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Non Book Talk > Hey, chickies, remember my post about a former friend at my new job?

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message 1: by Jackie (new)

Jackie (findingjackie) | 214 comments I thought I should give you guys an update..

She left the company earlier this month! I was really shocked. She's worked there about 7 or 8 years. I'm not really sure what happened. She either put in her 2 week and they told her to go ahead and leave without working out her notice or it was a "leave or you're fired" deal. I'm not really sure which. She signed up for some extra activities that the company sponsors early in the week, so it seemed like every thing was normal. Then, literally, the next day, we got an email saying effective that day, she had decided to pursue opportunities outside the company. She was escorted out (I heard, not sure how true that is) and there were still personal items on her desk in her office and then they changed the door security code. They've changed it before, after people have left but usually only if there were some kind issue with the way the person left..temps come and go all the time without a door code change.

Everyone in her dept is very tight lipped about it. When someone asked one of them about it, she basically said she was told it was her job if any of the details were to become known. Then, of course, since people know I had that former connection to her, they flocked to my desk and wanted to know what happened. But I have no clue at the moment.

I do still talk to her husband every once in a while (once every month or so). By tacit agreement, we don't really discuss my former friend. Sometimes he'll volunteer small bits of information, like once he made a comment about an upcoming surgery she was having and I make some generic polite comment and that's the end of it. We talk about her so little, I didn't even know she was working at the place where I was going for my temp assignment, although he did call me after my name appeared on the company phone list to tell me congratulations, so I know she must have told him I had gotten hired on. So, I do have some friends who are telling to call him and find out already. But I guess now I don't have to worry about what to do about her. I had gotten her a small Christmas gift as a "thank you" for going to bat for me. Now I'm not sure what to do with it.

message 2: by Amanda (new)

Amanda (randymandy) | 467 comments Give it to her anyway. (Mail it, I guess.) I say don't call to find out what happened just to satisfy your coworkers' curiosity. Seems kinda like a bitch-ass thing to do--asking you to call him to find out. Nosy!

Either way, it's soooo mysterious! Maybe she went to a competitor. At the firm where I used to work, when people went to competitors, they were "escorted" out within, like, 5 minutes of turning in their resignation.

message 3: by Holli (new)

Holli How strange Jackie....and I agree with Amanda about mailing the present. That would be nice!

message 4: by Robyn (new)

Robyn (roxy_nj) | 354 comments I agree. She still helped you get the job so the thank you gift would still be nice. A little ironic I guess (is ironic the right word) but still nice.

And as for finding out what happened....As much as we all want to know (call it gossip-need, call it curiosity) I don't think it is right to call the husband just to find that out since you normally don't discuss her. Now if you happen to talk to him in the near future I think inquiring about her wellbeing is ok, since its sounding like something happened but no digging for details.

message 5: by April (new)

April (contusions96) I would still give it to her whether you mail it or give it to her husband.

I agree with Amanda that she probably went to a competitior. Its not unusual for a person to be terminated immediately and escorted out in that situation.

I also agree with everyone who said to not ask the husband what happened. If you were calling her as a friend and kept what you learned to yourself, that would be one thing but I wouldn't call just to satisfy your coworkers' curiosity.

message 6: by Leslie (new)

Leslie Hickman (bkread2) | 233 comments Trust me if her department is being tight lipped its not a good sign. If she went to a competitor that would have already slipped out by someone. I am in HR where I work and trust me nothing stays too slient its always discussed by someone even if just the managers or between associates who are friends with each other. If its tight lipped they are afraid of consequences if anything gets out. If the company you work for is having some problems maintaining key employees from certain competitors then that could be the reason for being tight lipped but not ususally. I would not say anything to her, but would still give the thank you present. If she wants to open up then let her make the first move definitely. If you still speak with the husband maybe its a way she is getting feedback to see if you are receptive to talking.

message 7: by Jackie (new)

Jackie (findingjackie) | 214 comments You guys are right, I'm so not asking her husband about it. He may volunteer it the next time we talk, as he does from time to time and I'll leave it to him to decide if he wants to discuss or not.

Although the people at work now think I must know what happened and I'm just refusing to dish the details, I honestly don't know. Now, I'm a position of trying to find a tactful way of telling them shove off about it. Even if he tells me, it's not like I'm going back to work and repeating it, so I guess in a way they're right, so I can't get too cranky about it.

I didn't think about mailing her present, but I that's a great idea and I'll send it with his Christmas card. thanks for the idea!

Bloomin’Chick (Jo) aka The Eclectic Spoonie (bloominchick) I don't know how I missed this thread! What an unexpected turn of events!

message 9: by Jackie (new)

Jackie (findingjackie) | 214 comments Well, and the home number and cell number I had for the Mr. are not in service anymore either. I don't have the address to mail her present so, eh.

Bloomin’Chick (Jo) aka The Eclectic Spoonie (bloominchick) Well, that's odd. Huh.

I think it's best to "let sleeping dogs lie" as they say and just let the Christmas thing go for now. If you ever see her or him again, make your appreciation known then.

Really makes you wonder thoug doesn't it? Ah well, if you're meant to know what's happened, one day you will, if you're not meant to know, it's probably for the best!

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