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The Happiness Trap: How to Stop Struggling and Start Living: A Guide to ACT The Happiness Trap: How to Stop Struggling and Start Living: A Guide to ACT by Russ Harris
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“The more we try to avoid the basic reality that all human life involves pain, the more we are likely to struggle with that pain when it arises, thereby creating even more suffering.”
Russ Harris, The Happiness Trap: How To Stop Struggling And Start Living
“Psychological flexibility is the ability to adapt to a situation with awareness, openness, and focus and to take effective action, guided by your values.”
Russ Harris, The Happiness Trap: How To Stop Struggling And Start Living
“In ACT, our main interest in a thought is not whether it’s true or false, but whether it’s helpful; that is, if we pay attention to this thought, will it help us create the life we want?”
Russ Harris, The Happiness Trap: How To Stop Struggling And Start Living
“The mind loves telling stories; in fact, it never stops.”
Russ Harris, The Happiness Trap: How To Stop Struggling And Start Living
“A = Accept your thoughts and feelings and be present. C = Connect with your values. T = Take effective action.”
Russ Harris, The Happiness Trap: How To Stop Struggling And Start Living
“Thus, evolution has shaped our brains so that we are hardwired to suffer psychologically: to compare, evaluate, and criticize ourselves, to focus on what we’re lacking, to rapidly become dissatisfied with what we have, and to imagine all sorts of frightening scenarios, most of which will never happen. No wonder humans find it hard to be happy!”
Russ Harris, The Happiness Trap: How To Stop Struggling And Start Living
“Basically, expansion means making room for our feelings. If we give unpleasant feelings enough space, they no longer stretch us or strain us.”
Russ Harris, The Happiness Trap: Stop Struggling, Start Living
“Commitment” means that when you do (inevitably) stumble or get off track, you pick yourself up, find your bearings, and carry on in the direction you want to go.”
Russ Harris, The Happiness Trap: How To Stop Struggling And Start Living
“Having negative thoughts and feelings means I’m a normal human being.”
Russ Harris, The Happiness Trap: How To Stop Struggling And Start Living
“Therefore, it makes sense to put your life’s energy mainly into action and attention.”
Russ Harris, The Happiness Trap: How To Stop Struggling And Start Living
“Myth 1: Happiness Is the Natural State for All Human Beings”
Russ Harris, The Happiness Trap: How To Stop Struggling And Start Living
“the things we generally value most in life bring with them a whole range of feelings, both pleasant and unpleasant. For example, in an intimate long-term relationship, although you will experience wonderful feelings such as love and joy, you will also inevitably experience disappointment and frustration. There is no such thing as the perfect partner and sooner or later conflicts of interest will happen.”
Russ Harris, The Happiness Trap: Stop Struggling, Start Living
“So by all means, have your beliefs—but hold them lightly. Keep in mind that all beliefs are stories, whether or not they’re “true.”
Russ Harris, The Happiness Trap: How To Stop Struggling And Start Living
“There’s an ancient Eastern saying: “If you don’t decide where you’re going, you’ll end up wherever you’re heading.”
Russ Harris, The Happiness Trap: How To Stop Struggling And Start Living
“So what would life be like if you were to let go of self-esteem altogether;”
Russ Harris, The Happiness Trap: How To Stop Struggling And Start Living
“A value is a direction we desire to keep moving in, an ongoing process that never reaches an end.”
Russ Harris, The Happiness Trap: How To Stop Struggling And Start Living
“To get to the values underlying a goal, you need to ask yourself, “What’s this goal in the service of? What will it enable me to do that’s truly meaningful?”
Russ Harris, The Happiness Trap: How To Stop Struggling And Start Living
“Myth 2: If You’re Not Happy, You’re Defective”
Russ Harris, The Happiness Trap: How To Stop Struggling And Start Living
“The Illusion of Control”
Russ Harris, The Happiness Trap: How To Stop Struggling And Start Living
“Unfortunately, many people walk around with the belief that everyone else is happy except for them. And—you guessed it—this belief creates even more unhappiness.”
Russ Harris, The Happiness Trap: Stop Struggling, Start Living
“it’s pretty well impossible to create a better life if you’re not prepared to have some uncomfortable feelings. However,”
Russ Harris, The Happiness Trap: Stop Struggling, Start Living
“Develop the courage to solve those problems that can be solved, the serenity to accept those problems that can’t be solved, and the wisdom to know the difference.”
Russ Harris, The Happiness Trap: How To Stop Struggling And Start Living
“Mindfulness + Values + Action = Psychological Flexibility”
Russ Harris, The Happiness Trap: How To Stop Struggling And Start Living
“The Story Is Not the Event”
Russ Harris, The Happiness Trap: How To Stop Struggling And Start Living
“Yet inviting this man for dinner would mean the world to your partner. If it’s really important for you to support your partner, then you could invite this man over for dinner, greet him warmly at the door, welcome him into your house, and make him feel completely at home, even though you intensely dislike him. That’s willingness.”
Russ Harris, The Happiness Trap: How To Stop Struggling And Start Living
“we start trying to use defusion as a control strategy, as a way of trying to make our experience different than it is.”
Russ Harris, The Happiness Trap: How To Stop Struggling And Start Living
“one in ten adults will attempt suicide, and one in five will suffer from depression.”
Russ Harris, The Happiness Trap: How To Stop Struggling And Start Living
“It’s a sense more of resignation than of acceptance, of entrapment rather than freedom, of being stuck rather than moving forward.”
Russ Harris, The Happiness Trap: How To Stop Struggling And Start Living
“Adopting this definition means you can be successful right now, whether or not you’ve achieved your major goals.”
Russ Harris, The Happiness Trap: How To Stop Struggling And Start Living
“Donna learned quickly that there’s no point in beating yourself up when you screw up or fail to follow through. Guilt trips and self-criticism don’t motivate you to make meaningful changes; they just keep you stuck, dwelling on the past. So after each relapse, Donna came back to the basic ACT formula: A = Accept your thoughts and feelings and be present. C = Connect with your values. T = Take effective action.”
Russ Harris, The Happiness Trap: How To Stop Struggling And Start Living

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