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The Book of Forgiving: The Fourfold Path for Healing Ourselves and Our World The Book of Forgiving: The Fourfold Path for Healing Ourselves and Our World by Desmond Tutu
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“Forgiveness does not relieve someone of responsibility for what they have done. Forgiveness does not erase accountability. It is not about turning a blind eye or even turning the other cheek. It is not about letting someone off the hook or saying it is okay to do something monstrous. Forgiveness is simply about understanding that every one of us is both inherently good and inherently flawed. Within every hopeless situation and every seemingly hopeless person lies the possibility of transformation.”
Desmond Tutu, The Book of Forgiving: The Fourfold Path for Healing Ourselves and Our World
“We are not responsible for what breaks us, but we can be responsible for what puts us back together again. Naming the hurt is how we begin to repair our broken parts.”
Desmond Tutu, The Book of Forgiving: The Fourfold Path for Healing Ourselves and Our World
“Transformation begins in you, wherever you are, whatever has happened, however you are suffering. Transformation is always possible. We do not heal in isolation. When we reach out and connect with one another—when we tell the story, name the hurt, grant forgiveness, and renew or release the relationship—our suffering begins to transform.”
Desmond Tutu, The Book of Forgiving: The Fourfold Path for Healing Ourselves and Our World
“Forgiveness is truly the grace by which we enable another person to get up, and get up with dignity, to begin anew. To not forgive leads to bitterness and hatred. Like self-hatred and self-contempt, hatred of others gnaws away at our vitals. Whether hatred is projected out or stuffed in, it is always corrosive to the human spirit.”
Desmond Tutu, The Book of Forgiving: The Fourfold Path for Healing Ourselves and Our World
“A very important but difficult piece of renewing relationships is accepting responsibility for our part in any conflict. If we have a relationship in need of repair, we must remember that the wrong is not usually all on one side, and we are more easily able to restore relations when we look at our contribution to a conflict.”
Desmond Tutu, The Book of Forgiving: The Fourfold Path for Healing Ourselves and Our World
“Giving the emotion a name is the way we come to understand how what happened affected us. After we’ve told the facts of what happened, we must face our feelings. We are each hurt in our own unique ways, and when we give voice to this pain, we begin to heal it.”
Desmond Tutu, The Book of Forgiving: The Fourfold Path for Healing Ourselves and Our World
“There is a certain kind of dignity we admire, and to which we aspire, in the person who refuses to meet anger with anger, violence with violence, or hatred with hatred.”
Desmond Tutu, The Book of Forgiving: The Fourfold Path for Healing Ourselves and Our World
“do not heal in isolation. Connecting with others is how we develop compassion for others and for ourselves.”
Desmond Tutu, The Book of Forgiving: The Fourfold Path for Healing Ourselves and Our World
“What about evil, you may ask? Aren’t some people just evil, just monsters, and aren’t such people just unforgivable? I do believe there are monstrous and evil acts, but I do not believe those who commit such acts are monsters or evil. To relegate someone to the level of monster is to deny that person’s ability to change and to take away that person’s accountability for his or her actions and behavior.”
Desmond Tutu, The Book of Forgiving: The Fourfold Path for Healing Ourselves and Our World
“Renewing a relationship is a creative act. We make a new relationship. It is possible to build a new relationship regardless of the realities of the old relationship.”
Desmond Tutu, The Book of Forgiving: The Fourfold Path for Healing Ourselves and Our World
“To treat anyone as if they were less than human, less than a brother or a sister, no matter what they have done, is to contravene the very laws of our humanity.”
Desmond Tutu, The Book of Forgiving: The Fourfold Path for Healing Ourselves and Our World
“I would like to share with you two simple truths: there is nothing that cannot be forgiven, and there is no one un-deserving of forgiveness.”
Desmond Tutu, The Book of Forgiving: The Fourfold Path for Healing Ourselves and Our World
“We are always at our best when compassion enables us to recognize the unique pressures and singular stories of the people on the other side of our conflicts.”
Desmond Tutu, The Book of Forgiving: The Fourfold Path for Healing Ourselves and Our World
“Healing means that our dignity is restored and we are able to move forward in our lives.”
Desmond Tutu, The Book of Forgiving: The Fourfold Path for Healing Ourselves and Our World
“It is true that when we harm others, we harm ourselves; but it is just as true that when we help others, we also help ourselves.”
Desmond Tutu, The Book of Forgiving: The Fourfold Path for Healing Ourselves and Our World
“When we ignore the pain, it grows bigger and bigger, and like an abscess that is never drained, eventually it will rupture. When that happens, it can reach into every area of our lives—our health, our families, our jobs, our friendships, our faith, and our very ability to feel joy may be diminished by the fallout from resentments, anger, and hurts that are never named.”
Desmond Tutu, The Book of Forgiving: The Fourfold Path for Healing Ourselves and Our World
“Cultivate your forgiveness with your friends, with your family, with strangers, and with yourself. Remind yourself that every person you encounter carries a sorrow and a struggle. Recognize that we all share a fundamental humanity. Model the”
Desmond Tutu, The Book of Forgiving: The Fourfold Path for Healing Ourselves and Our World
“In our own ways, we are all broken. Out of that brokenness, we hurt others. Forgiveness is the journey we take toward healing the broken parts. It is how we become whole again.”
Desmond Tutu, The Book of Forgiving: The Fourfold Path for Healing Ourselves and Our World
“This is what healing demands. Behavior that is hurtful, shameful, abusive, or demeaning must be brought into the fierce light of truth, and truth can be brutal.”
Desmond Tutu, The Book of Forgiving: The Fourfold Path for Healing Ourselves and Our World
“Forgiveness is nothing less than the way we heal the world. We heal the world by healing each and every one of our hearts. The process is simple, but it is not easy.”
Desmond Tutu, The Book of Forgiving: The Fourfold Path for Healing Ourselves and Our World
“You have stood at this junction before You will stand at this junction again And if you pause you can ask yourself Which way to turn You can turn away from your own sadness And run the race named revenge You will run that tired track again and again Or you can admit your own pain And walk the path that ends In this direction lies freedom, my friend I can show you where hope and wholeness make their homes But you can’t push past your anguish on your way there To find the path to peace You will have to meet your pain And speak its name”
Desmond Tutu, The Book of Forgiving: The Fourfold Path for Healing Ourselves and Our World
“Once you have been able to forgive, the final step is to either renew or release the relationship you have with the one who has harmed you. Indeed, even if you never speak to the person again, even if you never see them again, even if they are dead, they live on in ways that affect your life profoundly.”
Desmond Tutu, The Book of Forgiving: The Fourfold Path for Healing Ourselves and Our World
“People are not born hating each other and wishing to cause harm. It is a learned condition.”
Desmond Tutu, The Book of Forgiving: The Fourfold Path for Healing Ourselves and Our World
“The way to understand any enemy is to realize that, from his perspective, he is not a villain but a hero.”
Desmond Tutu, The Book of Forgiving: The Fourfold Path for Healing Ourselves and Our World
“in the sentiment of Mahatma Gandhi, when we practice the law of an eye for an eye, we all end up blind.”
Desmond Tutu, The Book of Forgiving: The Fourfold Path for Healing Ourselves and Our World
“When I feel ashamed, it means I feel there isn’t just something wrong with what I’ve done, there is something wrong with who I am. Shame is often a hidden emotion and it can be paralyzing in its power.”
Desmond Tutu, The Book of Forgiving: The Fourfold Path for Healing Ourselves and Our World
“order to truly forgive oneself, one must either explicitly or implicitly acknowledge that one’s behavior was wrong and accept responsibility or blame for such behavior.”
Desmond Tutu, The Book of Forgiving: The Fourfold Path for Healing Ourselves and Our World
“In order to truly forgive oneself, one must either explicitly or implicitly acknowledge that one’s behavior was wrong and accept responsibility or blame for such behavior. Without these elements, self-forgiveness is irrelevant and pseudo self-forgiveness becomes likely.”
Desmond Tutu, The Book of Forgiving: The Fourfold Path for Healing Ourselves and Our World
“When we are uncaring, when we lack compassion, when we are unforgiving, we will always pay the price for it. It is not, however, we alone who suffer. Our whole community suffers, and ultimately our whole world suffers. We are made to exist in a delicate network of interdependence. We are sisters and brothers, whether we like it or not. To treat anyone as if they were less than human, less than a brother or a sister, no matter what they have done, is to contravene the very laws of our humanity. And those who shred the web of interconnectedness cannot escape the consequences of their actions. In”
Desmond Tutu, The Book of Forgiving: The Fourfold Path for Healing Ourselves and Our World
“Elizabeth Kübler-Ross sums it up beautifully when she says, “The most beautiful people we have known are those who have known defeat, known suffering, known struggle, known loss, and have found their way out of the depths. These persons have an appreciation, a sensitivity, and an understanding of life that fills them with compassion, gentleness, and a deep loving concern. Beautiful people do not just happen.”
Desmond Tutu, The Book of Forgiving: The Fourfold Path for Healing Ourselves and Our World

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