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Gender Outlaw: On Men, Women and the Rest of Us Gender Outlaw: On Men, Women and the Rest of Us by Kate Bornstein
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“The first question we usually ask new parents is: “Is it a boy or a girl?”.
There is a great answer to that one going around: “We don’t know; it hasn’t told us yet.” Personally, I think no question containing “either/or” deserves a serious answer, and that includes the question of gender.”
Kate Bornstein, Gender Outlaw: On Men, Women and the Rest of Us
“Never fuck anyone you wouldn't want to be.”
Kate Bornstein, Gender Outlaw: On Men, Women and the Rest of Us
“I see fashion as a proclamation or manifestation of identity, so, as long as identities are important, fashion will continue to be important. The link between fashion and identity begins to get real interesting, however, in the case of people who don't fall clearly into a culturally-recognized identity.”
Kate Bornstein, Gender Outlaw: On Men, Women and the Rest of Us
“Given any binary, it's fun to look for some hidden third, and the reason why the third was hidden says a lot about culture. The choice between two of something is not a choice at all, but rather the opportunity to subscribe to the value system which holds the two presented choices as mutually exclusive alternatives. Once we choose one or the other, we've bought into the system that perpetuates the binary.”
Kate Bornstein, Gender Outlaw: On Men, Women and the Rest of Us
“Definitions have their uses in much the same way that road signs make it easy to travel: they point out the directions. But you don't get where you're going when you just stand underneath some sign, waiting for it to tell you what to do.”
Kate Bornstein, Gender Outlaw: On Men, Women and the Rest of Us
“The differences in the way men and women are treated are real. And the fact is this difference in treatment has no basis in the differences between men and women. I was the same person, and I was treated entirely differently. I got real interested in feminist theory ---real fast.”
Kate Bornstein, Gender Outlaw: On Men, Women and the Rest of Us
“Gender is just one of many systems of oppression. The ultimate goal is to see how all systems are tied in a knot with the others and untie, unravel the knots of oppression. It's a spiritual journey more than a governmental one. It's about asking ourselves, 'Is this culture stopping me or anyone else from the free expression of sex and gender?' and if so, we have to act.”
Kate Bornstein, Gender Outlaw: On Men, Women and the Rest of Us
“Male privilege is, in a word, violence.”
Kate Bornstein, Gender Outlaw: On Men, Women and the Rest of Us
“It doesn't really matter what a person decides to do, or how radically a person plays with gender. What matters, I think, is how aware a person is of the options.”
Kate Bornstein, Gender Outlaw: On Men, Women and the Rest of Us
“If we begin, in virtual reality, to render partitions as needless, or at best as boundaries for some consensual game, then we have the opportunity to carry that skill over into our day-to-day worlds.”
Kate Bornstein, Gender Outlaw: On Men, Women and the Rest of Us
“The Gender Defender is someone who actively, or by knowing inaction, defends the status quo of the existing gender system, and thus perpetuates the violence of male privilege and all its social extensions. The gender defender, or gender terrorist, is someone for whom gender forms a cornerstone of their view of the world. Shake gender up for one of these folks, and you're in trouble.”
Kate Bornstein, Gender Outlaw: On Men, Women and the Rest of Us
“Male privilege" is assuming one has the right to occupy any space or person by whatever means, with or without permission. It's a sense of entitlement that's unique to those who have been raised male in most cultures - it's notably absent in most girls and women.”
Kate Bornstein, Gender Outlaw: On Men, Women and the Rest of Us
“One answer to the question "Who is a transsexual?" might well be "Anyone who admits it." A more political answer might, "Anyone whose performance of gender calls into question the construct of gender itself.”
Kate Bornstein, Gender Outlaw: On Men, Women and the Rest of Us
“The differences in the way men and women are treated are real. And the fact is this difference in treatment has no basis in the differences between men and women. I was the same person, and I was treated entirely differently. I got real interested in feminist theory--real fast.”
Kate Bornstein, Gender Outlaw: On Men, Women and the Rest of Us
“Our spirits are full of possibilities, yet we tie ourselves down to socially-prescribed names and categories so we're acceptable to more people. We take on identities that no one has to think about, and that's probably how we become and why we remain men and women.”
Kate Bornstein, Gender Outlaw: On Men, Women and the Rest of Us
“We are entitled to our anger in response to this oppression: our anger is a message to ourselves that we need to get active and change something in order to survive.”
Kate Bornstein, Gender Outlaw: On Men, Women and the Rest of Us
“It doesn't really matter what a person decides to do, or how radically a person plays with gender. What matters, I think, is how aware a person is of the options. How sad for a person to be missing out on some expression of identity, just for now knowing there are options.”
Kate Bornstein, Gender Outlaw: On Men, Women and the Rest of Us