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The Opposite of Fate: Memories of a Writing Life The Opposite of Fate: Memories of a Writing Life by Amy Tan
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“Thanks to my mother, I was raised to have a morbid imagination. When I was a child, she often talked about death as warning, as an unavoidable matter of fact. Little Debbie's mom down the block might say, 'Honey, look both ways before crossing the street.' My mother's version: 'You don't look, you get smash flat like sand dab.' (Sand dabs were the cheap fish we bought live in the market, distinguished in my mind by their two eyes affixed on one side of their woebegone cartoon faces.)

The warnings grew worse, depending on the danger at hand. Sex education, for example, consisted of the following advice: 'Don't ever let boy kiss you. You do, you can't stop. Then you have baby. You put baby in garbage can. Police find you, put you in jail, then you life over, better just kill youself.”
Amy Tan, The Opposite of Fate: Memories of a Writing Life
“Lack of clarity is a writer's truth.”
Amy Tan, The Opposite of Fate: Memories of a Writing Life
“I wanted to capture what language ability tests could never reveal: her intent, her passion, her imagery, the rhythms of her speech and the nature of her thoughts.”
Amy Tan, The Opposite of Fate: Memories of a Writing Life
“These days I realize that faith and fate have similar effects on the believer. They suggest that a higher power knows the next move and that we are at the mercy of that force. They differ, among other things, in how you try to cull beneficence and what you do to avoid disaster.”
Amy Tan, The Opposite of Fate: Memories of a Writing Life
“By my father's own handwritten definition: "Faith is the confident assurance that something we want is going to happen. It is the certainty that what we hope for is waiting for us even though we still cannot see it ahead of us.”
Amy Tan, The Opposite of Fate: Memories of a Writing Life
“When you are told, "It was meant to be," ask, "Who meant it? What does it really mean?" Is someone trying to make you accept an undesirable situation or one in which you have doubts? When you are told, "Shit happens," remember that plenty of other things happen as well, such as generosity, forgiveness, ambiguity, and uncertainty. When you are told, "It's simply fate," ask yourself, "What is simple about it? What are the alternatives of fate? What is fate's opposite?”
Amy Tan, The Opposite of Fate: Memories of a Writing Life
“Why would any writer in her right mind ever consider making a movie instead? That's like going from being a monk or a nun to serving as a camp counselor for hundreds of problem children.”
Amy Tan, The Opposite of Fate: Memories of a Writing Life
“And in my family, there were two pillars of beliefs: Christian faith on my father's side, Chinese fate on my mother's. Picture these two ideologies as you might the goalposts of a soccer field, faith at one end, fate at the other, and me running between them trying to duck whatever dangerous missile had been launched in the air.”
Amy Tan, The Opposite of Fate: Memories of a Writing Life
“My father put his life in God's hands, and he encouraged us, his children, to believe that if we had absolute faith, God would take care of the rest. Miracles would happen.”
Amy Tan, The Opposite of Fate: Memories of a Writing Life
“This was not chance that they met twice, my mother would tell me whenever she recounted this story. It was fate.”
Amy Tan, The Opposite of Fate: Memories of a Writing Life
“Avoid generalizations. As a fiction writer, I distrust absolute truths, homilies, bromides, sound bites, and also shorthand advice of the sort I’m giving. I like specifics, the longhand version of a story in which it takes four hundred pages to answer a single question about a person’s character. Literary writers, unless they are writing fairly tales, learn early never to have characters who are polar opposites, one “good,” the other “evil.” That’s not believable. People are more than just good and evil. Intelligent readers will demand that you not reduce people to such simplistic terms, or resolve situations with “Good always conquers evil,” “Might is always right,” and so forth. And while such resolutions are common in murder mysteries and action stories, they are feeble in literary fiction, which is supposed to reflect subtle truths about the world. Better to be subtle rather than overbearing, subversive rather than didactic.”
Amy Tan, The Opposite of Fate: Memories of a Writing Life
“Hugging and being hugged by everybody in moments of sadness and triumph, because hugging is something that never came naturally to me, and now it does.”
Amy Tan, The Opposite of Fate: Memories of a Writing Life
“He had a particular facination with the I Ching, that art of tossing three coins three times and divining a pattern out of heads and tails. Pete would begin with questions:

What determined the pattern? Was it random? Was it a higher power? Was is mathematical? Wasn't poker based on mathematical probability and not just luck? Did that mean randomness was actually mathematical? And if the I Ching was governed by mathematics, hey, wouldn't that mean the I Ching was actually predictable, a prescribed answer? And if it was prescribed, did that mean that your life followed the I Ching, like some sort of equation? Or did the I Ching simply capture correctly what had already been determined as the next series of events in your life?”
Amy Tan, The Opposite of Fate: Memories of a Writing Life
“My friend, my editor, still had the cancer. Each day she had to cross a terrible chasm, a bottomless hole of not knowing what to hope or believe. I tried to imagine what she saw, but I did not have her perspective.”
Amy Tan, The Opposite of Fate: Memories of a Writing Life
“Isn't the past what people remember- who did what, how and why? And what the people remember, isn't that mostly what they've already chosen to believe?”
Amy Tan, The Opposite of Fate: Memories of a Writing Life
“In the hands of a different reader, the same story can be a different story.”
Amy Tan, The Opposite of Fate: Memories of a Writing Life
“But my father's faith, as I said, was absolute. Through God's prayer he could be granted exactly what he wanted.”
Amy Tan, The Opposite of Fate: Memories of a Writing Life