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message 1: by RandomAnthony (new)

RandomAnthony | 14536 comments What do people assume about you based on appearance/first impressions/minimal interaction?

1) I play basketball. This is true.

2) I'm good with computers. I'm not sure from where this comes, but I've had neighbors, etc. ask me for computer advice enough that this pattern is not coincidental. I'm like...what the fuck? Is this because I have glasses? Go ask the short bald guy across the street, he's way better with computers than me.

3. Since I teach, I must not teach little kids. No, this used to be more when I was an elementary school reading specialist. Because no man could work with little kids, of course...

You?


message 2: by janine (new)

janine | 7715 comments they either think i am retarded because i don't say much or think i am supersmart because the things i do say sound intelligent.


message 3: by Kevin (new)

Kevin  (ksprink) | 11469 comments 1) that i am a tough guy. this is true. LOL. just kidding. i think because i have a shaved head, tattoo, bigger frame, odd facial hair usually, wear mostly only jeans, boots and t-shirt and ride a motorcycle that i am a thug of some sort.

2) people do not see me as an intellect. partially true. i am well read, not well educated. when i see people in the library that don't really know me they seem shocked that i am there. i go there about twice a week but they must think i am there getting chilton manuals

3) that i am not quite as old as i am. especially when i am with my adult children. i am ok with this misconception

4) that i am a partier. must just be my look. i used to be but now i am content to stay somewhere quiet. while in New Orleans last week in the evenings i hung out with a 72 yr old cub fan i met there eating dessert and having coffee while Bourbon St blared around the corner


message 4: by Phil (new)

Phil | 11549 comments I have no idea what they're thinking, but it may be that I'm "safe." Apparently I'm very approachable and non-threatening. If I were out with Kevin, observers would be so conflicted ("nice guy:thug") their heads would explode.

When I'm out with my kids, strangers probably think I'm either pervy or a grandpa. My daughter is 23, my son is seven -- they think she's the mom.


message 5: by Sally, la reina (new)

Sally (mrsnolte) | 17319 comments Mod
What is a chilton manual?


message 6: by Sally, la reina (new)

Sally (mrsnolte) | 17319 comments Mod
When people first meet me they usually think they have met me before. I get this a lot: "You look so familiar to me! Did you go to ____ high school? no? What about college? _____? no? Do you know ______?" It eventually makes me feel like a failure because I can't answer their questions positively.


message 7: by [deleted user] (new)

Sally wrote: "What is a chilton manual?"

Repair manuals for cars, trucks etc.


message 8: by Félix (new)

Félix (habitseven) That really sucks, Sally.


Tim (Mole) The Gunslinger (Mole) Well I would have to say that im a big mean guy until they discover that teddy bears are probably scarier! lol and for some reason people have a unhealthy and very unwanted need to open up to me I must look like Dr Phil to them and trust me Im not even close to looking acting or thankfully sounding like old lets dig through white trash america phil!


message 10: by Gus (new)

Gus Sanchez (gussanchez) I think people initially would see me as confident and self-assured. Once they really get to know me, they'll realize their first impressions were horribly wrong.


message 11: by Kevin (new)

Kevin  (ksprink) | 11469 comments thank you jim. i like to leave obscure references in my comments


message 12: by Sally, la reina (new)

Sally (mrsnolte) | 17319 comments Mod
A whole bookstore of them? Wowza! Dude reader heaven.


message 13: by Félix (new)

Félix (habitseven) A well-used Chilton manual will have lots of greasy fingerprints on the pages.


message 14: by [deleted user] (new)

Can ugly dudes still go to pretty dude heaven?


message 15: by Sally, la reina (new)

Sally (mrsnolte) | 17319 comments Mod
It sounds like a store one might want to wear gloves in. Not kid leather gloves either.


message 16: by Kevin (new)

Kevin  (ksprink) | 11469 comments earlier sally didn't know what a chilton manual was and now she is talking about them. i love this group.


message 17: by Kevin (new)

Kevin  (ksprink) | 11469 comments nicely done.


message 18: by Rannie (new)

Rannie I seem to project sunday school teacher. I can be out around people drinking, yet they'll frown at me when I order a drink or drop the f word in passing. So a note to the under 30 crowd. Those hippies you've seen in old clips from the 60's? We're now old enough to look like your grandmother.


message 19: by Misha (new)

Misha (ninthwanderer) Bun said: Boring lesbian is apparently the vibe I project.

I think I project this vibe, too. I also know what a Chilton manual is, and once owned one when I drove a 1990 Ford Escort circa 2000. I've been thinking I should get one for the car I'm driving now. I don't do repairs myself, but I like the ability to try to figure out what's wrong and sound like knowledgeable when I go to the mechanic.

People think I'm serious and uptight with no sense of humor, that I'm unapproachable, which is all a product of shyness that just gets further reinforced when no one talks to me at a party and actually gets to sample my sparkling wit.


Jackie "the Librarian" | 8993 comments I get asked directions a lot when I'm out walking, so I must just look like someone you're supposed to ask questions of. Like, a librarian, maybe?
People also assume I'm smart, I think because of the glasses


message 21: by Félix (new)

Félix (habitseven) I've always liked boring lesbians.


message 22: by Félix (new)

Félix (habitseven) I will. Thanks!


message 23: by Sally, la reina (new)

Sally (mrsnolte) | 17319 comments Mod
What's the deal with your new av, Larry?


message 24: by Félix (new)

Félix (habitseven) I wanted to show how progressive I am.


message 25: by Lori (new)

Lori I think people used to assume that I was snobby, because I was shy, don't do well in groups, and therefore was rather quiet. It was either that, or your typical dumb blond.

Now I don't care, and also don't go out as much, but I know when I was a regular at the dog park people assumed I was a social director type because I would welcome new people and draw them out introducing them to the other regulars. Some kind of super extrovert. HA! I'm only like that because it's the only social activity I have!

Also people think I'm a crazy older women, because I like to chat with total strangers, like waiting on line at stores. When people chat back, we have a wonderful time connecting.


message 26: by Lobstergirl, el principe (new)

Lobstergirl | 23887 comments Mod
Jackie "the Librarian" wrote: "I get asked directions a lot when I'm out walking, so I must just look like someone you're supposed to ask questions of. Like, a librarian, maybe?
People also assume I'm smart, I think because of ..."


People always ask me directions too. Constantly.

Other than that, I think people assume I'm a born-again Christian transsexual with rage issues, yet who loves puppies and the elderly. They assume I have silicone butt implants but that is not true - it's just wads of cash. The combination of muttonchop sideburns, big shoulder pads, and scary halitosis makes people think I am a former gameshow host who enjoys Civil War re-enactments and Dynasty.


message 27: by Barb (new)

Barb I think people probably think I'm snotty because I'm not terribly outgoing when I'm with people I don't know. Also, I am kind of snotty ... so there's some truth to it.
Beyond that, I have no idea what people think of me ... other than, "holy crap, is that a really short adult or a kid?"


message 28: by Ken (new)

Ken (playjerist) | 721 comments I suspect I give off the aura of landless, degenerated royalty, a sort of Peter O’ Toole on Oxycontin vibe. I would, as a straight male cherish the accomplishment of being perceived as a boring lesbian, and in fact I intend to shoot for that perception from today forward.


message 29: by [deleted user] (new)

Barb wrote: "I think people probably think I'm snotty."

A hanky will help with that Barb.


message 30: by Barb (new)

Barb har-dee-har-har


message 31: by Phoenix (new)

Phoenix (phoenixapb) | 1619 comments LMFAO...I just had coffee shoot out my nose reading your post LG...that shit burns by the way!

Back to the question...
People assume that I am much younger than I am, 17 or 18 is the usual guess. They also think my children are my younger brother and sister. I've been told I should be thankful for my youthful looks, but things like having the truancy police called on me and not being able to purchase alcohol without two forms of ID has taken all the pleasure out of the fact that I don't look my age.
People also assume I'm a goody-two-shoes and very innocent...anyone that knows me at all knows this couldn't be further from the truth.


message 32: by Joanne (new)

Joanne (bonfiggi) Lots of people assume I want to hear about their problems.


message 33: by Brittomart (last edited Nov 10, 2010 04:56PM) (new)

Brittomart Lots of people assume that I don't like them when I first meet them, and my friends say that I do come off a bit strong if someone doesn't know me. I say grow some balls, but whatever.

They also think that I'm mean because I'm not shy and I'm not afraid to speak my mind, but once they realize that I'm really easy to talk to, and I make them laugh a couple of times, they realise that I'm not mean....until they piss me off, and then shit gets handled. OH! And they think I'm older than my friends. maybe it's because I have a little facial hair and I'm bigger than my friends, but actually, I'm younger than most of them. Oh, and they think I'm funny, which is true.


message 34: by Sarah (new)

Sarah | 13815 comments Hmmm...guys at shows tend to think I'm straight. I get a lot of free drinks at shows.

Other than that, I don't have a very good idea of how I'm perceived.


message 35: by ms.petra (last edited Nov 11, 2010 12:49PM) (new)

ms.petra (mspetra) @Alecia, you will be thankful when your kids are 20 and people still think you are the sister. :)
@Joanne, you would not believe some of the things people on my route tell me.
I am not a joiner, so people think I am stand-offish.


message 36: by Jim (new)

Jim | 6485 comments You joined here, and I don't think your stand-offish!


message 37: by ms.petra (new)

ms.petra (mspetra) in the real world, I mostly keep to myself except for talking to my customers.


message 38: by Joanne (new)

Joanne (bonfiggi) That's why I watch LA Ink ms. petra, I'm fascinated by tattooers perceived as psychiatrists by the customers. What kind of route do you have ? What's the average age of the customers ?


message 39: by Jan (new)

Jan | 241 comments I don't know what people think of me. They don't tell me.


message 40: by ms.petra (last edited Nov 11, 2010 04:36PM) (new)

ms.petra (mspetra) Joanne wrote: "That's why I watch LA Ink ms. petra, I'm fascinated by tattooers perceived as psychiatrists by the customers. What kind of route do you have ? What's the average age of the customers ?"

mail route. I would guess 50 as an average age. It is a transitioning neighborhood. By that I mean all the old people are either dying or moving to nursing homes and yuppies buy the houses, tear them down, and put up mini mansions. I have been on this route for 1.5 yrs. My last route for 7yrs in a very posh area with lots of independently wealthy, work from home, travel a lot customers. They were also often bored and chatted me up about everything from a trophy wife complaining about her husband's inability to perform and the wonders of Viagra to a middle-aged man's dating adventures in the Phillippines complete with nude pictures of his conquests. Seriously, some of this stuff would make a great book!


message 41: by Dr. Detroit (new)

Dr. Detroit | 6001 comments ms.petra wrote: "Seriously, some of this stuff would make a great book!"

So get started already!


message 42: by Joanne (new)

Joanne (bonfiggi) Wow, I just say hi to my mail deliverer.


message 43: by Sarah (new)

Sarah | 13815 comments My mailman, Dan, came by with his kids on Halloween a few years ago. He was dressed as Superman, with the fake muscles and everything. I said he shouldn't give anyone the wrong idea because he was steady but Superman would be FAST. Plus he could x-ray read all your mail.


message 44: by Kate (new)

Kate (kateharper) | 206 comments Larry wrote: "I've always liked boring lesbians."

How many have you bored?


message 45: by Kate (new)

Kate (kateharper) | 206 comments I just realized that could have been taken in two different ways. By bore, I mean make yawn and want to go do something more exciting.


message 46: by Félix (new)

Félix (habitseven) I've lost count, Kate.


message 47: by Brittomart (new)

Brittomart Good one.


message 48: by ms.petra (new)

ms.petra (mspetra) Larry, regardless of what you said in the "comeback" thread, you sir, are a master!


Anna Freja Korvin | 11 comments Hmm. I'm not sure what people think of me? I assume something like the dumb blonde stereotype xD
and then I prefer to smile to everybody I make eye contact with, so I get a lot of comments, smalltalk and questions when I'm out.. :)


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