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Apr 10, 2021 05:34AM
Setting Boundaries Will Set You Free: The Ultimate Guide to Telling the Truth, Creating Connection, and Finding Freedom

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Envisioning an empowered future and it's opposite in case of reluctance to set boundaries or do nothing.
Imagining the feeling of there being no consequence to setting string boundaries.
Mar 26, 2021 05:38AM
Setting Boundaries Will Set You Free: The Ultimate Guide to Telling the Truth, Creating Connection, and Finding Freedom


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Getting comfortable with short term discomfort
The number 1 problem seen in important relationships is a build-up of unspoken, unprocessed resentment. The most common wedge that divides couples and ends friendships.
Stop avoiding feelings and trying to ignore them. Feeling them in the money is the key to freedom.
Feb 27, 2021 02:30AM
Setting Boundaries Will Set You Free: The Ultimate Guide to Telling the Truth, Creating Connection, and Finding Freedom


Claire
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Step 4: Excavate the unconscious mind
The more we see, the less likely we are to operate from hidden fears & issues that prevent us setting boundaries.

Disowned qualities get reflected back to us in other people, things we don't like/judge in others are a clue.
Seeing - & disdaining- them in others is how we become aware of what needs to be integrated & healed in ourselves.
Reclaiming our light
excuses - resistance
Feb 17, 2021 09:10AM
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Step 3: Conquer codependence
Codependence = checking the emotional temperature of those around us before we check our own emotions (in other words we don't know our mood until we find out the mood of others around us)
Why? It makes us feel safe. I'll check in with their opinion first and then I'll have an opinion of my own.

Reading this enlightening chapter I realise I never knew what co-dependence actually was!
Feb 17, 2021 09:02AM
Setting Boundaries Will Set You Free: The Ultimate Guide to Telling the Truth, Creating Connection, and Finding Freedom


Claire
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Step 2: Taking a boundary inventory
bottom line, non-negotiables, the bottom of pyramid
Middle - Good to haves
cherry on top, peak

Studies correlate self-sacrifice with depression & high stress. Nicer, more sensitive people likely to be depressed more than those who are more selfish.

Saying "yes" when wanting to say no amplfies inner conflict.

It's nobody else's job to maintain or respect your boundaries.
Feb 10, 2021 02:47AM
Setting Boundaries Will Set You Free: The Ultimate Guide to Telling the Truth, Creating Connection, and Finding Freedom


Claire
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Step 1: It's not about about another's behaviour, it's about how we take care of ourselves if the behaviour continues
When we're committed to people pleasing, our lives are largely a lie.

"There comes a point when you either embrace who and what you are, or condemn yourself to be miserable all your days. Other people will try to make you miserable; don't help them by doing the job yourself."
Laurell K Hamilton
Feb 10, 2021 02:43AM
Setting Boundaries Will Set You Free: The Ultimate Guide to Telling the Truth, Creating Connection, and Finding Freedom


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Chapter a Day Read for February
Intro:
boundary: a limit you set to define what you will and will not do or accept or tolerate from others.
The body feels pain
The heart/emotions feel anger, sadness, hurt
green, yellow red zones
Setting boundaries: naming the limits that already exist
physical, emotional, energetic, mental, material
Step 1: Own That It's You Who's Been Crossing Your Boundaries
Feb 06, 2021 04:45AM
Setting Boundaries Will Set You Free: The Ultimate Guide to Telling the Truth, Creating Connection, and Finding Freedom


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