behind Extraordinary Relationships
“Being listened to and heard is one of the greatest desires of the human heart. And those who learn to listen are the most loved and respected.” –Richard Carlson”
Michael S. Sorensen, I Hear You: The Surprisingly Simple Skill Behind Extraordinary Relationships
“Be generous with encouragement. It is verbal sunshine; it warms hearts, costs nothing, and enriches lives.” – Nicky Gumbel”
Michael S. Sorensen, I Hear You: The Surprisingly Simple Skill Behind Extraordinary Relationships
“If someone is distraught, angry, or concerned, validating them is your best chance at getting them to be receptive to feedback. The great thing is, you can validate someone even if you disagree with them. Learning to do so will give you a valuable tool for navigating confrontations, negotiations, disagreements, and the like.”
Michael S. Sorensen, I Hear You: The Surprisingly Simple Skill Behind Extraordinary Relationships
“Empathy Tip #1: Get Curious Ask yourself the following questions: “What is this person’s background? Could past issues be influencing their reaction?” “What if someone had done that to me? How would I feel?” “If I haven’t had a similar experience, have I ever felt a similar emotion?” “What if that were my [child/ parent/ job/ dog/ etc.]?”
Michael S. Sorensen, I Hear You: The Surprisingly Simple Skill Behind Extraordinary Relationships
“how are you feeling right now? If you’re like most people, you’ll probably say, “fine.” But “fine” isn’t an emotion. It’s how you’re categorizing your current emotion. “Okay,” you say, “I’m feeling good.” Nope. Still not an emotion. “Right. I’m feeling happy.” There we go. Happy is an emotion, and something others can relate to.”
Michael S. Sorensen, I Hear You: The Surprisingly Simple Skill Behind Extraordinary Relationships
“The most important thing in communication is hearing what isn’t said.” –Peter Drucker”
Michael S. Sorensen, I Hear You: The Surprisingly Simple Skill Behind Extraordinary Relationships
“Remember that everyone you meet is afraid of something, loves something, and has lost something.” –H. Jackson Brown, Jr.”
Michael S. Sorensen, I Hear You: The Surprisingly Simple Skill Behind Extraordinary Relationships
“It was so amazing to see how she just opened up, how she felt safe, and how she, I believe, felt my love for her because I knew how to validate her. I could tell it was like a breath of fresh air. That she could finally breathe. That she felt heard and understood.”
Michael S. Sorensen, I Hear You: The Surprisingly Simple Skill Behind Extraordinary Relationships
“it’s very difficult for someone to work through difficult issues when they’re blinded by strong emotions. Painful or difficult emotions get stronger and more intimidating when fought or suppressed. When you validate other people, you help them see and accept their emotions for what they are: just feelings—neither good nor bad. This makes it significantly easier for them to process them and break free.”
Michael S. Sorensen, I Hear You: The Surprisingly Simple Skill Behind Extraordinary Relationships
“validation is critical for building healthy, satisfying relationships. What’s more, it’s critical for any relationship, romantic or otherwise. Thus, the core idea of this book is that, in order to become a “great listener,” you actually need to become a great validator.”
Michael S. Sorensen, I Hear You: The Surprisingly Simple Skill Behind Extraordinary Relationships
“Effective validation requires empathy and emotional understanding, and therefore extends beyond simple reflective listening. We need to do more than just show others we hear the words they are speaking; we need to show them we’re connecting with the emotions they’re feeling.”
Michael S. Sorensen, I Hear You: The Surprisingly Simple Skill Behind Extraordinary Relationships
“Reflective listening is essentially the act of repeating back to someone, in your own words, what they have just said. The idea here is that you 1) check to see if you’ve heard them correctly, and 2) help them realize you are listening.”
Michael S. Sorensen, I Hear You: The Surprisingly Simple Skill Behind Extraordinary Relationships
“basic human need for appreciation and acceptance. It’s something we all feel an inner draw towards, regardless of how independent, confident, or self-sufficient we may be.”
Michael S. Sorensen, I Hear You: The Surprisingly Simple Skill Behind Extraordinary Relationships
“validation (in the context of interpersonal skills, anyway) is the act of recognizing and affirming the validity or worth of a person’s emotions. Essentially, validation means saying to someone, “I hear you. I get what you’re feeling, and it’s perfectly alright to feel that way.” Effective validation has two components: It identifies a specific emotion It offers justification for feeling that emotion”
Michael S. Sorensen, I Hear You: The Surprisingly Simple Skill Behind Extraordinary Relationships
“building healthy, satisfying relationships. What’s more, it’s critical for any relationship, romantic or otherwise. Thus, the core idea of this book is that, in order to become a “great listener,” you actually need to become a great validator.”
Michael S. Sorensen, I Hear You: The Surprisingly Simple Skill Behind Extraordinary Relationships